"As Time Goes On It Feels Less And Less Like Xmas"
I'm not sure if it's because of the economy and ppl not having the money to buy expensive toys for their kids who really only play w/them for abt a week and then move on to something else or if it's because of the stressing out ppl tend to do over buying gifts for family members who a lot of time are more concerned with if you paid less for her gift than you did your other auntie or cousin
Where I'm at there's hardly any houses w/lights up
Even for those of us who have long stopped celebrating Christmas, there was still a certain benevolence you felt from ppl around this time of year (if it was only for a few days)
Now the "holiday" has clearly been made of mockery of w/how foolish ppl act during Blk Friday
Starting to feel more and more like any ol day off...at least imo
2. "or you're getting further and further from the fantasy aspect of Xmas" In response to Reply # 0
b/c you're aging.
i dunno that Xmas has really changed all that much - considering way back in 1960whenever the folks who created Charlie Brown's Xmas special were moaning and whining about how commercial the holiday had become.
to me that says ppl have bitched about commercializing Xmas even when i thought Xmas was just magic and good will and great presents. back when i thought the whole Western world stopped everything to recognize the holiday ppl were still whining and complaining about the holiday.
i think this complaint is an integral part of Xmas. i don't think Xmas is changing all that much - or it's not changing for the worst.
so i've decided to accept the holiday season for what it is. it's been this way since i've known it i just didn't recognize it until i got older.
13. "The fantasy aspect of Xmas ended for me when I found out at 9 yrs" In response to Reply # 2
old that Santa Claus wasn't real lol
But uh nah, man, I do think what you're saying holds true for a lot of ppl the older they get though
And I wasn't aware of but I can believe that there's always been that contingent who complained abt the commercialism and materialism of Xmas
But from what I've read recently (like the last 4 to 5 yrs or so) there's been a growing trend of fewer Americans celebrating the day for all sorts of reasons - so there's some statistics that show why the day is losing some of its appeal
>b/c you're aging. > >i dunno that Xmas has really changed all that much - >considering way back in 1960whenever the folks who created >Charlie Brown's Xmas special were moaning and whining about >how commercial the holiday had become. > >to me that says ppl have bitched about commercializing Xmas >even when i thought Xmas was just magic and good will and >great presents. back when i thought the whole Western world >stopped everything to recognize the holiday ppl were still >whining and complaining about the holiday. > >i think this complaint is an integral part of Xmas. i don't >think Xmas is changing all that much - or it's not changing >for the worst. > >so i've decided to accept the holiday season for what it is. >it's been this way since i've known it i just didn't recognize >it until i got older. >
4. "Anyone used to dress up for Christmas dinner?" In response to Reply # 0
Apparently that was a thing in previous generations. That completely died off with my generation. And like the OP said....the overall benevolence that came with the holidays is mostly gone and that has nothing to do with me growing up. People don't care as much about showing good will to each other at the same level they did years ago. It seems that everyone keeps their blinders on as they lead themselves from sale to sale.
5. "i didn't put up a tree last year or this year" In response to Reply # 0
I think my son's father knew I wasn't going to do it this year either so he did it himself. He also rearranged the living room and bought most of the toys. I bought necessities like a new car seat. And I told him I didn't want to get gifts for him and I until after christmas.
I really don't want he and I to exchange gifts at all.
Having pink eye doesn't help. But before that I wasn't in the Christmas mood. I was looking forward to making a cake but I don't want to do that now because of my pi k eye.
I am glad he put up the tree though because it's pretty to look at when I get sad. ♥♥Church Diva♥♥
17. "RE: sucks having pink eye " In response to Reply # 5
>I think my son's father knew I wasn't going to do it this >year either so he did it himself. He also rearranged the >living room and bought most of the toys. I bought necessities >like a new car seat. And I told him I didn't want to get gifts >for him and I until after christmas. > >I really don't want he and I to exchange gifts at all. > >Having pink eye doesn't help. But before that I wasn't in the >Christmas mood. I was looking forward to making a cake but I >don't want to do that now because of my pi k eye. > >I am glad he put up the tree though because it's pretty to >look at when I get sad. >♥♥Church Diva♥♥
14. "I read on the Huffingtonn post as far back as 09 that there was a " In response to Reply # 10
growing trend of Americans not celebrating xmas - some due to economic reasons while others is because less and less ppl are identifying w/Christianity therefore they don't recognize the day as a holy occasion
I do think the perception of ppl celebrating the day probably varies from city to city but overall I've felt this way just based on the last few cities/countries I've lived in
Although as a kid, you're mostly concerned w/what toys, bike you were going to get more than anything else but I do remember in my household there still being a certain reverence for what the day was actually supposed to be abt which is the birth of Christ - I don't get that sense nowadays even amongst many Christains, now it seems the day is more abt making sure you get ppl the right gift
I lived in a middle class neighborgphood last year in Atlanta where most of the homewowners were older blk folks and I remember this time last year that there were far more ppl who DIDN'T have xmas lights up vs those that did...because I normally look for the homes decorated w/lights and was kinda surprised that so few homes had xmas lights up
>shit on fleek, naan parking spaces >and it's cold rainy and the middle of a work day >every house on the block bling blinging with lawn jockeys and >lights as well >probably depends on your community
16. "Mine too - been that way for at least 2 and 1/2 decades w/my family" In response to Reply # 11
because some of my family members didn't celebrate xmas...and oftentimes if you have kids you tend to want to stay home so the kids can play w/their toys (when I went to another relatives house for Xmas, I could only take one toy)
>That's the day everybody HAS to get together. Christmas is >optional
21. "i like the convivial aspect of this time of year" In response to Reply # 0
it's neither religious nor consumerist for me and hasn't really been for quite some time. one side of my family don't celebrate, and i don't really do gifts among my adult friends/family, so we just try to get together & have dinner/drinks. growing up, new year's eve was always a bigger deal to my parents & their friends due to its secular nature.