I'm really about to cuss her Mother and her FIL out.

We have asked about Xmas plans for weeks. This weekend we got a call from a young cousin who NEVER calls us asking if we are coming to the coast for Xmas.

2 days later her mom text that she is going to be out of town for Xmas.

Now my wife is on some Will Smith "why don't they want me?" and I'm ready for war.

My wife is the black sheep of her fam. I've seen her mother and older sister try to back her into a corner on some bullshit and I had to step in and let them know that shit won't be tolerated anymore.

I think it's crazy for a parent to turn their back on you because you aren't living your life the way they want you to live it.

Marrying you?

real dancer not skripper. They felt like she should have given it up years ago and became a lawyer or a doctor.

and now they are mad at her now for being HAPPILY married

Her sister married a white guy "for the good hair" and spent the first 5 years bitching and moaning about this white dude being a lazy bum.

my wife said "I'm tired of everyone acting like my sister was forced to marry her husband"

her mother turned to her and said "now everyone can't be so lucky and have the perfect loving relationship that you have with your husband"

>real dancer not skripper. They felt like she should have
>given it up years ago and became a lawyer or a doctor.
>
This petty and unfortunate as shit. But do you and your wife really think that if your wife had a jd or md behind her name that her mom and sis would support her? Or proceed to nitpick about something else? Meh thinks that it's some other underlying issues that have nothing to do with your wife or her choices but issues that lie within themselves.

>and now they are mad at her now for being HAPPILY married
>
>Her sister married a white guy "for the good hair" and spent
>the first 5 years bitching and moaning about this white dude
>being a lazy bum.
>
>my wife said "I'm tired of everyone acting like my sister was
>forced to marry her husband"
>
>her mother turned to her and said "now everyone can't be so
>lucky and have the perfect loving relationship that you have
>with your husband"

Is she wrong tho? Lol mom and sis already know that sis fucked up. These people have something that is broken within themselves and I'm not sure if that can be fixed by outside parties. As a husband I know you only have your wife's best interest at heart, but cussing them out won't fix these damaged individuals or heal relations between them and your wife, might make you feel better tho.

you right tho. It's something she is going to have to address and she already text that she is going to call her mom.

I used to think my wife was paranoid when she said she was the black sheep but then I sat back on one visit and just watched how they interacted.

Even my BIL was like "damn, I feel bad for your wife. They treat her like shit"

>real dancer not skripper. They felt like she should have
>given it up years ago and became a lawyer or a doctor.
>
>and now they are mad at her now for being HAPPILY married
>
>Her sister married a white guy "for the good hair" and spent
>the first 5 years bitching and moaning about this white dude
>being a lazy bum.
>
>my wife said "I'm tired of everyone acting like my sister was
>forced to marry her husband"
>
>her mother turned to her and said "now everyone can't be so
>lucky and have the perfect loving relationship that you have
>with your husband"

Or are they on some Jack & Jill shyt?

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stand ur ground, believe in urself,
believe in love, prepare urself for love, remove the negativity from ur life, and accept the love u kno u deserve

my wife has issues with her damn parents also.

Dad was never really around. He doesnt call, text, email, none of that shit.
Mom is cold. we invited her to our son's christening. She didn't attend bc she's not into church (or for whatever other reasons). She didn't call my wife (who she talks to daily) for like 4 days before and 4 days after the christening to avoid being asked about attending or asked why she didnt attend. this was before Thanksgiving. She JUST texted my wife for the first time in weeks the other day. She had unfriended her on FB and all that dumb shit.
She talking about 'can you bring the kids over on Xmas." I'm like 'yall can go ahead"

It's like they say, when you marry you marry the whole damn family!!! I have been married twice and I know that this can be a very serious problem that could eventually break up your relationship with you and your wife.

I feel that your wife is the one that has to straighten out her own mother. If your wife doesn't, there is not a lot that you can do but make yourself look bad in your new families eyes.

I have been there, done that and I hope that everything works out alright for you and your wife !!!


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I'm more of a "lets have fun for 2 or 3 days and bounce"

as much as your wife might want xmas to be with her family..its evident its not going down like that. Make your own plans and be on your own schedule. Let them get in where they fit in next year.


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You posting in a hoe's tone (c) monkeynuts

that has her feelings hurt

my moms mad i have alot of help with my son(something she doesn't didnt have with us)
my wifes mom lives with us

mom is mad i put my wife and son are priority

its crazy

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Navem nu, cuando sol
Tutu nu, vondo nos nu
Vita em, no continous non
Nos nu ekta nos sepe ta, amen

When the sun shades the ship
We sweat and life is not safe
To swim or to touch not
When we unite we hedge amen

keeping lots of distance between you and them.

Like if you got to smile and be nice only a couple times of year, it's worth doing.

I also try to avoid getting into intra-family beef and try to be supportive (helping her see her own fam in the best light), lest they heal up their beef and then be mad at you.


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but when a MIL wants to manipulate every situation to her benefit eventually you will fall out of favor.

My BIL and I sit around at functions like "man, we picked some beautiful women with some ugly family baggage"

In law issues are tough. We've been trying to get into a new house over the past year in part to deal with those issues. First they tried to scare us out of moving, then told us we had to sell first before buying otherwise we could end up in financial trouble. Then after we've bought and were trying to sell were pressuring us to hold out for top dollar, never mind the financial trouble they warned us about earlier.

Oh, they also reduced Mrs Seal to tears over the first house we were interested in, which scuttled our efforts to get into a central area because prices are moving so fast and my wife's pretty fussy as it is.

But we bought two Saturdays ago, just sold on Monday for 300K above where we purchased, and will be living across town in the new year. So their interference has led to us living 30mins away instead of 10.

Just IMO though.

I don't mind family but I can't have them in my house telling me the grass looks like it needs to be cut or I need to do XYZ.

>I don't mind family but I can't have them in my house telling
>me the grass looks like it needs to be cut or I need to do
>XYZ.

That irks me. Plus bet they don't keep their houses magazine ready either.

Just IMO though.

fuck them
show your wife YOU her family
you ain't putting baby in the corner.
YOU love her
and it ain't no conditional, sometimey love neither.

stay home.
begin new traditions.
fuck them niggas.