this is what i remind myself when i think about contacting him.

we are creeping up on christmas
and we spent last christmas together
so now i find myself thinking of dumb texts to send like
"how have you been?"
or "i heard this song i know you'll like"

and then maybe that will start a correspondence
and maybe we'll meet for dinner
and maybe he'll suggest getting together later
and maybe we could hang out over New Years

but that's a stupid fantasy because nobody dumps ppl
because they want to hear or see from them more often
so really i need to chill.


it's been months since i've bumped into him
and when i did bump into him he said "it seems like it's been forever since
we've talked."

which is true. because he broke up with me.
presumably because he wanted to see less of me.

how come every so often, you'll think about an ex
and start having these delusions about how they may want to
"hang out" or "see how things are going."

there's no need for any of this.
if he wanted to hear from me, he'd call.

thank you.

here for dis.

>there's no need for any of this.
>if he wanted to hear from me, he'd call.
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Once I got this to sink in, it was a lot easier. Cause it really isn't all that complicated.

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fuck you.

why text someone who doesn't want you?
you gotta move on....you gotta move on


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i could still see him by popping in
on the place where he's a bartender.

but i won't do that because that's tired and played.

i like the bar, and i do miss going.

but fuck that.

that didnt happen to me but a friends dating dealings lost me my favorite bar. lol.

man i used to be there all the time

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>but i won't do that because that's tired and played.


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one day you'll think lesser thoughts
different thoughts.
and maybe you'll always think those "what if he" scenarios
but he'll only co-star in your thoughts.

you're allowed a little fantasy.

..I'd say sometimes people dump people to get people at the right distance from them. Like I was cool when we talked every couple of weeks but have to dump you because you want to talk every day.

All that to say, a person might be cool with the occasional text or call, but have no interest in going back to where y'all were.

Now is any of this healthy for someone you are trying to move on from? Hells naw.


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maybe not even every week, tbh.
but what i do need is the feeling of being wanted by the ppl i pursue relationships w/.

everybody needs that.

dumping me communicates the exact opposite message.
which is cool.

it happens.

that's no reason for me to see him.


>..I'd say sometimes people dump people to get people at the
>right distance from them. Like I was cool when we talked
>every couple of weeks but have to dump you because you want to
>talk every day.
>
>All that to say, a person might be cool with the occasional
>text or call, but have no interest in going back to where
>y'all were.
>
>Now is any of this healthy for someone you are trying to move
>on from? Hells naw.
>
>
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>they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
>
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>maybe not even every week, tbh.
>but what i do need is the feeling of being wanted by the ppl i
>pursue relationships w/.
>
>everybody needs that.
>
>dumping me communicates the exact opposite message.
>which is cool.
>
meaning, once a romantic relationship has ended, there's no room for something platonic?

i'm on a case by case basis with it. some exes i'm on friendly or cordial terms with. that phase is only possible when the feelings have subsided on both sides. other exes are so far from sight and mind, i barely remember their names.

if you're still pining for this person then stay away.
if you have moved on, there might be a casual friendship worth salvaging.

i seem to be in the minority with this thinking though...lol

always putting someone elses wants before your own.

if they aint on your taxes, then your wants supersede theirs.

you wanna holla @ that fool, holla @ em. yeah he might reject you. he might igg the shit out of you. thats what he does, you cant control that. but this holier than thou emotional martyr shit im reading...naw dog. yeah yall cussed each other out all them months ago. that shit happened in march, its december. time to hug it out, bitch.


does it really matter?

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"i want you, and i want you to want me too.
want you to love me to-- just like i want you."

the thing is you can't fake that, it either is or isn't.

so it's not so much about fearing rejection it's definitely not about if he'll be
irritated if i call.

but if i wanted him,
and he didn't want me,

that's a fundamentally un-fixable problem.

it won't matter if we have a great conversation
or if we hook up once or twice.

that elephant is still in the room
and i should focus my attention on one of the
other billions of ppl on the planet.

i mean whats the alternative, dude? you got hoes growing on trees? doubtful. the grass aint greener its just more grass. youre afraid he'll confirm all the stuff you already know. so what if its a temp fix. better than chilling all xmas, sexless. *struggle shruggle*


does it really matter?

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here for dis.

after all, what good is life if not to suffer?


does it really matter?

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To be let down again. In that sense I think he's making the right call here

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stand ur ground, believe in urself,
believe in love, prepare urself for love, remove the negativity from ur life, and accept the love u kno u deserve

To hear from you at all, why prevent them from being enriched in some way by who u r and what u offer. They may have not wanted it "all" but that doesn't mean they don't want any of u

My ex came over two weeks ago to make me some of his chicken Mac n cheese before thanksgiving, we ended laughing watching TV and having sex lol. Good times. neither of us had any expectation of it being anymore than that. Text each other here and there . Usually about stuff we think each other might like based on the things we shared while we were together

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stand ur ground, believe in urself,
believe in love, prepare urself for love, remove the negativity from ur life, and accept the love u kno u deserve

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We used to think that if they didn't call maybe they'd lost our number, or that there's had changed.

Now there's facebook, email, twitter, instagram what not.

It helped me to know that all of those things existed and not once had I heard from her. So obviously it wasn't a matter of ability but a matter of want.

I reached out a few years ago before getting into my current relationship. Someone on here had made a post about going to facebook and noticing a friend had recently died and didn't even know.

So I emailed about that situation, nothing to reconnect (probably a little) but mainly to see if she was alive. No response. And I've been moving forward since.

She'll pop up every now and then. Old numbers pop up in the iphone (you have to select and then clear recent entries), removed from facebook, occasionally when going through old albums I have to delete comments or pictures.

She'll never be gone from my memory, but she has no place in my present and as you too move forward from your situation I hope for the best.

Maybe think of it like staying sober? You don't have to stay sober the rest of your life, just for today.

Good luck.

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but i think I agree with Bin. if you thinking about sending it just send that shit and get it over with. it's causing you more angst/energy thinking about not sending it then actually sending the damn text. just send it and get it off your mind. but just know that they aren't going to respond.
or don't send it but don't beat yourself up about wanting to contact them.