how the fuck does that work? as a giver, do you like to pay attention all year then surprise your S/O with something they mentioned? do you take requests? is Christmas the you get whatever you ask for holiday? are you one of those people who can magically pick out perfect and useful gifts every year without any help.
how do you like to receive gifts? do you like to be outward about what you want or would you rather receive a gift from the heart trusting your partner knows you? and are you happy with anything they get you as long as it shows thoughtfulness and effort.
cause even tho i'm not in a relationship, i got hit with a gift request. its not the gift that's the problem, its the request. just buying you whatever you want isn't Christmas-y to me. and maybe if it was my girl i'd feel different, but i doubt it. for real...i don't even fucking like Christmas. you should just be happy i show the fuck up for whatever stupid little Christmas thing you feel like i HAVE to participate in.
but i digress....gifts. how do you do it? --------------------------------------- it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.
1. "I'm starting to loathe Christmas for this reason" In response to Reply # 0
Mainly, because I hate getting gifts from women I'm in relationships with. It makes me feel weird, like if it's too big a gift, they're trying to gain leverage for something down the road. I've actually refused things I didn't think were appropriate.
But strangely on the flip, I try to listen or be observant as to what they may need or want and go with that. The hardest is when you're with a woman who doesn't have any specific interests and you're stuck with purses or jewelry which are boring, expensive, and easy to judge.
As for someone requesting a gift or handing me a wishlist...that's tacky as hell. I'd get them a book or something or find a way to be scarce during the holidays.
17. "Ey YOUNG!!! This cuban chick I was dating in college" In response to Reply # 11
DID THAT SAME SHIT.
I hated Ben Harper but I pretended to deal while I was getting to see her naked, but that mixtape fam. One time we're in the room goin at it, and she's like let me put this one while we do it. Fine whatever, titties, but young like half way through Datharper started playin and I lie to you not, my shit just went flat.
Like inside the pussy, FLAT, never to come back that night.
Then I found out her married Laura Dern, I hated that nigga for life.
10. "We don't really do gifts" In response to Reply # 0
We'll use it as an excuse to get new phones/computers/etc. if they're getting over the hill, that way we both get the same thing, but otherwise, when your finances are as entwined as ours are, you may as well just get what the person wants because the element of surprise is minimal.
12. "I give great gifts." In response to Reply # 0
Current boyfriend's getting Bulls-Lakers tix. I'm pretty sure he'll love them since he loves basketball, Kobe's his favorite player, and he's never seen him play live. Meanwhile, he's been asking me what I want for over a month now. I think he knows me pretty well and the things I really enjoy, so I trust he'll come up with something good.
I kinda hate explicitly spelling out what I want when it comes to gifts to men I date. It doesn't have to be anything baller, just something that shows they've paid attention to stuff I'm into or something that references a shared experience. I'm pretty transparent and generally easy to shop for if you halfway pay attention to me.
But I've always given thoughtful presents to guys I date. First guy I seriously dealt with I got him a Miles Davis biography because he's really into his music and bios and he had special significance between us. What'd he get me? Nothing. smhlol
Another ex, although we'd only been dating a couple months by the time Christmas rolled around, I figured I'd make him something he'd enjoy instead of balling out and making him feel uncomfortable. He loves ginger ale and fresh baked cookies. So I made him ginger syrup so he could make fresh, more tasty ginger ale (and the soda water to go along with it), and I batched up a bunch of chocolate chip cookies into individual sizes so he could bake them fresh as he wanted. Did he ever use either of them? Nope. At least not while we were still together (which was about 8 months down the line).
Most recent one I got him something practical. He loves a ton of ice in his drinks, so I got him some better ice trays. He was really thankful and he made me a nice dinner and gave me an awesome backrub, which was about all I expected since he was essentially unemployed at the time.
Just tryna do the best that I can with what it is I have...
23. "i'm not in a relationship but i am exchanging gifts w/someone" In response to Reply # 0 Wed Dec-10-14 10:27 AM by MzOnyxVI
i tend to listen for gift ideas throughout the year so i have a pretty good idea of what he wants
last year, though, i took him to a football game and i'd asked for a bag. prior to our gift exchange, we'd talked about what kind of bag i wanted. lets just say, i didn't get what i asked for and was sorely disappointed.
that damn bag was the source of MANY arguments. "you hate it, don't you? why aren't you carrying your bag?" blahblahblah. the irony is that once i got over the fact that it wasn't what he said he was getting, i fell in love with it and then the handle broke and we ended up exchanging it for something i liked more.
i told him this year that i don't want to discuss what he's getting me and to just surprise me. i'll appreciate the gift more if he doesn't hype it up to be something it isn't (ie - prada vs aldo).