7. "ok so u give what u get. makes sense." In response to Reply # 4
My dude specifically told me he didn't want an open relationship. I told him I didn't care either way. He specifically told me he didn't want that and why.
So the discussion is important I guess. ♥♥Church Diva♥♥
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12. "I think women are more prone to a specific kind of selfishness." In response to Reply # 0
I think a man is just more likely to say "that's my wife/gf and I gotta ride this out" when times get rough. You always hear about a woman stepping out when she's not feeling loved or whatever it's rarely just ineedsumdik.
It's peculiar because in the old days women putting up with their man's bullshit is what kept marriages together.
I don't know if that necessarily translates to being less faithful, but it's a unique type of unfaithfulness.
--- "People that need positivity around them all the time are weak individuals in my book" - @lilduval
19. "I'll admit I've cheated before" In response to Reply # 16
But usually only once in the relationship. Like in a 5 year relationship I cheated once right when we first had issues that were like make or break us. If I felt bad I worked thru it and didn't cheat again. The guilt kept me around I think.
but :/
I think everyone cheats at some point tho. Give it time and u will see. ♥♥Church Diva♥♥
33. "I was being highly sarcastic" In response to Reply # 30
I've been manipulated, emotionally abused and some of them were downright crazy, but to my knowledge no one cheated on me in any of my 4 adult relationships
sorry if this was actually the case for you though
55. "honestly for a lot of women doing it all isn't even enough" In response to Reply # 29
i'm not on some "ALL WOMEN ARE CRAZY" shit but yes most have issues that prevent them from recognizing when everything is in its place and keep them anxious.
i've seen and experienced women in great situations--cared for emotionally, super attentive dude, drops dick properly and brings in the bread--and they still wander, get involved with other people, push the guy away or some combination of that shit.
there are a lot of women who just can't stand to be happy.
And you will know MY JACKET IS GOLD when I lay my vengeance upon thee.
57. "I agree, but I react the other way" In response to Reply # 56
I can only do my part and set my example. If she can't get with that, oh well, try again with someone who can. Usually it works out for a short time, like between three and eighteen months. I'm like the microwave of boyfriends, heat it up fast, but it's kind of hard to sustain once you're not feeling it in return.
And you will know MY JACKET IS GOLD when I lay my vengeance upon thee.
58. "I have a tendency to hold on too long hoping for change" In response to Reply # 57
Especially if I recognize I've made an error somewhere.
But all I really need is a guy who appreciates me openly...so I can feel validated and wanted. I know I am a prize, but when I feel unappreciated instead of just leaving I become kinda evil. I'm too sensitive really. That is my gift and curse.
But in my current sitch I allowed myself to start a family with the guy. Something I thought I'd never do. I'm still battling with the best way to handle that decision. I never wanted to have a split family. I love the fact that my parents are still together. I want that for my children. But it has gotten to the point that I don't even look at him. Like he walks in the room and I don't even turn my head.
36. "No it isn't and never has beeen" In response to Reply # 35
You can have a million options and not take one, or you can have one option and go off the deep end and break your foot trying to get to it Some of us really need to understand that it's perfectly normal to properly evaluate yourself and what's important to you, without having to go through some sort of trauma first
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>Plus over the years I've learned to trust our nature instead >of our socially accepted playbook. > >And for the record, I like to eat ice cream on top of my >brownies. Same time.
49. "Being a guy with options... I call bullshit here..." In response to Reply # 35
Jawns who wanna get chatty with a nigga like former co-workers, cashiers, a couple other jawns around the way who wanted the digits. Seems I got more attention the more involved I got with bae.. and I still choose her every time. Minimum drama, tons of attention. Affection & making a man feel as secure as he's ever been & etc etc etc.
Question isn't so much the options out there but did you even pick a great, good or even an okay'ish option to start with to make those options worth it or not. A rich CEO always have the option of ditching prestigious firm to mopping up at a fast food joint. Packers always have the option of ditching Aaron Rodgers right now & getting another QB that's out there like a (insert bum out of work QB here). One has the option of trading their Luxury sedan for a '94 Dodge Neon straight up. Point is do you have an Audi or Aaron Rodgers level dude or do you have someone who's comparable to a Dodge Neon or a fast food janitor?
44. "If they don't want to lose a good man then no" In response to Reply # 0
If I suspect it remotely, I am going to start to acquire side pieces. I stopped doing it when I met my wife for these two important reasons. I respected her and didn't want to lose her because I assessed IMHO that she was the best out there, or in some way a throwback to a long forgotten era of fineness and character. People don't want to hear it but if you have something really good, you won't take chances. Which of you would go in to a restaurant with 40 mil in a suitcase laying on the passenger seat and leave the door unlocked? Well I would if I was going there to collect 80 billion, but other than that, I am locking the doors all the time. Someone here missed the chance but I'll say it: and with God's help I have been faithful. MLK is a better man than me, supposedly, and look at the pain he caused his family. I never say never.
Taking shots in the dark/that's a bad call Going straight for your head/ gotta saw it off
51. "Is honesty that goddamn difficult?" In response to Reply # 0
How hard is it to be upfront about needing more intimacy, wanting to spice up sex, or not feeling the same level of attraction as before?
I don't have a problem with people wanting new things, I have a problem with people not being honest with someone who trusts them. There are lots of people who just want casual sex, so why fuck with someone who wants monogamy? If you can't be faithful then own up to it. Don't try to have your cake and eat it too. That's selfish.
60. "Dude isn't living up to his marital obligations then." In response to Reply # 54
>First off someone upped this this post was made in september. >Secondly I have told him all that. Nothing has changed. > > >I'm not going to cheat thom >♥♥Church Diva♥♥
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