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Buddy_Gilapagos
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"Poll question: Do AF-Ams tend to date their skin color?"
Thu Apr-03-14 10:31 AM by Buddy_Gilapagos

  

          

I am always kind of, for lack of a better word, taken aback when I see two very light skinned people together. It just doesn't look natural to me.

Generally it seems like my light skin friends tend to seek out darker skin SOs and my darker skin friends seek out light skin SOs.

The only time I see a trend of people dating the same skin color is when folks are sort of an even middle of the road brown skin. They tend to date folks their same complexion.

I had a theory that all black people will eventually end up a sort of a middle of the road brown with enough time (all people in fact given enough time).

Anyone else notice that or am I making it up?

I am just trying to do some non-scientific research to see if there are any observable trends in skin color dating.


On an unrelated (or is it?) note: Y'all seen #desusgate? Apparently there are a growing amount of people on twitter who thinks he is white. OKP know better but not black twitter.




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Yes (4 votes)Vote
No (18 votes)Vote
Not at the extremes (2 votes)Vote

  

  

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ohhh disgonbeguud
Apr 03rd 2014
1
Maybe
Apr 03rd 2014
6
Light skinned black women don't seem to be interested in light
Apr 03rd 2014
2
Yes, I have observed this. Infact, the lighter the skin the more
Apr 03rd 2014
3
      I don't think women seek out men period...
Apr 03rd 2014
39
           Do you have any friends? If so, do you have conversations about men?
Apr 03rd 2014
57
                yep and i've only heard disdain for lightskinned men on okp
Apr 03rd 2014
68
I know what you mean (long ramble)
Apr 03rd 2014
4
You appear textbook "pecan brown" in your avi.
Apr 03rd 2014
5
Yup, I am. My face is lighter than my body in the winter
Apr 03rd 2014
8
      You look like Celia Cruz :) nm
Apr 04th 2014
72
I get that in New York too.
Apr 03rd 2014
7
i heard in Virginia there's alot of that....
Apr 03rd 2014
9
RE: i heard in Virginia there's alot of that....
Apr 03rd 2014
23
a few things:
Apr 03rd 2014
10
*jumps in* I think it's regional. In the south, mfs be color struck
Apr 03rd 2014
11
Yeah, I do associate it with retro-politics
Apr 03rd 2014
24
i don't think it's a big deal
Apr 03rd 2014
12
Sheeeeeit, that Al B. Sure era messed light skinned niggas UP
Apr 03rd 2014
15
      LOL! true... there is a slight mistrust of light men... LOL!
Apr 03rd 2014
17
      I got done wrong in 2nd grade by a light skinned boy named Dre
Apr 03rd 2014
19
      well damn
Apr 03rd 2014
20
For Black folks that exclusively date other Black folks, yep.
Apr 03rd 2014
13
This goes for me and my wiz
Jan 15th 2015
82
they date who they're attracted to
Apr 03rd 2014
14
Yeah mind digging a little deeper?
Apr 03rd 2014
21
I've never dated a "regular lightskinned" chick
Apr 03rd 2014
16
I'm middle of the road brown, and I tend to seek out darker
Apr 03rd 2014
18
It's so fucking childish and nasty
Apr 03rd 2014
22
i've seen all types of pairings
Apr 03rd 2014
25
Jay-Z is camel colored.
Apr 03rd 2014
26
^^^he's here all week, folks! Try the lambchops!
Apr 03rd 2014
27
Ding!
Apr 03rd 2014
30
Jay is light.
Apr 03rd 2014
32
      he's medium, he's darker than mary j blige who is medium
Apr 03rd 2014
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      I see him as lighter than her.
Apr 03rd 2014
40
           that's because he is.
Apr 03rd 2014
42
           not in photos...
Apr 03rd 2014
44
                oprah = jay. k den. haha
Apr 03rd 2014
62
                     oprah without war paint. yep...
Apr 03rd 2014
67
           they're all about the same...
Apr 03rd 2014
43
                lol @ all this. hence my "i'm not sure if jay is light" statement
Apr 03rd 2014
46
                i'm in that color bracket
Apr 03rd 2014
47
                Girl What? NO
Apr 03rd 2014
58
      he is not light
Apr 03rd 2014
55
           *listens to opinion of light-skinned guy*
Apr 03rd 2014
56
My whole family kept it light except for my father and his younger broth...
Apr 03rd 2014
28
I tend to gravitate towards darkskin men
Apr 03rd 2014
29
lol at #desusgate
Apr 03rd 2014
31
omg i missed that
Apr 03rd 2014
38
I've noticed this effect, too.
Apr 03rd 2014
33
me personally never cared....it's usually dark skin niggas
Apr 03rd 2014
34
fried chicken? LOL
Apr 03rd 2014
63
^^^this is it exactly
Apr 04th 2014
78
Nah...
Apr 03rd 2014
36
RE: Do AF-Ams tend to date their skin color?
Apr 03rd 2014
37
This.
Apr 03rd 2014
69
colorism is a real thing...
Apr 03rd 2014
41
^^light skint^^ aka MN tanned!
Apr 03rd 2014
70
not really, lol.
Apr 03rd 2014
45
nah my great-aunt and great-uncle are both high yellow.
Apr 03rd 2014
48
      region matters too, i think.
Apr 03rd 2014
49
           RE: region matters too, i think.
Apr 03rd 2014
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           nah
Apr 03rd 2014
60
It's interesting it's ok to say "I prefer Dark skin" but you can't
Apr 03rd 2014
50
I've had women tell me that they prefer lite-skinned men.
Apr 03rd 2014
52
i think the light-skinned women get offended by it, too.
Apr 03rd 2014
54
RE: It's interesting it's ok to say "I prefer Dark skin" but you can't
Apr 03rd 2014
53
Black male entertainers (rappers/singers/comedians etc.) say "I prefer
Apr 03rd 2014
61
yep.
Apr 03rd 2014
66
Because lighter in our case is really saying you want to be white
Apr 03rd 2014
64
      Not at all.
Apr 03rd 2014
65
This post should come with a free paper bag smh
Apr 03rd 2014
59
Ya know, it's 2014 people grow the fuck up
Apr 04th 2014
71
      The only way you could be so mad about this post
Apr 04th 2014
73
           It's completely possible to be offended by ignorance that doesn't
Apr 04th 2014
76
can chocolate honies have freckles?
Apr 04th 2014
74
Damn yall sound silly with this "2 light ppl look unnatural/weird" stuff...
Apr 04th 2014
75
yea this thread is more WSHH than it is OKP
Apr 04th 2014
77
I'm brown and my husband's dark
Apr 04th 2014
79
only pple i ever saw care were dark skinned men.
Jan 15th 2015
80
my dad's side is hella light
Jan 15th 2015
81
im light and have dated way more brown and darker skinned
Jan 15th 2015
83
same here
Jan 15th 2015
90
Edit, that came out wrong
Jan 15th 2015
84
Not at all
Jan 15th 2015
85
You get what your game allows you to get.
Jan 15th 2015
86
elaborate. In the mean time.
Jan 15th 2015
88
I don't got no type...(c) rae sremmurd
Jan 15th 2015
87
How da heck this year old post get resurrected?
Jan 15th 2015
89
I think i have admiration for both extremes
Jan 15th 2015
91
It really varies
Jan 15th 2015
92
I was just talking about this today
Jan 15th 2015
93

GHNO
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1. "ohhh disgonbeguud"
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6. "Maybe"
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Sensitive topic. But I can't quite see the angle on how this could go POAST.

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2. "Light skinned black women don't seem to be interested in light "
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skinned black dudes unless the women are AKA's or Jack & Jill types.

  

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3. "Yes, I have observed this. Infact, the lighter the skin the more"
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they seek out darker brothers I have noticed.

Except in some places in the South where All light skin everything is still popular.

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39. "I don't think women seek out men period..."
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if you see a lot of couples where the woman is lighteer, i thinlk it has more to do with men preferring to to date lighter, not women preferring to date darker.

  

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57. "Do you have any friends? If so, do you have conversations about men?"
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>if you see a lot of couples where the woman is lighteer, i
>thinlk it has more to do with men preferring to to date
>lighter, not women preferring to date darker.

Ever express any particular likes and dislikes about a man's physical appearance? Ever turned down a man who approached you for a date? Ever went out of your way to get a particular guy's attention? Ever decided not to have sex with a guy who you liked as a person, simply because you weren't attracted to him?

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68. "yep and i've only heard disdain for lightskinned men on okp"
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and mostly from men...

  

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4. "I know what you mean (long ramble)"
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I saw picture of this light bright girl I went to HS with. She married a dude who was just as light as her. It looked weird for reasons I can't quite explain.

I always was truly more attracted to darker men. Because my dad is light as hell, and so are all the men in his family. So I went for the opposite. My mom's side of the family is full of caramel colors like me. I ended up marrying darker. He's at least 3 shades darker.

And people in NYC seem to think I'm light skinned. Where in Chicago I'd never be considered light. Light skinned in NYC just means Dominican.

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5. "You appear textbook "pecan brown" in your avi."
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8. "Yup, I am. My face is lighter than my body in the winter"
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but pecan or dark caramel is about right. Next to my husband I look much lighter like this picture: http://instagram.com/p/lUmqHAipIQ/
My HS years I was always really dark cause I played soccer in the sun almost every day.

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72. "You look like Celia Cruz :) nm"
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7. "I get that in New York too."
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Here, light is anyone who's not deep brown or dark.

  

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9. "i heard in Virginia there's alot of that...."
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i kinda get what you mean though...
anyway do you feel the same offness about two really dark skin people coupled up?

  

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23. "RE: i heard in Virginia there's alot of that...."
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>anyway do you feel the same offness about two really dark skin
>people coupled up?

Not as extreme a reaction because it seems to be more common.


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10. "a few things:"
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1)i think in general Af Ams go a few shades lighter or darker depending

2) i think when ppl say two same complexion folks dont look good together its usually meaning two (really) lite skin ppl, i never really here that said about two darkskin folks together

3) some ppl also say someone really lite doesnt look good with someone really dark, so what are u gonna do

now myself, i dont really have any complexion preference except for im least likely to date a REALLY lite skin person or a REALLY dark skin person (they arent automatically disqualified tho)

my two official exes, one was dark skin and one was lite, no one ever said me and the dark skin one looked good together but a lot of ppl said me and the lite one did (we actually could pass for brothers and were asked that often lol)

i think i looked good with both of them tho



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11. "*jumps in* I think it's regional. In the south, mfs be color struck"
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and on that Jack N Jill shit...
It's pretty much an unspoken rule in well off light skin families that you don't marry outside your complexion.....
I know MANY a southern Black folks that dated/married light skin exclusively because of this unspoken rule.

  

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24. "Yeah, I do associate it with retro-politics"
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12. "i don't think it's a big deal"
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but i have meet light women who had issues with their complexion and only dated dark men. And dark men who had issues with their complexion and only dated light women.

I have not really seen dark women with complexion issues who only dated light... they would just go straight to white. And I don't have a generalization about light men... LOL!

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15. "Sheeeeeit, that Al B. Sure era messed light skinned niggas UP"
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They was so popular they was dogging women out left and right.
It's a lot of scars from that time. Women ain't forgetting that, lol.

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17. "LOL! true... there is a slight mistrust of light men... LOL!"
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19. "I got done wrong in 2nd grade by a light skinned boy named Dre"
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I was done after that!!!

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>They was so popular they was dogging women out left and
>right.
>It's a lot of scars from that time. Women ain't forgetting
>that, lol.

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13. "For Black folks that exclusively date other Black folks, yep. "
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You've summed up what I've seen. I thought this was a known cultural thing, but I maybe I'm just being Virginian

Light with dark
Medium medium
Never dark with dark
Rarely light with light

Not that it's a hard and fast rule or anything.

The only place I've seen light with light is in families in the south that have tried to "keep light" for generations by actively choosing light partners and family pressure, although even that is fading now.



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82. "This goes for me and my wiz"
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>Medium medium

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14. "they date who they're attracted to"
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21. "Yeah mind digging a little deeper?"
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As in, what is the source of that attraction? Where does it come from?
Is it subconscious or a conscious decision.


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16. "I've never dated a "regular lightskinned" chick"
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Every black woman I've dated has been significantly darker than me or biracial (I think I've said it before, but when I say lightskinned, I mean 2 black parents)

  

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18. "I'm middle of the road brown, and I tend to seek out darker"
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Probably because my family is pretty dark.


But it's odd because the litebrites love me, as is the case for nearly every outward physical quality of mine; I attract the opposite the opposite.


In other words, I have a fan club of lightskinned, short and slim dudes. It's always at least two of those qualities, LOL



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22. "It's so fucking childish and nasty"
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The whole light skin men are soft thing

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25. "i've seen all types of pairings"
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i don't think 2 light-skinned people together is as unusual as we think in our heads. and 2 dark-skinned people together is typical and unremarkable.

i know a couple who could both pass for white (seriously -- i met them out one time and overlooked them in the restaurant a few times cuz i thought they were white people), i know a real light-skinned sister married to a white dude, a real light-skinned dude married to a white woman -- and in all 3 cases their kids look straight-up white -- and i know more than a few high yellow couples and high yellow-caramel pairings.

back in the day i think it was more "transgressive" for light-skinned women to date/marry dark-skinned men, but now that it's really not, people just go off personal preference, and personal preference will either be for the same, or for opposites attract.

sidenote: are jay-z & beyonce a "light-skinned" couple? i'm not sure if jay is light-skinned or not

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26. "Jay-Z is camel colored."
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>i don't think 2 light-skinned people together is as unusual
>as we think in our heads. and 2 dark-skinned people together
>is typical and unremarkable.
>
>i know a couple who could both pass for white (seriously -- i
>met them out one time and overlooked them in the restaurant a
>few times cuz i thought they were white people), i know a real
>light-skinned sister married to a white dude, a real
>light-skinned dude married to a white woman -- and in all 3
>cases their kids look straight-up white -- and i know more
>than a few high yellow couples and high yellow-caramel
>pairings.


Well the whole thing goes out the window when marrying white. That just doesn't register as anything peculiar. I am just talking within black folks. I do notice that bi-racials tend to seek each other out which to me is the most common non-south light brite on light brite couples.




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27. "^^^he's here all week, folks! Try the lambchops!"
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legato, staccato, andante, forte, fortissimo, piano, allegro, presto.

  

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30. "Ding!"
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32. "Jay is light."
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35. "he's medium, he's darker than mary j blige who is medium"
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>

  

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40. "I see him as lighter than her."
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He's the same color as Tina Campbell from Mary Mary.

  

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42. "that's because he is. "
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44. "not in photos..."
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http://i1.sndcdn.com/artworks-000069436743-k22hev-original.jpg?435a760

http://www.yorapper.com/Photos/jay-z_mary_j_blige_tickets.gif

he's the same as oprah - medium at best

http://hiphop-n-more.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/oprah-jay-z.jpg

http://www.eonline.com/eol_images/Entire_Site/2012027/reg_1024.Jay.Beyonce.Oprah.tg.012712.jpg

  

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62. "oprah = jay. k den. haha"
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67. "oprah without war paint. yep..."
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http://www.blackvibes.com/images/bvc/11/1369.jpg

with warpaint too

http://cdn.necolebitchie.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/Oprah-and-Jay-Z-Life-Is-But-A-Dream-Premiere.jpg

  

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43. "they're all about the same..."
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>He's the same color as Tina Campbell from Mary Mary.

http://www.brooklynvegan.com/img/music2/jayzmaryj.jpg

  

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46. "lol @ all this. hence my "i'm not sure if jay is light" statement"
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black celebrity skin colors are notoriously difficult to pin down because of how they're lit. unless you're unquestionably dark or just light light bright, it all blends. i'm still not sure what color halle berry is.

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47. "i'm in that color bracket"
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if you get some sun
if women wear makeup
color of clothing
background
lighting
flash

fluctuates that lighter middle brown alot
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58. "Girl What? NO"
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>>He's the same color as Tina Campbell from Mary Mary.
>
>http://www.brooklynvegan.com/img/music2/jayzmaryj.jpg

#BYEFELICIA

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55. "he is not light"
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prototype

stand ur ground, believe in urself,
believe in love, prepare urself for love, remove the negativity from ur life, and accept the love u kno u deserve

  

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56. "*listens to opinion of light-skinned guy*"
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Go Smack yourself and then apologize to your hand for looking stupid - Case_One

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28. "My whole family kept it light except for my father and his younger broth..."
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On my fathers side. My grandma had 10 kids so I probably have 100 light skin cousins on that side. My cousins kids have light skinned kids.

I think it's a generational thing

50s earlier yeah I think ppl married their color. The color privilige thing was accepted. Light was considered more beautiful and ppl were unapologetic about it.

70s ppl were on that black and proud, black is beautiful so dating black women with brown or dark skin was okay by then. This was my father and his brother.

By the 90s the ppl preferring light skinned folk were dating/marrying white and Asian in addition to light skinned the exception is well off black ppl who expect their kids marry black so they have to go with the lightest woman possible bc a white woman would be shameful.

There are a lot of exceptions. But overall men tend to date lighter unless they're so light they can't find anyone lighter.

  

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29. "I tend to gravitate towards darkskin men "
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31. "lol at #desusgate"
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it's hilarious

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38. "omg i missed that"
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what??
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33. "I've noticed this effect, too."
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I'm a shade or two lighter than what would be considered dark-skinned around here (I'm medium-dark, lol), and I attract a lot of women with light and medium complexions. I used to joke that I was too dark for dark-skinned women to take me seriously. Also, I've even had light-skinned jawns tell me explicitly that they aren't attracted to light dudes.

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34. "me personally never cared....it's usually dark skin niggas"
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Or any complexion girls who get up n arms about complexion

Dark skin dudes tend to LOVE light skint chix

And all chix love dark skint niggas

Fried chicken colored negroes such as myself are rarely a 'preference' but we get in wherever

Lite skint chix don't give me as much rhythm as other complexions

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63. "fried chicken? LOL"
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I agree with your overall take on it.


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78. "^^^this is it exactly"
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women in general tend to like dark skin men bc it's seen as more masculine

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36. "Nah..."
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Niggas of a certain complexion remind me of my brothers and cousins, so I tend to be attracted to dudes that are darker, or much lighter.

it takes a muscle.

  

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37. "RE: Do AF-Ams tend to date their skin color?"
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Light skinned men have never approached me
Im more attracted to dark skinned men so I really don't care.


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69. "This."
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>Light skinned men have never approached me.

And if they did they were whores.

On the flip side I have to check the dating history of the dark men
I come across to make sure they aren't color-struck.

  

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41. "colorism is a real thing..."
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has always been
yet now trumped exclusively by money.

i don't consider myself to be light/lighter skinned at all
but i've had dark dudes refer to me as such and that bell goes off

it's just bananas when i hear folk *still* ascribe certain behaviours to ppl based on their skin tone.

  

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70. "^^light skint^^ aka MN tanned!"
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"A nation or civilization that continues to produce soft-minded men purchases its own spiritual death on the installment plan" (c) Martin Luther King Jr.

  

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45. "not really, lol."
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the weirdest thing is two lightskinned people tho.
typically they'll both go for extremes.

two darkskinned people is regular.

the only time you see two lightskinned people
together is if they're puerto rican.

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48. "nah my great-aunt and great-uncle are both high yellow."
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now that i think about it.

their first daughter was a beautiful dark brown-skinned sista though. their subsequent 3 kids were all the color of their parents. the daughter married a light-skinned dude and the sons both married brown-skinned women.

and the parents of one of my friends from HS were both light. he married a brown-skinned woman though.

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49. "region matters too, i think."
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b/c in the midwest & west there's a whole lot of christopher
williams-esque lightness, that's not necessarily mixty in any
direct sense.

those ppl tend to date each other, and it doesn't seem all that
strange.

when i was in atlanta, it was nothing for the deep purplest black
dude to be w/a lightskinned chick, and they were both looking
for greatness in each other.

in new york pretty much the same is true, except dark on dark
isn't so weird, whereas light on light does make you double take.

i can say that the vast majority of any 'real' hollers i get where
ppl are actually putting in some kind of work, and not just
out here for sport, seem to come from lightskinned dudes,
esp. of the spanish variety.

but conversely, i've had darkskinned dudes approach me like
'i bet you don't like darkskinned dudes, BUT---'

just leading w/defeat. which is sad yet interesting.

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51. "RE: region matters too, i think."
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>b/c in the midwest & west there's a whole lot of christopher
>
>williams-esque lightness, that's not necessarily mixty in any
>
>direct sense.
>
>those ppl tend to date each other, and it doesn't seem all
>that
>strange.

yep and those are exactly the folks i was describing in my response. real old people too, in their 60s and 70s. i think generation matters, too, per my original comment in this thread.

>when i was in atlanta, it was nothing for the deep purplest
>black
>dude to be w/a lightskinned chick, and they were both looking
>for greatness in each other.
>
>in new york pretty much the same is true, except dark on dark
>isn't so weird, whereas light on light does make you double
>take.
>
>i can say that the vast majority of any 'real' hollers i get
>where
>ppl are actually putting in some kind of work, and not just
>out here for sport, seem to come from lightskinned dudes,
>esp. of the spanish variety.

yea in my mind i think that sort of "complementarity" is more "normal" for light-skinned folks. specifically among caribbean men, my understanding is that it's almost typical for a light-skinned dude to seek out dark-skinned women.

>but conversely, i've had darkskinned dudes approach me like
>'i bet you don't like darkskinned dudes, BUT---'
>
>just leading w/defeat. which is sad yet interesting.

i think they might have experienced dark-skinned women who compensate for their color complex by chasing light men, or who process it by being on that "being mary jane"-niece thing and wanting a light-skinned dude so they'll have lighter babies.

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60. "nah "
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>in new york pretty much the same is true, except dark on dark
>isn't so weird, whereas light on light does make you double
>take.



there are all sorts of mixes that happen in NY
takes alot to double take here now and light on light isnt it

unless it was two albino midgets...
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50. "It's interesting it's ok to say "I prefer Dark skin" but you can't"
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say "I prefer light skin"?

I understand the history of course but I wonder if that will ever change.

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52. "I've had women tell me that they prefer lite-skinned men."
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Some of these women that were fucking with me at the time, some were just friends or acquaintances. I think it's just not PC for a Black man to prefer lite-skinned women.


Edit: Yeah, it's kinda wack tho to be a dark dude with a chick that watches movies just to oogle dudes like the Rock and Vin Diesel.

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54. "i think the light-skinned women get offended by it, too."
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>I think it's just not
>PC for a Black man to prefer lite-skinned women.

on some lonette-mckee-in-jungle-fever ish.

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53. "RE: It's interesting it's ok to say "I prefer Dark skin" but you can't"
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>say "I prefer light skin"?
>
>I understand the history of course but I wonder if that will
>ever change.

might not be "ok" to say "i prefer light skin" but people say it, and often.

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61. "Black male entertainers (rappers/singers/comedians etc.) say "I prefer "
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>say "I prefer light skin"?
>
>I understand the history of course but I wonder if that will
>ever change.

light-skinned women" all the time. And it's not like it started with them, that preference is something that's been part of African-American culture for a long time. Maybe it's frowned upon for an college educated adult male to express it explicitly, but really that doesn't change anything.
_________________________________________

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66. "yep. "
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64. "Because lighter in our case is really saying you want to be white"
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.

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65. "Not at all. "
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59. "This post should come with a free paper bag smh"
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mind
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Deacon Blues
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71. "Ya know, it's 2014 people grow the fuck up"
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Dumb post of the year

You want to know what shades look good together,

LOVE motherfucker LOVE

Be with who you like fuck the dumbshit

Pass on someone because they light skin or dark skin you might be missing out

If you think only one shade or ethnicity looks good, then your conditioning has been conditioned

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Buddy_Gilapagos
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73. "The only way you could be so mad about this post"
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Is if you a light skin dude and only date light skin chicks.

Otherwise, I can't see why you would be so personally offended by this post.

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Clarence Clarke
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76. "It's completely possible to be offended by ignorance that doesn't"
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personally attack you.

Many people kinda classify that as being a decent human being.


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deejboram
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74. "can chocolate honies have freckles?"
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lookin like chocolate chips

  

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Clarence Clarke
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75. "Damn yall sound silly with this "2 light ppl look unnatural/weird" stuff..."
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This is the first time I've ever heard this ridiculousness.

"Unnatural"? Really?

Jesus Christ, Black people and our color issues.
Shit's sickening.







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southphillyman
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77. "yea this thread is more WSHH than it is OKP"
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this needs a tad bit more nuance than 'that shit don't look right' for it to be a real EBP type discussion

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afrogirl_lost
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79. "I'm brown and my husband's dark"
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Lightskinned guys love me. I think its cause my hair texture
Our kids are light to medium brown with varying textures of curls. I wonder who they'll end up with.

  

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bonamie
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80. "only pple i ever saw care were dark skinned men."
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teefiveten
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81. "my dad's side is hella light"
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he kinda killed their movement and all of the kids for the most part have either dated/married darker or dated/married other races

so seeing lights together wasn't unusual for me but most people i know don't date their skin color.

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mikediggz
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83. "im light and have dated way more brown and darker skinned"
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women. but I have heard just about EVERY time..."I don't usually date/like lightskinned guys...youre the first in a long time!" im to the point where I expect it now lol.

  

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Fast Food James
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90. "same here"
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ive heard that line damn near everytime without fail...ironically only from dark chicks tho.

the light ones never brought it up or either straight up told me they prefer lightskinned.

on the other hand I've never heard a dark skin woman flat out 'say' she preferred light skin dudes, even if thats what she mostly dates

  

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Starks dunked on Bulls
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84. "Edit, that came out wrong"
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soken
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85. "Not at all"
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Being real, I don't even know if I am light skinned or Dark skinned. Plus, I don't look at skin color as a plus or minus in my book. No scale. Most women who try to get at me tend to focus on my height more than color

we keep it moving,

  

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Castro
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86. "You get what your game allows you to get. "
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Are there rules for this? Yup. But your game allows you to circumvent said rules. If you have no game, you eat whats on your plate.

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88. "elaborate. In the mean time."
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If this is headed where I think it is headed.

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87. "I don't got no type...(c) rae sremmurd"
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Light bright damn near white...

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Buddy_Gilapagos
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89. "How da heck this year old post get resurrected?"
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91. "I think i have admiration for both extremes"
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no preference really

but a very dark woman will catch my eye

as well as a very light woman

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BabyYoda
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92. "It really varies"
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One thing Inhave noticed in my environment(very important) is that I do not see many very light skinned Blacks with very dark skinned Blacks. I do not see it! I may see a light skinned Black with a medium brown skinned person and, in some cases, dark brown person, but someone who is super dark? Nope!! On some real shit, I see more super dark skinned men(and in rare occasions women) with non-Blacks than I see SDS (wo)men with SLK (wo)men. For the record, I am not suggesting said extremes does not exist, but not to the point were it is considered commonplace. My opinion is that as much some Black folks like t dismiss colorist, I think it still exists where people on both ends of the spectrum have their limitations.

  

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sixteenstone
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93. "I was just talking about this today"
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My light skinned friend married a light skinned dude. Don't see that too often. I know it happens.

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