2. "Usually red, but there's times when it would be almost rude " In response to Reply # 0
not to reply to a child looking dead at you doing the "HI!!!" thing kids like to do at a certain age. Like, sort of Scroogish and mean. But that happens to me maybe once every year and a half, or so. So, like 99.99% of the time, it's red.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 80822 posts
Fri Jul-24-15 10:55 AM
7. "it isnt, unless you look like a fucking creepy weirdo" In response to Reply # 4
I wouldn't play with a kid in a toy aisle by himself but if a baby is waving I wave back, they giggle. or say hi, I say hello...
that is it.
but I look good as fuck so that has to be acknowledged
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
10. "Alot of women go alot further than just saying hello back." In response to Reply # 7
I've seen strange women deeply engage with a child for a few minutes (which is kind of long, in that type of situation.). Granted, usually the mother is totally involved in the whole thing too, but I've never seen a man take it to that level.
17. "i personally don't like that shit male or female" In response to Reply # 10 Fri Jul-24-15 12:41 PM by SHAstayhighalways
say hello and keep it moving lol people parking up next to my shopping cart to like have a conversation with my kid i hate that. it has happened a couple of times and i will legit roll out and nervous smile so they get the picture that its not cool its always women in this case and i feel like its being a bit too extra saying a few words to a babbling kid cool stopping everything you're doing to engage a kid and idk try to get his life story or whatever idk what that's about and i don't like it its probably innocent but meh just say hi and keep pushing lady
16. "from my experience dudes have no problem saying what up to my son" In response to Reply # 4
and i haven't felt weirded out about any dudes saying hi to him *shrug* as long as you're not being or looking creepy most times the parent feeling funny about it is in your own head and i don't blame guys for feeling weird about it but i guess this is just a little bit of reassurance that not all parents are all skeeved out by men simply saying hello to their children in public
funny story tho, back in college I just got a digitial video camera so I was hype...
we are at the beach and I'm filming and this little white kid into the frame, I didn't stop filming.
all a sudden my friend screams out "Michael, oh Michael Jackson.."
and it was at that moment i realized i looked creepy as fuck.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
9. "i hate when stranger kids touch me. i'm mad tall, so whenever some kid" In response to Reply # 0
wants to reach out and touch, its always near my thigh/crotch area. I'm supersensitive about that. One time I stiff armed a kid in his forehead bc he was coming towards me with his arms outstretched for a hug. The parent didn't see but my wife was shaking her head at me.
I dn't like that ish at all.
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
12. "i wave or say hello or smile. i also make faces at babies bc i'm silly." In response to Reply # 0
my son is very much into greeting damn near everyone he comes across and most people handle it very graciously with an enthusiastic hello. most folks seem to get a kick out of it lol my son also rolls up into people's personal space in which case i'm usually right behind him pulling him away people be like 'its ok' but no it's not lol please don't give my child permission to do some shit i don't want him to do. i hate that. just because YOU don't mind doesn't mean i don't.
PoppaGeorge Member since Nov 07th 2004 10384 posts
Fri Jul-24-15 12:33 PM
14. "I don't talk to or interact with strange children without their parents" In response to Reply # 0
it's 2015 and entirely too much shit gets twisted these days. Better for me to be safe, fuck that kid and his/her happy face.
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"Where was the peace when we were getting shot? Where's the peace when we were getting laid out? Where is the peace when we are in the back of ambulances? Where is the peace then? They don't want to call for peace then.
-DJ R-Tistic- Member since Nov 06th 2008 51986 posts
Fri Jul-24-15 12:33 PM
15. "The most awkward situation I had like this was at a random game night" In response to Reply # 0
There was a two year old girl there, and I'm thinking she was one of the girl's friend's daughter. Everyone there was 24-26...and she walked by and waved, so I smiled and waved as usual. I figure I was the only one who paid her attention, so she came to me and just laid on me, and I didn't wanna push her off, but it was weird. Then, she climbed up on my lap and would not leave, even after I tried to pick her up and put her down. I had no idea who's kid she was at all, or if her dad was friends with anyone there, but I didn't know ANYONE there except my friend who brought me.
PoppaGeorge Member since Nov 07th 2004 10384 posts
Fri Jul-24-15 01:07 PM
21. "FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK ALLADAT!!!" In response to Reply # 15
You're lucky you didn't catch a molestation charge.
shoulda elbowed that kid and yelled "WHO'S CRUMBSNATCHER IS DIS???!!!"
Ain't no way in hell some random ass lil kid gettin on my lap. that's just a setup to get you branded a chomo and beat down, raped, or murdered in prison.
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"Where was the peace when we were getting shot? Where's the peace when we were getting laid out? Where is the peace when we are in the back of ambulances? Where is the peace then? They don't want to call for peace then.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 80822 posts
Fri Jul-24-15 01:37 PM
24. "no physical contact until you meet the parents" In response to Reply # 15
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
20. "it's sad we even have to ask this question, jesus" In response to Reply # 0
it's sad that parents are so suspicious, it's sad that occasionally they have reason to be and it's sad that there are sometimes negative consequences for innocent acts
if a kid waves or smiles or makes a face or something, yes, i do it back. if he/she has a question, i answer it. i refuse to live in fear when it comes to simple shit like this.
And you will know MY JACKET IS GOLD when I lay my vengeance upon thee.
PoppaGeorge Member since Nov 07th 2004 10384 posts
Fri Jul-24-15 01:09 PM
22. "sure, and when that backfires on you one day..." In response to Reply # 20
make sure to tell us before going in so us OKP's can put money on your books.
It really IS sad that we live in a time where all men are perceived as a potential threat to children.
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"Where was the peace when we were getting shot? Where's the peace when we were getting laid out? Where is the peace when we are in the back of ambulances? Where is the peace then? They don't want to call for peace then.
25. "As long as you keep your hands where they should be" In response to Reply # 22
shouldn't be any problems.
I will say 99.9% of my interactions come from that fact that i have kids of my own, so if I'm at the park or something then I have an obvious reason for being there, which goes a long way towards not being perceived as a skeevy perv or something.
So - I talk to kids, help them out on the playground if they eat it, throw a high five, include kids who are interested when i'm playing with my kids... whatever.
Talking and interacting shouldn't be an issue. Just be real careful about keeping your hands where they belong. Picking up other people's kids is a line i generally don't feel comfortable crossing unless i know them really well.
If some random parent wants to overreact because a grown up treated their kid like a human, though, i can live with that.
In a generation of swine, the one-eyed pig is king. -Hunter S. Thompson
PoppaGeorge Member since Nov 07th 2004 10384 posts
Fri Jul-24-15 02:10 PM
28. "bruh... even being with a child on a playground makes you suspect" In response to Reply # 25
>I will say 99.9% of my interactions come from that fact that i >have kids of my own, so if I'm at the park or something then I >have an obvious reason for being there, which goes a long way >towards not being perceived as a skeevy perv or something.
Nah bruh, these days they'll suspect you of using your kids as a cover for being a pedo on the lookout for new victims.
>So - I talk to kids, help them out on the playground if they >eat it, throw a high five, include kids who are interested >when i'm playing with my kids... whatever.
Nope, not even once.
>Talking and interacting shouldn't be an issue. Just be real >careful about keeping your hands where they belong. Picking >up other people's kids is a line i generally don't feel >comfortable crossing unless i know them really well.
Nope, even talking to kids brings scrutiny.
>If some random parent wants to overreact because a grown up >treated their kid like a human, though, i can live with that.
Not when the cops get involved you can't.
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"Where was the peace when we were getting shot? Where's the peace when we were getting laid out? Where is the peace when we are in the back of ambulances? Where is the peace then? They don't want to call for peace then.
PoppaGeorge Member since Nov 07th 2004 10384 posts
Fri Jul-24-15 03:32 PM
34. ""uncle molesters" usually get dealt with in the family" In response to Reply # 29
>you think they're really out there hemming up large numbers >of innocent victims on pedo charges?
It's not that you're getting hemmed up, it's the suspicion a lone male with children gets.
I guess I should have prefaced this with the following: You wouldn't get that level of scrutiny in predominately Black or Latino neighborhoods; this is almost exclusively a white thing here. Black and Latino fathers regularly have their kids at the park by themselves and will interact with other kids without incident. The problems arise when you try to do this out of your element, so to speak.
White folks are inherently suspicious of not only Black and Latino men, but they're really suspicious of white men being around children alone and particularly when they're chatty with those kids.
> >Also - It's not suspect to take your kids to the park and play >with them, wtf?
See above: Not if you're Black or Latino and going to the park in a Black or Latino area.
>Just never be alone with other peoples kids, and keep your >hands to yourself, and you'll be fine.
If only it were that simple.
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"Where was the peace when we were getting shot? Where's the peace when we were getting laid out? Where is the peace when we are in the back of ambulances? Where is the peace then? They don't want to call for peace then.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
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