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"so when you say that there should be no interracial realationships/ you attackin my whole existance/its only right that i respond to this shit/i predict the future is mixed/ markin an end to all this racism shit"
not every interracial relationship is built with a complete understanding and respect for the other's backgrounds. the fact that some kind of Eutopia, free of racism, is gonna come about because we ALL will be mixed is ridiculous.
nice thought, but it's not going to happen.
if these dudes grew up in households where both black and white culture could be taught and appreciated, i think that's great, and they got a reason to stick up for the way they were raised. on the same tip, like Com said in the interview, he came up around *both* races stating how they exclusivley only date outside of their race.
Chi is very segregated, a lot like the rest of the Midwest, and there is always an assumption about the statement you're making with your dating preferances. maybe the same aint true in the UK, but, here, if you a black man and have no problem voicing the fact that you only date white chicks, you sayin something wrong with Black women. Obviously something aint up to par with the women who look like your Mom. if you a white chick who only dates black men, white men must not be good enough for you. It would seem logical that you don't think your mom's choice in getting with your dad was a wise one to be repeated, either.
i realize there are some people who would say that it's just a matter of personal taste, but dat don't change the way people are going to judge your actions. the fact that you completely turn down ANY RACE is definately not "goin beyond the surface." it's subconcious to a lot of the observers, themselves, but the reason people usually have problems with white-black relationships is because they ASSUME that there is that "self-hate" that Common spoke about. whats more- mixed kids are often sterotyped as having the internal conflict of a person who has one "reverse-racist" parent. that shit aint always true. but a Eutopia of a bunch of mixed people aint gon to erase the fact that some people are hookin up for the wrong reasons, despite the fact that there are some who are the product of legitimate love.
i've met plenty of white girls who simultaniously resent their man's blackness, and worship it.
personally, i can't count on one HAND the amount of times brothas have stepped to me with mad baggage, too: they hype that "white beauty myth" shit to death
... such a fuckin turn off to me. i don't want to be yo damn trophy.
but that's definately not the inspiration behind every black man who expresses interest in me. nor am i some caucasion woman who trys to holla at black men because she just watched "Save the Last Dance" and thought she'd try it out. i will never, however, limit myself to one race. you never know WHO God will bring in yo life to help you make your way thru it better.
What Mr. Rashid said, i definately agree with: black women are not shown enough appreciation or given enough chances in the United States, both by white society, AND their own men. i've lived in Brasil, and I would say the same shit x100 about their situation there.
The honor and traditions of Africa do need to be remembered, and embraced by ALL people, but especially those of African heritage, because this is THEIR history. Still, this love for self and appreciation for the ancestors aint gon come about just by pairin up black people with other black people: there's gotta be supportive love and balance and a desire to learn, too.
Common's little girl is gon learn all that (saw mami at the concert in the 'Nati... she was so cute and so SERIOUS!). Doc Brown, Yungun, and Rising Son are adament about the fact that they have learned all that, too, even tho they, or maybe just some of them, got parents of different backgrounds. Maybe there's some Rasta guy out there who has dated all races, and eventually settles down with a white woman who he feels really compliments all that he has to offer, and who understands the message of Rastifarianism, and he loves that and everything else about her. Is he still gonna get judged? Yeah. why? cuz the stereotype exists and a lotta folks gon' take the liberty to mentally map out his motives befo he ever opens his mouth.
we all do that. how many times have YOU assumed some shit about:
the black girl huggin on the white man in the subway.
the white girl who gets into the car with that black guy every morning down the block.
the black/white man who takes his white/black girlfriend shopping.
most of us assume when we really have no way of knowing.
funny shit is, we hate when other people do it to us.
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"SCREAM at me."
-m.dot
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