okay let me get this straight.....when u fall in love with someone and decide that u want to spend the rest of ur life with them......all the good/bad times, sickness/health, richer/poorer, life/death do u part times, spooning, vacationing, holidays, commute to work, friendship.....besides the companionship factor....what the fuck is wrong with having a baby, starting a family and raising kids?....now i do understand the career thing on both sides (men & women)....wanting to live a fulfilled life before u bring another human being into this world....but um, if two folks get hitched ....besides the companionship and life partnership.....what the hell is wrong with having a baby or 4? and why all of a sudden are young upwardly mobile black women against giving birth? and/or adopting some disenfranchised kids?...like seriously? u got some kind of success and u just wanna keep it to yourself? if u dont like kids fine, understood, but otherwise what's the fuss (c) stevie?... my mother worked her whole life making lots of dough birthed 4 great children and still got her career on and still had a great marriage and life with my father....im trying to understand why having babies is all of sudden "not the move"?

***this post was inspired by the angelina/black baby post.

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just like nothing's wrong with deciding you dont want children

makes folks jaded on bringing kids into the world
even the men @ my job with youngins now are worried

i defnitely want to adopt if i have kids at all

world....& i understood where he was coming from...but my belief is that every new baby born is gods way of saying he hasn't given up on the world yet....i also believe that it takes a village & people with a little bit of something in this world have to @ some point give back...there are too many abandoned black kids around here for me to sit back and not try to raise one or two. my hope is that i birth as well as adopt.....i love kids!

>my
>belief is that every new baby born is gods way of saying he
>hasn't given up on the world yet

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children are definitely a gift from God and with each child created we have a chance to get it right. Unfortunately, we have some f***ed up individuals bringing children into this world and doing harm to their tiny, fragile spirits. To me, the children aren't the issue, it's the environment that we bring them into. That's what we have to change.

if i dreamed natural
dreams of being a natural
woman doing what a woman
does when she's natural
i would have a revolution
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Everybody don't want babies.

Everybody don't need babies.

The ones that don't want them should not be having them.

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>The ones that don't want them should not be having them.

Are we trying to convince those folks to have children? That makes no sense.

many kids up for adoption, u got a ton of no good moms & dads having babies...while the people that are stable mentally & financially dont want them....and we wonder why the black population in america is falling off...go figure.

the anti-baby machine.
the declining black population in America.

>...while the people that are stable mentally &
>financially dont want them....and we wonder why the black
>population in america is falling off...go figure.

so the financially stable black people should start raising these
unwanted children because they have the $$$ to do it?

lol.

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if theyre mentally fit, why not? its the same reason why i support gay adoption...if two people can provide a life for kids that would otherwise be neglected and abused, more fucking power to them.
>
>so the financially stable black people should start raising
>these
>unwanted children because they have the $$$ to do it?
>
>lol.
>

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into thinking that thier lives will somehow be stunted by birthing,....kids are great!

everyone doesn't like kids.

raise them.

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when they were once a damn kid themselves.....I mean regardless of what you go through...how u just gon say you don't like kids...sound like you don't like yoself....uuuh huh!! uuuuuuh huh!

nothing's wrong with it
it's just not for me
i may change my mind one day
but right now, no bottomfeeders for me

I keep looking around and wondering how the fuck people are managing these days?
Maybe its cos I live in the most expensive city in Canada--but damn--between housing and daycare(cos its close to impossible to survive on one salary here), I just don't know how folks can afford it?

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fuck you.

I don't think there is an anti-baby machine, or a big anti-baby sentiment among young, professional black women, or women in general. Some people want kids. Some people don't. Some people want to have them immediately. Some people prefer to wait. That's all it is to it.

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is that being the general concensus.....u'd be hard pressed to find many young women w/bright futures (specifically black) ready to have kids...i mean look @ the angelina post! and the women on these boards are highly educated (for the most part) & have a good head on thier shoulders (despite what these men tend to think).

>is that being the general concensus.....u'd be hard pressed
>to find many young women w/bright futures (specifically
>black) ready to have kids...i mean look @ the angelina post!
I honestly don't think this is the case though. Nearly every young, professional, married, black woman I know has kids. Most of the ones who aren't married, but are in long term realtionships are considering it as well. I don't think it's any kind of general consensus. I mean, you are a young, black, woman so I guess you know better than I do. I just ain't seeing this phenomenon that you'r referring to here.

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bull and shit.

matter of fact out of all the professional black women (doctors, execs, etc), i'm the only one i know not trying to have kids
and even for me this idea is based mostly on the idea i am no where near ready for that NOR marriage

so there's no way i'd believe its general consensus either way to think professional black women do or don't want to have kids

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This is not really making much sense. Are you really hardpressed to find women like the ones you described who want to have babies? That's just silly. You're painting with an unbelievably broad brush, here.

And what about the women in the Angelina post? Because the sensible ones were defending Jen's right NOT to have a baby means they don't want/have families of their own?

This is laughable to me.

EL. OH. EL.

i was crusing through the baby section at Target yesterday for some baby oil gel(for my baby nephew) and GYADAYUM do those lil crumb snatchers cost alot.

Do you know how much Similac costs??

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get on WIC. That's whats hot now?

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but yeah, i admit that i missed that.

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i feel sorry for the the folks who've
fallen on hard times that get the rep
from the TRULY TRIFLING and treacherous.



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WIC?

as in PURPOSELY setting yourself up to be totally
reliant on government assistance?

with mentalities such as these, no wonder they "manage" us so well.





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i don't understand how anyone can make the argument that a person
SHOULD have kids just because their spouse wants it?

having children is a huge commitment. you don't just have a
baby 'cause your wo/man wants you to.

it's unfortunate those desires weren't fleshed out before the
marriage, or ppl thought they could call their SO's bluff about it.
but if you don't want kids, you shouldn't have or adopt them.

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And the discussion of "why don't you?" is completely nonsensical to me. For those who don't want them, and don't have them, I say a huge thank you.

isn't it great! i love being inside colon.

fuck you.

everybody should get up inside a colon.
it's the ultimate sacrifice!

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once i got in there. i hesitated at 1st b/c i'm kinda iffy on kids sometimes but i knew it would have been selfish of me not to get up in a piece of colon just to avoid the children. it was a tight fit for me b/c i'm relatively large so being in there w/them was quite a sacrifice indeed. ultimately i found the experience highly rewarding. i recommend it to everyone.

fuck you.

once i got in there. i hesitated at 1st b/c i'm kinda iffy on kids sometimes but i knew it would have been selfish of me not to get up in a piece of colon just to avoid the children. it was a tight fit for me b/c i'm relatively large so being in there w/them was quite a sacrifice indeed. ultimately i found the experience highly rewarding. i recommend it to everyone.

fuck you.

all manner of kids, you understand me?!?

i swear there were @ least two ethnic cambodians, and an african
or three. i could tell the other adults occupying the colon were a
little selfish, and knew that i could do a better job of pushing the
children along. so i quickly slid them through the pathways, and
shoved money in their hands to temporarily relieve them of their
undeserved suffering.

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