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Olu
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""I like him too much to sleep with him straight away""


  

          

The words of a female friend of mine known for her bad choices in men.

Now usually I would have disregarded this just like I do just bout everyhing she says about relationships.

Except I heard the exact same thing a day or two ago from a woman who I take a lot more seriously in that respect. So it got me thinking...

Apparently, the dude who, for whatever reason does not meet your standards for anything beyond dick gets access earlier than the guy who they actually like as a person.

Now, I think this is a horrible idea, for several reasons but I'm wondering if its something a lot of women subscribe to, and I'm wondering if it in anyway accounts for the 'assholes get the pussy faster' perception.

Thoughts?

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i do this.
Sep 26th 2005
1
can I ask why?
Sep 26th 2005
5
i dont care what "the asshole" thinks of me
Sep 26th 2005
6
      Not trying to be antagonistic, but.....
Sep 26th 2005
15
      i guess. also im more nervous to sleep with a guy i like than one
Sep 26th 2005
23
           RE: i guess. also im more nervous to sleep with a guy i like than one
Sep 26th 2005
31
           I can see that
Sep 26th 2005
82
      306 replies in this post, and it was summed up here.
Sep 27th 2005
304
y?
Sep 26th 2005
27
why do you insist on trying to get em to make sense?
Sep 26th 2005
2
The reason I'm in physics
Sep 26th 2005
3
i get it
Sep 26th 2005
4
RE: i get it
Sep 26th 2005
9
      whatever... 9 outta 10 times if a girl fuck u straight up
Sep 26th 2005
13
      RE: whatever... 9 outta 10 times if a girl fuck u straight up
Sep 26th 2005
29
      let me get this straight
Sep 26th 2005
48
      Huh?
Sep 27th 2005
199
           PREACH
Sep 27th 2005
229
           and niggas act like every woman they fuck can't get pregnant
Sep 27th 2005
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                I don't fuck around!
Sep 27th 2005
264
           whoa damn
Sep 27th 2005
233
                one time is all you need . . .
Sep 27th 2005
265
                     u risk shit all the time
Sep 27th 2005
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                          Well I take parenting and raising a child much more seriously.
Sep 28th 2005
306
      u not saying nothing new playboy
Sep 26th 2005
64
      Super CoSignage....I had someone
Sep 26th 2005
171
      they don't want to hear that tho 'cause they're "openminded"
Sep 26th 2005
178
           MASHIN'- The Cost Benefit Analysis
Sep 27th 2005
196
      lol whateva
Sep 26th 2005
20
its simple
Sep 26th 2005
7
you see how this encourages assholishness in men though right?
Sep 26th 2005
12
ok.. that doesn't matter.. because anyone who is only concerned with
Sep 26th 2005
16
lol
Sep 26th 2005
24
dont front.. maybe more mature men realize that
Sep 26th 2005
35
      exactly
Sep 26th 2005
53
      Here's my question though
Sep 26th 2005
91
      but see its not that simple
Sep 26th 2005
103
      how can one dude speak for most dudes?
Sep 26th 2005
134
           just stfu
Sep 26th 2005
138
      i love how yall act like niggas don't play games to get sex.
Sep 26th 2005
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           don't fuck with game players.
Sep 26th 2005
135
           if bitches knew they was playing games...
Sep 26th 2005
137
                You aren't this dumb, are you?
Sep 27th 2005
204
                     oh look everybody it's densy mc dense.
Sep 27th 2005
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                          LOL, okay . . .
Sep 27th 2005
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           Key, most men I know who lie to get sex are horrible at it
Sep 26th 2005
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                most men *YOU KNOW*
Sep 26th 2005
147
      co signing
Sep 26th 2005
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this might make sense to YOU, but guys don't think like this
Sep 26th 2005
32
if i may
Sep 26th 2005
102
THE GUY WHO WISHES TO BUILD WITH YOU HAS A DICK . . .
Sep 27th 2005
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and you have both covered what I want to say
Sep 26th 2005
18
uum.. i would not argue with anyone about something so stupid
Sep 26th 2005
21
*buzzer* wrong. the assholishness of men encourages this behavior
Sep 26th 2005
26
oh my...and folks don't see the cycle this breeds
Sep 26th 2005
41
      if they did would we be having this conversation?
Sep 26th 2005
45
This is an overly simplistic way of looking at it.
Sep 27th 2005
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They don't want to deal with the fact that they have a role in . . .
Sep 27th 2005
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RE: its simple
Sep 26th 2005
22
LOL....^^^the nigga is speaking the truth
Sep 27th 2005
193
he really is
Sep 27th 2005
230
THEY DON'T HEAR YOU, THOUGH!
Sep 27th 2005
285
you explained it perfectly
Sep 26th 2005
28
thank u
Sep 26th 2005
38
      right...
Sep 26th 2005
74
that's the most illogical, madonna/whore shit.
Sep 26th 2005
34
as illogical as the guy who will fuck whores but won't wife one.
Sep 26th 2005
36
*high five*
Sep 26th 2005
40
but those guys, like you said, are assholes
Sep 26th 2005
59
lol oh this isn't about me.
Sep 26th 2005
67
      and ironically they are the ones getting the most pussy
Sep 26th 2005
76
      only if they look good
Sep 26th 2005
80
      lol rite rite
Sep 26th 2005
119
      you know?
Sep 26th 2005
83
      everybody wants to say how idiotic it is but don't want
Sep 26th 2005
90
           yerp.
Sep 26th 2005
108
      Nigga...quantity...v. quality...v. repeatability...Whas' good?
Sep 27th 2005
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      yep.
Sep 26th 2005
84
           but.. lemme add
Sep 26th 2005
           how do you know they're few and far between?
Sep 26th 2005
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                i sure have
Sep 26th 2005
104
                     is that because they're dudes or because you're
Sep 26th 2005
107
                          its because A LOT of men
Sep 26th 2005
111
                               that wasn't an attack.
Sep 26th 2005
                                    u get high from knowing u're
Sep 26th 2005
126
                                    *pushes glasses up onto nose*
Sep 26th 2005
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                                         *tells my boyfriend, the starting varsity quaterback that the geek
Sep 26th 2005
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                                    !!!!!
Sep 26th 2005
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                                         son.
Sep 26th 2005
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                                         delaying sex so they'll respect you isn't shortsighted?
Sep 26th 2005
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                                              i doubt the women that do this are actually saying
Sep 26th 2005
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                                              Please believe it. I stayed with someone. Had a rock.
Sep 27th 2005
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                                              i don't think they heard you.
Sep 27th 2005
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                                              lmao
Sep 26th 2005
153
PREACH! n/m
Sep 27th 2005
190
Basically
Sep 26th 2005
39
^^^ atruheadism
Sep 26th 2005
58
it's not true?
Sep 26th 2005
63
      atruhead is not notable because of in/accuracy.
Sep 26th 2005
70
the density is crushing me.
Sep 26th 2005
60
u got a stix radar dont u?
Sep 26th 2005
43
      like a moth to a flame
Sep 26th 2005
54
           awww stfu
Sep 26th 2005
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                *draws near*
Sep 26th 2005
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RE: its simple
Sep 26th 2005
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      the fuck are u talkn about???
Sep 26th 2005
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i'd like to know the answer to this too...
Sep 26th 2005
8
UUUUMMM>> I ANSWERED IT!!
Sep 26th 2005
10
so it's all about maintaining a perception?
Sep 26th 2005
47
      Its like they don't mind being a hoe, just don't call them one.
Sep 27th 2005
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      no it's like they don't see certain behavior as HOEISH
Sep 27th 2005
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           But, they do because if they saw another woman doing the same
Sep 27th 2005
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                you have no idea about women. i'm convinced. not one.
Sep 27th 2005
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                     Well . . .
Sep 27th 2005
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                     he's right though... women are quick with the ho tag...
Sep 27th 2005
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      answers
Sep 27th 2005
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Me neither
Sep 26th 2005
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**
Sep 26th 2005
11
i think you need to talk to your boys about this one.
Sep 26th 2005
14
#19
Sep 26th 2005
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this has already been mostly answered
Sep 26th 2005
19
ok, frame of reference
Sep 26th 2005
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      that's dandy, olu.
Sep 26th 2005
49
           lol right?
Sep 26th 2005
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RE: "I like him too much to sleep with him straight away"
Sep 26th 2005
25
OMG!!!
Sep 26th 2005
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we already did this
Sep 26th 2005
71
      I still think . . .
Sep 26th 2005
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      If that's what they want . . .
Sep 27th 2005
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#12 for one
Sep 26th 2005
I definitely do this.
Sep 26th 2005
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??????????????????????????????????????????????????
Sep 27th 2005
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to an old married nigga, this shit is fascinating....
Sep 26th 2005
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holla at your homies.
Sep 26th 2005
42
dawg, my and my boys used to analyze this
Sep 26th 2005
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i'm shedding all types of light and niggas is throwin shade
Sep 26th 2005
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      I'M throwin' shade? on you? where'bout?
Sep 26th 2005
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           i'm suprised you're suprised this phenomena exists
Sep 26th 2005
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                im surprised because the talk is different....
Sep 26th 2005
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                     torez
Sep 26th 2005
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                          not shocked that its OLD, shocked that its STILL AROUND
Sep 26th 2005
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                               many old school thoughts
Sep 26th 2005
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shit, holla at a uterus
Sep 26th 2005
65
      but hyde...
Sep 26th 2005
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           was responding to torez, not "they"
Sep 26th 2005
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                i understand and respect *your opinion..
Sep 26th 2005
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                     it doesn't make sense.
Sep 26th 2005
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                     dont think you meant to respond to me...
Sep 26th 2005
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                     what's the flip side of that, though?
Sep 26th 2005
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                          lol
Sep 26th 2005
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                          *woosh*
Sep 26th 2005
130
                          ten points for avoiding the question.
Sep 26th 2005
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                          LOL
Sep 26th 2005
131
                     well..
Sep 26th 2005
116
Can only speak for myself....
Sep 26th 2005
51
      having to deal with men sometimes makes women complicated
Sep 26th 2005
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      Seems that way, doesn't it?
Sep 26th 2005
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      so you're saying...
Sep 26th 2005
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           RE: so you're saying...
Sep 26th 2005
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           yes!
Sep 26th 2005
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                son.
Sep 26th 2005
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                forreal.. u're killn me tonight
Sep 26th 2005
181
                WE.ARE.MEN......YOU.ARE.WOMEN.....
Sep 26th 2005
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I love you for this post, Lu . . .
Sep 26th 2005
44
and yet they will justify it
Sep 26th 2005
86
      Its the sickest and most warped reasoning EVER!
Sep 26th 2005
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ladies, just masturbate
Sep 26th 2005
50
Amen
Sep 26th 2005
55
weeeeelllll (c) random church person
Sep 26th 2005
88
      RE: weeeeelllll (c) random church person
Sep 26th 2005
149
shit, I'd wanna be that other guy
Sep 26th 2005
61
LMFAO!! BAD CHIEF!!!
Sep 26th 2005
79
      lol
Sep 26th 2005
114
do you
Sep 26th 2005
69
discovery from AIM chat...
Sep 26th 2005
81
Huh?
Sep 26th 2005
99
      basically...the dude with a big dick and a cornball will get used like a...
Sep 26th 2005
110
           So its assumed that the nice guy must have a tiny dick?
Sep 26th 2005
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                i took it as a chances are the bigger dick is also cornball
Sep 26th 2005
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several dudes have told me
Sep 26th 2005
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According to your sistren
Sep 26th 2005
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      RE: According to your sistren
Sep 26th 2005
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ok, how bout this
Sep 26th 2005
93
how is that changing the premise of the question?
Sep 26th 2005
100
      Basically n/m
Sep 26th 2005
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      eh, not really
Sep 26th 2005
113
Why shouldn't people wait to have sex?
Sep 26th 2005
94
gold.. the problem isn't people waiting to have sex...
Sep 26th 2005
115
Its very simple.
Sep 26th 2005
95
I suppose if I had wine of limited appeal
Sep 26th 2005
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nicely done
Sep 26th 2005
117
but the risks that attend it exist nonetheless, hence
Sep 26th 2005
120
      This is true it's still a risk as I too subtly hinted above
Sep 26th 2005
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I don't understand this kind of logic either....
Sep 26th 2005
112
This idea works and this is why:
Sep 26th 2005
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this isn't about nice vs. asshole
Sep 26th 2005
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yea it's who you want vs. who you don't want to lock down
Sep 26th 2005
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      Who u wnt v. Who u lck d. That's dope. I am lving it rhat now.
Sep 27th 2005
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ive asked this question a million times
Sep 26th 2005
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Apparently none of the men in this post are
Sep 26th 2005
159
      lol whoo!
Sep 26th 2005
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Nice guys finish last post #3680289
Sep 26th 2005
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no. nice guys get pussy all the time. corny guys finish dead last.
Sep 26th 2005
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i didn't want to say it
Sep 26th 2005
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for some woman nice and corny goes hand in hand though..
Sep 26th 2005
161
      lol some women are kleptomaniacs too. so?
Sep 26th 2005
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this is so the thick vs fat argument
Sep 26th 2005
166
      If everything is so grand for the nice guy how come..
Sep 26th 2005
170
fuck it ladies.. i'm letting the truth out the bag
Sep 26th 2005
158
oh lord stop just stop
Sep 26th 2005
162
hahahahah, you're all over the place, young....
Sep 26th 2005
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first time I laughed tonite
Sep 26th 2005
172
damn....harsh
Sep 26th 2005
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*spends life savings on plastic surgery*
Sep 26th 2005
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yeah handle dat
Sep 26th 2005
177
      *HOLLERING ahahahahahahahaaaaaaaaa*falls outta chair
Sep 27th 2005
252
hol up...how you got a fivehead and you saying this?
Sep 26th 2005
184
^^^ feelings hurt
Sep 26th 2005
185
      you wish...and you still got a fivehead
Sep 27th 2005
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LMAOOO
Sep 27th 2005
187
LOL
Sep 27th 2005
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lol, ooooh shit
Sep 27th 2005
250
if i like him too much, i fuck him the first night
Sep 26th 2005
176
uuuuuummm.. guys.. please read this shit
Sep 26th 2005
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lets not make shiloh the rule
Sep 27th 2005
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judgemental men
Sep 26th 2005
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      its whats i'm dealing with this exact minute actually
Sep 26th 2005
183
           you're fucked in the head anyway. you don't count.
Sep 27th 2005
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                :-O
Sep 27th 2005
266
high school sex and dating lesson #1
Sep 27th 2005
186
yal miss the point entirely...
Sep 27th 2005
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i'd like to now try and tackle this *clears throat*
Sep 27th 2005
191
I do
Sep 27th 2005
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more to chew on
Sep 27th 2005
269
But, why do they risk having their kids, though?
Sep 27th 2005
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      Again... not the point of this post.
Sep 27th 2005
280
           The two can't possibly be separated! That like talking about . . .
Sep 27th 2005
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                Uhhh.. no.
Sep 27th 2005
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                     The analogy is accurate, IMO and . . .
Sep 27th 2005
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                          *sets record on repeat*
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                               They knew what they were doing. They wanted to start a family!
Sep 28th 2005
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well, you KNOW I do this.
Sep 27th 2005
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inbox n/m
Sep 27th 2005
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Any girl who believes in this fucked up logic can never complain
Sep 27th 2005
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Its not a horrible idea. Girls just dont want the guy they like to think
Sep 27th 2005
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OH, and also...
Sep 27th 2005
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Shouldn't they all wait, though?
Sep 27th 2005
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      all who?
Sep 27th 2005
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           Make all men wait. Then see who sticks around . . .
Sep 27th 2005
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                what is wrong with a woman fucking just to fuck?
Sep 27th 2005
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                     Are you serious? Men and women who do this . . .
Sep 27th 2005
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                          SOME PEOPLE JUST WANT TO FUCK
Sep 27th 2005
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                               FUCK A SERMON . . .
Sep 27th 2005
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                                    I completely agree.
Sep 27th 2005
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                                         If they don't care about them they shouldn't fuck them!
Sep 27th 2005
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                                              Duh.
Sep 27th 2005
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                                                   No, you are! And what is duh to you isn't as obvious to a lot of girls
Sep 27th 2005
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                                                   son.
Sep 27th 2005
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                                                        You're right, sis.
Sep 27th 2005
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^^^^ AND THERE YOU HAVE IT
Sep 27th 2005
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      they're gonna come and tell you that it doesn't make sense
Sep 27th 2005
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      It sounds like this . . .
Sep 27th 2005
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      if you really want to understand this, here are 2 words for you:
Sep 27th 2005
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           They don't hear you.
Sep 27th 2005
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           You control you! That's a cop out and a half
Sep 27th 2005
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                No one's copping out.
Sep 27th 2005
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                do you know what the fuck socialization means???
Sep 27th 2005
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           Can I get an honest answer to my question?
Sep 27th 2005
273
           I am not explaining shit to you
Sep 27th 2005
299
           and they will ignore this reply too.
Sep 27th 2005
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      I'm glad I read this reply.
Sep 27th 2005
235
It's this simple
Sep 27th 2005
212
lmao
Sep 27th 2005
214
*archive*
Sep 27th 2005
219
i second this motion n/m
Sep 27th 2005
301
Monday Night Gender Wars Deathmatch!
Sep 27th 2005
228
*yawn* oh shit, this is still here?
Sep 27th 2005
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This post made my head hurt.
Sep 27th 2005
234
women can't have opinions on things that concern them?
Sep 27th 2005
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      ^^^ somebody missed the sarcasm
Sep 27th 2005
241
           lol. the stuff up there was too serious
Sep 27th 2005
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let me humbly say reply 212 went as some unrecognized CHURCH
Sep 27th 2005
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this is crazy
Sep 27th 2005
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      son. and the closest to on point.
Sep 28th 2005
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this post is out of control
Sep 27th 2005
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yup cuz hes a keeper
Sep 27th 2005
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THE FUCK????????
Sep 27th 2005
251
LOL.
Sep 27th 2005
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.....
Sep 27th 2005
281
WOW. Some of y'all are ridicuously dense.
Sep 27th 2005
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i dont get down like that man
Sep 27th 2005
245
^^ This Woman Never Lies^^
Sep 27th 2005
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      ^^^buying the dream^^^
Sep 27th 2005
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           What dream is this?
Sep 27th 2005
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*throws deviled eggs at post*
Sep 27th 2005
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te veo.
Sep 27th 2005
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      t v o
Sep 27th 2005
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RULES SUCK!
Sep 27th 2005
247
Ummm...no
Sep 27th 2005
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this is just like that 'I want a girl when i want a girl, and when i don...
Sep 27th 2005
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Yup
Sep 27th 2005
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All I know is, let me get it just like you let the loser dude get it!
Sep 27th 2005
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You aren't entitled to shit. She gives it to whomever she wants
Sep 27th 2005
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      Ain't nobody said nothin bout being entitled.....
Sep 27th 2005
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      basically nm
Sep 27th 2005
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RE: "I like him too much to sleep with him straight away"
Sep 27th 2005
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this thread is too long...i ain't reading all this shit
Sep 27th 2005
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f'real.
Sep 27th 2005
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The simple way to dead this:
Sep 27th 2005
294
When you try to apply logic to female behavior...
Sep 27th 2005
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*pointing................laughing*
Sep 27th 2005
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i don't do this (now) but i understand the reasoning
Sep 28th 2005
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south_jerz
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1. "i do this."
In response to Reply # 0


          

  

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Olu
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5. "can I ask why?"
In response to Reply # 1


  

          

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south_jerz
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6. "i dont care what "the asshole" thinks of me"
In response to Reply # 5


          

but i do care what the guy im interested in thinks of me

  

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ellamichelle
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Mon Sep-26-05 09:42 PM

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15. "Not trying to be antagonistic, but....."
In response to Reply # 6


          

if the guy you were actually interested in would think of you poorly based on the time frame in which you chose to sleep with him (being that it does implicate some adherence to the old virgin/whore pigeonholes), wouldn't that indicate he might not be as relationship worthy as you had originally thought?

Not trying to attack yourself or anyone else, just curious for a bit more enlightenment on the subject.

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to get through this thing called life.

  

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south_jerz
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23. "i guess. also im more nervous to sleep with a guy i like than one"
In response to Reply # 15


          

i dont care about

what if it sucks?
what if it continues to suck?
thatd ruin the relationship.

  

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ellamichelle
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31. "RE: i guess. also im more nervous to sleep with a guy i like than one"
In response to Reply # 23
Mon Sep-26-05 09:48 PM by ellamichelle

          

That makes a bit more sense to me. Thanks.

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to get through this thing called life.

  

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Olu
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82. "I can see that"
In response to Reply # 23


  

          

here's the thing though, a month , or three, or however long you make him wait doesn't change any of that.

Relationships are and will always be a leap of faith. All you can to is hope you got it right this time and take the leap. There is no insurance.

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KaiserSozette
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304. "306 replies in this post, and it was summed up here."
In response to Reply # 6


  

          


***** "The truth put squarely is that I am spent, having fought too many American social battles that should never, in a more decent society, have presented themselves as such to begin with."
-R.R.

  

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Quixotic
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27. "y?"
In response to Reply # 1


  

          

~G.D.

  

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Binlahab
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2. "why do you insist on trying to get em to make sense?"
In response to Reply # 0


  

          

they are like a pretty sunrise, just enjoy it


<------ wifey

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3. "The reason I'm in physics"
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there's a little voice in my head that asks questions.

and it never stops.

Granted that has its disadvantages, but it gets me interesting answers

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4. "i get it"
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if i just wanna fuck him, i will
if i want more (or if theres a possibility that i might want more in the future) i wont take it there
men do it with females too


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9. "RE: i get it"
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um....no we don't...we get the pussy THEN decide if we gonna cut and run...

Just another abstract rant from a brotha who makes beats, collects flix and sucks at Madden.

Listen to some of em at: www.hitquarters.com/sonray76

"Dreams and reality are total opposites, its action that synthesizes them"- Assata Shakur


Holla!!

  

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sugaStix
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13. "whatever... 9 outta 10 times if a girl fuck u straight up"
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yallbe like... i can't wife her.. she fucked me the first night we went out

mmhmm

  

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29. "RE: whatever... 9 outta 10 times if a girl fuck u straight up"
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nah...that's where y'all insecurity lies in....

If she fucked me and the homeys the first night..then that's a different story...

If she fuck me the first night...it only makes sense...I'm a hell of a guy and she know she's lucky...LOL...

nah for real tho..sometimes y'all just got a chemistry and it happens...9/10 tho dudes don't know what or where the realtionship will go until After....

Niggas will fall in love wit pussy before they fall in love with you...a word 2 the wise ladies...

Just another abstract rant from a brotha who makes beats, collects flix and sucks at Madden.

Listen to some of em at: www.hitquarters.com/sonray76

"Dreams and reality are total opposites, its action that synthesizes them"- Assata Shakur


Holla!!

  

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48. "let me get this straight"
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so ur saying females should just let a nigga hit it immediately, then wait for him to decide whether he wants to build a relationship w/ u or not?
and if he doesn't, well, we're screwed both ways

sorry babe, it dont work like that



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199. "Huh?"
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>so ur saying females should just let a nigga hit it
>immediately, then wait for him to decide whether he wants to
>build a relationship w/ u or not?
>and if he doesn't, well, we're screwed both ways

Why even fuck a guy you don't want to build with at all? You can get knocked up either way. If he isn't someone you want to build why risk having his kid?

Please explain this one for me?



8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

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229. "PREACH"
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people are acting like the guy they just wanna fuck doesnt have sperm.




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236. "and niggas act like every woman they fuck can't get pregnant"
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yall are too fuckn funny

men fuck around ALL DAY

this is precisely why this kind of logic (the original post) exist now

  

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264. "I don't fuck around!"
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8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

The APPLE of my online eye: http://www.punchdouble.com/falafel/candy.mp3

"You never seen, heard, smelled or met a real emcee. Who's incredible or on the same pedestal as me!" - Em

  

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233. "whoa damn"
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>Why even fuck a guy you don't want to build with at all? You
>can get knocked up either way. If he isn't someone you want
>to build why risk having his kid?
>
>Please explain this one for me?
now some things (like pregnancy) you can't always prevent no matter how careful u are...and if u consider that ahead of time then yeah that makes sense...but no one said anything about tryna have ol dudes baby...
what i was saying is...i handle dudes that i'm just interested in having sex w/ differently than dudes i actually want to build something with...if its a guy i really aint all that interested in outside of fucking him, i might fuck him and be done (i could give a fuck if he wants to build a relationship or not cuz thats not what i'm there for)...on the other hand, if its a guy i'd want to have a relationship w/, then i'll wait, giving myself some time to get to know dude and see exactly where all this is headed
but a baby does put a different perspective on it





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265. "one time is all you need . . ."
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>build something with...if its a guy i really aint all that
>interested in outside of fucking him, i might fuck him and be
>done (i could give a fuck if he wants to build a relationship
>or not cuz thats not what i'm there for)...on the other hand,
>if its a guy i'd want to have a relationship w/, then i'll
>wait, giving myself some time to get to know dude and see
>exactly where all this is headed
>but a baby does put a different perspective on it

It only takes one time to get pregnant. If he isn't worth building with why risk having his child?


8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

The APPLE of my online eye: http://www.punchdouble.com/falafel/candy.mp3

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302. "u risk shit all the time"
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shit getting up every morning is a risk
a million things can happen to you in a day that u dont plan on or you dont have any control over
if i get pregnant, i'll deal w/ the consequences, just like i'd deal w/ everything else
if thats what happens when i satisfy my curiosity, so be it




No Shaboonkashae ain't my real name, but if I ain't tryna talk 2 u, then yes it is.

  

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306. "Well I take parenting and raising a child much more seriously."
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8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

The APPLE of my online eye: http://www.punchdouble.com/falafel/candy.mp3

"You never seen, heard, smelled or met a real emcee. Who's incredible or on the same pedestal as me!" - Em

  

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64. "u not saying nothing new playboy"
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171. "Super CoSignage....I had someone"
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put me on pause, even though, or prolly cause I just came out a relationship...and I guess he ain't tryna be the instant rebound....
jumpoff...

You lose/ cuz you got the ill street blues.

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178. "they don't want to hear that tho 'cause they're "openminded""
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and all that.
their brethren really aren't that loose with their thinking.

farewell, lil kim

  

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196. "MASHIN'- The Cost Benefit Analysis"
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Me and my folks actually talked about how a SISTA' will not mash instantly w/someone she is checking for....but will do it w/ somone that is low risk...simply because it is low risk....and as someone who reads about 12 cases a week in Torts about risk, causation, harm, liability.....risk and forseeability are HUGE....and Love, Mashin' and Murder....

You lose/ cuz you got the ill street blues.

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20. "lol whateva"
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i know mad dudes who wouldnt fuck a girl right off the bat that they are interested in building a relationship w/ vs some random chick they wanna fuck and could give a shit about after they bust

cuz sex too soon ruins shit

but whateva...



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7. "its simple"
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the guy that u just wanna fuck, u fuck, why? cause u dont give a shit what he thinks of u when its all said and done

u'd be a whore.. whatever.. u knew what u wanted from him and u got it and he's gone...

the dude that u forreal can see yourself building with, u want to be the best u, u can be...

so u take your time, u're a lady... u dont want him thinkn u're a whore.. naymean??

got it?

  

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12. "you see how this encourages assholishness in men though right?"
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because the dude who will treat you well doesn't want the pussy any less than the asshole, but he gets put on layaway.

All that does is send out the message that coming across as less that boyfriend material increases your chances of getting laid

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16. "ok.. that doesn't matter.. because anyone who is only concerned with"
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getting "the pussy" isn't boyfriend material anyway...

those who are, aren't on the hunt for pussy

  

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24. "lol"
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so there's a female version of the virgin/whore complex? interesting.

whether or not a man respects you usually has very little to do with whether or not he'd like to get laid. Nice is not sunonymous with asexual

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35. "dont front.. maybe more mature men realize that"
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a woman being comfortable in her sexuality doesn't make her a whore..

but i've encountered waaay more men that think if a woman sleeps with you the first night or early on, she sleeps with everyone early on and the whole, u cant turn a hoe into a housewife theory.

  

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53. "exactly"
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No Shaboonkashae ain't my real name, but if I ain't tryna talk 2 u, then yes it is.

  

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91. "Here's my question though"
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you have two groups of men, one which has no issue with your sexuality and will judge you as a whole person, the other whose respect for you is tied to a lie tell them about who you are.

Why pander to the group that has no respect for you? Granted they might be the larger group, but still...

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103. "but see its not that simple"
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it aint like yall niggas wearing signs...

MATURE IMMATURE


no.

as a woman, u never know whats going to happen in a dude's head after u have sex

so if u KNOW this is someone that U REALLY REALLY like.. u want to get to KNOW HIM and allow him the chance to KNOW YOU too

before making that move..

a guy already admitted in this post, that most dudes dont know if they want to really be with u until after the sex... so thinkn that, u want to establish something good with him before that... so its not the ONLY determining factor for why he's with u...

i hope this shit makes sense.. i'm watching tv

  

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134. "how can one dude speak for most dudes?"
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~G.D.

  

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138. "just stfu"
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118. "i love how yall act like niggas don't play games to get sex."
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a nigga will tell you what you want to hear
some bitches fall for it. that's how the shit is

farewell, lil kim

  

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135. "don't fuck with game players."
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~G.D.

  

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137. "if bitches knew they was playing games..."
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you CAN NOT be this retarded. your name is quixotic for goodness sakes.


farewell, lil kim

  

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204. "You aren't this dumb, are you?"
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8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

The APPLE of my online eye: http://www.punchdouble.com/falafel/candy.mp3

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217. "oh look everybody it's densy mc dense."
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farewell, lil kim

  

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222. "LOL, okay . . ."
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maybe you are that dumb


8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

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140. "Key, most men I know who lie to get sex are horrible at it"
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as evidenced by the fact that I can talk to one of my girls for under 10 minutes and know if dude she's talking to is bullshitting.

Most people can't hide who they really are very well for very long

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147. "most men *YOU KNOW*"
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farewell, lil kim

  

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169. "co signing"
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Love,
Miss La Belle

  

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32. "this might make sense to YOU, but guys don't think like this"
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any man - boyfriend material or quintessential fuck buddy -
thinks about sex. a lot. the guy who wants to wife you
thinks about hitting it just as much as the dickhead
that will nut in your eye.

this type of oversimplistic thinking:

>>because anyone who is only concerned with getting "the pussy" isn't boyfriend material anyway...<<<

will cause you to miss out on a great guy,
cause he saw you 'making him wait' as
'playing games.'


The spirituality of which I speak in principle, I have never attained to. (c) wesley

  

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102. "if i may"
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i think the word "only" is key here.

i don't think anybody here is new to the "men want to have sex" concept. i do think there's the perception that not all men classify their interactions with the opposite sex as "the hunt for pussy". you've got your criches, who just want to beat it up and make no effort to hide that, and you've got your, oh, let's stroke the ego, olus, who don't deny their interest in sex but are also be interested in the owner of the genitals, and building beyond the sex.

side: should waiting always be perceived as being made to wait, or making someone wait? i don't see getting to know/care for somebody before opening up the potential to lifelong consequences as playing games.

(i'm also not one to have random sex, so please don't ask me to explain in terms of the general post.)

-k-
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una y otra vez

  

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210. "THE GUY WHO WISHES TO BUILD WITH YOU HAS A DICK . . ."
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he wants pussy too, but he'll actually be around afterwards.


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18. "and you have both covered what I want to say"
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I'll leave now....cause you're about to argue with a married woman who doesn't mind picking up a $800 dollar bill.

but there is nothing wrong with being odd. i mean you arent inkast or adwhizz odd. - VABestBBW
Binlahab is a bitch.
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21. "uum.. i would not argue with anyone about something so stupid"
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as this

and how does my marriage or financial status have anything to do with this??

  

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26. "*buzzer* wrong. the assholishness of men encourages this behavior"
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from women.

  

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41. "oh my...and folks don't see the cycle this breeds"
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Grow. Get Free. Fly.

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45. "if they did would we be having this conversation?"
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farewell, lil kim

  

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198. "This is an overly simplistic way of looking at it."
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It is called short term (ass) v. long term (baby-daddy-huzbear).

You lose/ cuz you got the ill street blues.

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227. "They don't want to deal with the fact that they have a role in . . ."
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the relationship problem or the lack of "good men" when they reward certain behavior.


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22. "RE: its simple"
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I can't see how in 2005 niggas will sit up and believe that a female hasn't been fuckin niggas..

She been hoeing it out (like us men do) for niggas who even you'd probably scratch yo head at...

To believe that she just happened to be waiting for YOU so she can start fuckin again...LOL... then to top it all off...she gone make YOU wait to hit?!?!?!....

Fuck outta here...

let me get it like the nigga who hit and dipped got it....no additives or perservatives....

I got my bullshit rader on 10 beyatches...

Just another abstract rant from a brotha who makes beats, collects flix and sucks at Madden.

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Holla!!

  

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193. "LOL....^^^the nigga is speaking the truth"
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>
>I can't see how in 2005 niggas will sit up and believe that a
>female hasn't been fuckin niggas..
>
>She been hoeing it out (like us men do) for niggas who even
>you'd probably scratch yo head at...
>
>To believe that she just happened to be waiting for YOU so she
>can start fuckin again...LOL... then to top it all off...she
>gone make YOU wait to hit?!?!?!....
>
>Fuck outta here...
>
>let me get it like the nigga who hit and dipped got it....no
>additives or perservatives....
>
>I got my bullshit rader on 10 beyatches...


~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

<--Can I Hav Som Cake Pwease?

I got 2 much of the world in me 2 enjoy the Lord...
And 2 much of the Lord in me 2 enjoy the world...(c) Shai Linne

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230. "he really is"
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getting my rant on...

because the male ego is bullshit, but it does exist...i remember an ex girlfriend made me wait months...but then told me that she used to have one day stands (lol) with niggas off the chatline because she didnt want anything to do with them but she liked me...well what if she got pregnant from one of them niggas? see this makes no sense unless you just walk around with abortion money all day.



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285. "THEY DON'T HEAR YOU, THOUGH!"
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8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

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"You never seen, heard, smelled or met a real emcee. Who's incredible or on the same pedestal as me!" - Em

  

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28. "you explained it perfectly"
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hey that is how it is

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38. "thank u"
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niggas wanna know, then they're told and they go in attack mode

  

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74. "right..."
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it truly not hard to understand

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34. "that's the most illogical, madonna/whore shit."
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~G.D.

  

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36. "as illogical as the guy who will fuck whores but won't wife one."
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farewell, lil kim

  

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40. "*high five*"
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59. "but those guys, like you said, are assholes"
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and just using your logic...if someone you liked and wanted to build w/ changed his opinion about you because you slept with him 'too soon', he's an asshole.

moral: don't fuck with assholes.

~G.D.

  

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67. "lol oh this isn't about me."
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my point is a lot of men hold those types of "asshole" opinions of women. a lot.

farewell, lil kim

  

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76. "and ironically they are the ones getting the most pussy"
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hmmmm

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80. "only if they look good"
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lol

who's fucking the ugly assholes

not I

  

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119. "lol rite rite"
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No Shaboonkashae ain't my real name, but if I ain't tryna talk 2 u, then yes it is.

  

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83. "you know?"
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they're deriding these asshole dudes for being assholes, and still fucking them.

the dudes who are not assholes don't get any because some they're probably not assholes.

this logic is colossally idiotic.

~G.D.

  

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90. "everybody wants to say how idiotic it is but don't want"
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to admit the thinking is alive and well
and there are reasons for it.

farewell, lil kim

  

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108. "yerp."
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203. "Nigga...quantity...v. quality...v. repeatability...Whas' good?"
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You lose/ cuz you got the ill street blues.

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84. "yep."
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cause this shit definitely aint my style anyway

i'm just here explaining why women who do the shit do the shit

i got no shame

i fucked ace on our first date

he married me

so i know it aint ALL men, but the ones that dont think like that are few and far between

  

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"but.. lemme add"


  

          

i'd never do it like that again

lol

ha

  

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96. "how do you know they're few and far between?"
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have you fucked a lot of men early on that you really liked only to have them bounce because they thought you were some kind of floozy?

it sounds like one of those things that people repeat amongst themselves to the point that they don't question its validity.

~G.D.

  

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104. "i sure have"
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next question?

and lemme add

that this has not only happened to me, but to my closest friends as well

  

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107. "is that because they're dudes or because you're"
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a shitty judge of character?

~G.D.

  

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111. "its because A LOT of men"
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have been fed the "you can't turn a hoe into a housewife" and if she fucked u like that she'll fuck anyone like that bullshit

i ALREADY said it aint ALL men but its A LOT of them

i'm starting to think u're gettn pd under the table to attack me on the boards

  

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"that wasn't an attack."


  

          

but if *you* have a history of being left hung out to dry, it would seem that you could always make better choices about who you choose to date.

~G.D.

  

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126. "u get high from knowing u're"
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getting under my skin dont u???

u always twist shit

i wish u'd never reply to me every again

i could agree to everything u say and your ass would flip it like somethings wrong with me

fuck outta here

with your cap'n of the debate team pocket protector ass

  

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145. "*pushes glasses up onto nose*"
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~G.D.

  

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152. "*tells my boyfriend, the starting varsity quaterback that the geek"
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in ap physics was fuckn with me*

  

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133. "!!!!!"
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>but if *you* have a history of being left hung out to dry, it
>would seem that you could always make better choices about who
>you choose to date.

lol.. never mind that she's experiencing that these attitudes do exist, which backs up the original reasoning of olu's friend.

ha, no, nevermind that many men in fact do think/act like this.. sorry, pick better men?

YES!

of course what you're saying is also true, but damned if it isn't shortsighted.

-k-
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136. "son."
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farewell, lil kim

  

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143. "delaying sex so they'll respect you isn't shortsighted?"
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~G.D.

  

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151. "i doubt the women that do this are actually saying"
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"ok, hmmm.... i can't fuck him for 4 months and 10 days because by then i'll feel like he REALLY likes me and it'll be ok"

its not DELAYING sex, its deciding that u want something MORE FROM THEM THAN SEX.

too some women, sex becomes less important when they meet a guy they are seriously into.. they'd rather feel a connection with you that has nothing to do with sex.. because thats what lasts....

its no secret that once sex enters a relationship the relationship changes... some women may feel like, after sex, the importance of getting to know HER decreases to u.. men may feel like it INCREASES

if we (men and women) thought just alike we wouldnt intrigue one another...

i'm done with this.

  

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206. "Please believe it. I stayed with someone. Had a rock."
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You stay. You think it is going to get better.

But hey...when you gotta mash...you GOTSTA mash!

You lose/ cuz you got the ill street blues.

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249. "i don't think they heard you."
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_____________________

hello, lover.

  

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153. "lmao"
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you're dodging left and right here. wtf is this, "i know you are, but what am i"?

you just asked that sugastix assume responsibility for a sexual double standard that reaches back thousands of years. you're seriously suggesting that the madonna/whore complex has been completely erased from the minds of a significant number of men, and cosigning someone shaming women for recognizing a social fact and internalizing it?

dude.

not to mention that you know good and goddamned well that i haven't said anything to the effect of what your latest reply suggested.




-k-
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una y otra vez

  

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190. "PREACH! n/m"
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**************************************
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39. "Basically"
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they say we should get over it while carrying around the exact same ideas about themselves

it would be amusing if it wasn't sad

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58. "^^^ atruheadism"
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-k-
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una y otra vez

  

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63. "it's not true?"
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~G.D.

  

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70. "atruhead is not notable because of in/accuracy."
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-k-
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una y otra vez

  

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60. "the density is crushing me."
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farewell, lil kim

  

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43. "u got a stix radar dont u?"
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just admit it.

  

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54. "like a moth to a flame"
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i'm limbically drawn to stupid.

~G.D.

  

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66. "awww stfu"
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68. "*draws near*"
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~G.D.

  

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150. "RE: its simple"
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so what are you really saying, you can fool yourself when it's all said and done? the decision to sleep with someone is all yours. but, how will you feel about it in the morning? by making one man wait and gettin' yours on the side with someone else, is that really building a honest relationship? i believe that you get back what you receive. one may have their reasons for making a guy wait, but to get it on with s/one who may suck in bed, treat you bad, an all around jerk, what is it worth? is it worth your self respect?

  

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182. "the fuck are u talkn about???"
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this shit has shit to do wit me

read the damn thread

  

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8. "i'd like to know the answer to this too..."
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cause it has never made sense to me...



>The words of a female friend of mine known for her bad
>choices in men.
>
>Now usually I would have disregarded this just like I do just
>bout everyhing she says about relationships.
>
>Except I heard the exact same thing a day or two ago from a
>woman who I take a lot more seriously in that respect. So it
>got me thinking...
>
>Apparently, the dude who, for whatever reason does not meet
>your standards for anything beyond dick gets access earlier
>than the guy who they actually like as a person.
>
>Now, I think this is a horrible idea, for several reasons but
>I'm wondering if its something a lot of women subscribe to,
>and I'm wondering if it in anyway accounts for the 'assholes
>get the pussy faster' perception.
>
>Thoughts?

.
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i myself would never want to be god,or even like god.Because god got all these human beings on this planet and i most certainly would not want to be responsible for them, or even have the disgrace that i made them.

  

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10. "UUUUMMM>> I ANSWERED IT!!"
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shit

  

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47. "so it's all about maintaining a perception?"
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like you can fuck a whole bunch of dudes and as soon as you meet mr right you are on some, 'likeavirgin/hypocritical- ish?

that's what im saying has never made sense to me. i dont even buy into the whole 'she's a hoe' argument. i think women have a right to have as many sexual partners as makes them happy. but that's a different topic, i think?

or maybe your response is about submitting to societal expectations about women?

and seriously... does it make sense to give up something you consider 'valuable' so easily to an asshole as opposed to a 'good man'? i would think it would be the other way round?

and doesn't this reek of dishonesty?

.
http://perspectivesudans.blogspot.com/
i myself would never want to be god,or even like god.Because god got all these human beings on this planet and i most certainly would not want to be responsible for them, or even have the disgrace that i made them.

  

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200. "Its like they don't mind being a hoe, just don't call them one."
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8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

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216. "no it's like they don't see certain behavior as HOEISH"
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but men do.
why does this post even have so many replies?
i feel like i've said the same thing atleast 15 times.

farewell, lil kim

  

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220. "But, they do because if they saw another woman doing the same"
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thing they would call it what it is.



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221. "you have no idea about women. i'm convinced. not one."
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farewell, lil kim

  

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224. "Well . . ."
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at least we are on equal footing Because you seem to know just as much.


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226. "he's right though... women are quick with the ho tag..."
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>
>farewell, lil kim

.
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i myself would never want to be god,or even like god.Because god got all these human beings on this planet and i most certainly would not want to be responsible for them, or even have the disgrace that i made them.

  

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213. "answers"
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>like you can fuck a whole bunch of dudes and as soon as you
>meet mr right you are on some, 'likeavirgin/hypocritical-
>ish?

>and seriously... does it make sense to give up something you
>consider 'valuable' so easily to an asshole as opposed to a
>'good man'?

some women value dick over the sanctity of their vaginas and there's nothing wrong with that to certain degree. most men value vagina over the sanctity of their members, we've been conditioned to think the latter is a-ok while the former is a no go

>and doesn't this reek of dishonesty?

it definitely does on the woman's end, but they have to live with the everyday fear of being judged for sexual assertiveness.

i'd appreciate nothing more than a woman im building with being honest about her past. if i find out later on she was deceptive, that sets a bad precedent

  

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17. "Me neither"
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sex is sex.

it has nothing to do with whether I consider her worth calling back or hanging out with again

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11. "**"
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Mon Sep-26-05 09:45 PM by kwoent

  

          

*

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14. "i think you need to talk to your boys about this one."
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farewell, lil kim

  

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46. "#19"
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http://www.last.fm/user/Olu/
http://ghanageek.wordpress.com/

  

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19. "this has already been mostly answered"
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my understanding of the thought process, anyway.. i'd just add that as much as the progressive male protests that "that kind of thing" doesn't bother him, even if he really believes that, it's possible that neither of you would really know if it's true until it's "too late".

additionally: setting a precedent? giving the impression that it's all about sex?

this, like most questions about interpersonal relationships, is difficult to answer without having two real people as frames of reference.

-k-
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33. "ok, frame of reference"
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my last relationship lasted a year and turned sexual by date 2. I know a bunch of guys about who I can say the same thing, one of whom is pretty close to proposing to her.

It happens

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49. "that's dandy, olu."
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what exactly is your point?

lots of things "happen". doesn't make them the norm.

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52. "lol right?"
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i'm still wondering why he directed me to reply #19

farewell, lil kim

  

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25. "RE: "I like him too much to sleep with him straight away""
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>Now, I think this is a horrible idea, for several reasons


what are your reasons?

  

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56. "OMG!!!"
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8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

The APPLE of my online eye: http://www.punchdouble.com/falafel/candy.mp3

"You never seen, heard, smelled or met a real emcee. Who's incredible or on the same pedestal as me!" - Em

  

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71. "we already did this"
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that's why I'm staying the fuck outta this convo

niggas will never understand

they'll just try to be assholes to get pussy

  

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87. "I still think . . ."
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you're rewarding fucked up behavior.


8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

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"You never seen, heard, smelled or met a real emcee. Who's incredible or on the same pedestal as me!" - Em

  

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195. "If that's what they want . . ."
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why not give it to them?


8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

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"#12 for one"


  

          

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30. "I definitely do this."
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I've only been in love once in my life, and I never slept with him for this reason.

Don't know why. You have so much more to loose, I guess.

Love,
Miss La Belle

  

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201. "??????????????????????????????????????????????????"
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8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

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"You never seen, heard, smelled or met a real emcee. Who's incredible or on the same pedestal as me!" - Em

  

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37. "to an old married nigga, this shit is fascinating...."
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why is it that ladies in this post seem to be
making a distinction between genuine emotional
attraction and sex.

why do they have to be seperated?


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42. "holla at your homies."
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farewell, lil kim

  

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62. "dawg, my and my boys used to analyze this"
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all through college...(primarily
because we were always the 'BELOVED
FRIEND' that never got no ass...)
we were trynna figure out the
RUBIK'S CUBE PATTER to college pussy...

now, i don't care, 'cause sex ai'nt
an issue...

moreso, i'm a little surprised that this
crazy phenomenon is still jumping off...

why you ain't trynna shed no light, miss?

dudes are too stupid to figure this out.
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72. "i'm shedding all types of light and niggas is throwin shade"
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no suprise though.

farewell, lil kim

  

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78. "I'M throwin' shade? on you? where'bout?"
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if i did, i ain't mean it....


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105. "i'm suprised you're suprised this phenomena exists"
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farewell, lil kim

  

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142. "im surprised because the talk is different...."
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when i was in college, females
just said 'you're like my brother'
and kim...at least then, you knew
you had no chance...

this new thing, this 'i like him
too much to let him hit' is way
more sinister...its like some
mental jujitsu shit...a big jar
of blue balls wrapped in a dope
compliment.


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148. "torez"
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come on now.
this shit is as old as male/female relationships.

farewell, lil kim

  

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167. "not shocked that its OLD, shocked that its STILL AROUND"
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my mama'nem had to play this game,
i guess, cause of all the stigma
on sex.

current 20-somethings? y'all can pretty
much do whatever the fuck you want to,
and this is what it turns out to be?

SEXUAL NUMBNESS, cause its easier than HURT?

i mean, don't get me wrong - i got posts on here
bussin' on lame dudes that 'fuss about women,
but too scared to holler. but that seems like
a different post.

this one was about dudes being perplexed that
a woman will genuinely like them, but will
sleep with the cat they don't like.

I'M surprised that chicks don't understand
cats confusion.

i mean, that's all it was - confusion. you're
girl SUGASTIX hotted the spot up and made
it all acrimonious <--- from what i remember.

niggas was just posing questions, yo.
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175. "many old school thoughts"
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Mon Sep-26-05 11:27 PM by keybored

  

          

concerning how women should behave sexually still exist today.
half of us are going through a "sexual revolution" while the other half is trying to find a husband the old fashioned way in the midst of the revolution. then you have the inbetweeners, wingin it.
that shit makes for mad confusion, because a lot of men, while they'll fuck whatever (not whatever but...) comes their way they won't get married to just any chick. hell a lot of guys don't want to get married.
there are more men wanting to keep their options open than women. these same men not willing to get married will fuck women whose main goal is to get married, with no intentions of marrying them.
so for a woman to hold out in a situation like this seems almost like a surefire way to weedout an "asshole".but as we all know THAT method is NOT fool proof. pun intended.


and i know you men (this is directed mostly at olu and quix) are not acting like you never heard a man say "i'd fuck so and so but i'd never take her home to my mother" or any type of variation of that before.

farewell, lil kim

  

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65. "shit, holla at a uterus"
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"why on earth would a woman not want to have the sperm of a random male(s) in or around her vagina?"

noooot rocket science.

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75. "but hyde..."
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they are saying random 'assholes' get it more easily than the person they really digg....



>"why on earth would a woman not want to have the sperm of a
>random male(s) in or around her vagina?"
>
>noooot rocket science.

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85. "was responding to torez, not "they""
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although looking back i may have misread his question.

at any rate.. we can just say that that speaks for me, yeah?

-k-
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97. "i understand and respect *your opinion.."
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makes a whole lotta sense...

i am sitting here, though and trying to understand why in the hell one would 'much more easily' sleep with a person they consider an asshole/ not worth dating. it blows my mind.




>although looking back i may have misread his question.
>
>at any rate.. we can just say that that speaks for me, yeah?

.
http://perspectivesudans.blogspot.com/
i myself would never want to be god,or even like god.Because god got all these human beings on this planet and i most certainly would not want to be responsible for them, or even have the disgrace that i made them.

  

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109. "it doesn't make sense."
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so you'd take the chance of getting pregnant from some dude you have no faith in?

?

??

???

~G.D.

  

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123. "dont think you meant to respond to me..."
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im with olu on this one..(see # 47)
its disturbing how the pussy gets 'less valuable' around assholes but its a prized possession to be guarded like some fotress around a 'worthy -whatevathatmeans-male)


>so you'd take the chance of getting pregnant from some dude
>you have no faith in?
>
>?
>
>??
>
>???

.
http://perspectivesudans.blogspot.com/
i myself would never want to be god,or even like god.Because god got all these human beings on this planet and i most certainly would not want to be responsible for them, or even have the disgrace that i made them.

  

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124. "what's the flip side of that, though?"
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you and olu seem to be in here covertly advocating for the premature fucking of nerds because they're somehow more trustworthy and open-minded (because that's the implication, right? why sleep with "those guys" when you could be sleeping with..) but doesn't that mean that those same men would be ready and willing to chance impregnating someone they hardly know?

-k-
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129. "lol"
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well, I doubt if a pocket protector and a high math SAT score are necessarily requirements of not falling for the madonna/whore complex.

I could be wrong though

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130. "*woosh*"
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Mon Sep-26-05 10:43 PM by Quixotic

  

          

i'm not advocating nerd-fucking at all.

~G.D.

  

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139. "ten points for avoiding the question."
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i'll take your name out of it, but judging by your replies in this post, you're hardly in a position to be calling *woosh* on anybody.

*puts up dukes*

-k-
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131. "LOL"
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farewell, lil kim

  

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hyde
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116. "well.."
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i mean, in a way, i get it.. like, you care more about what your friends/family think of you and conversely what you think of them than you would with someone you stood in line behind at the movie theater, right?

i would figure that if you just wanted sex, no strings attached, it would be a lot less messy (ignoring the potential baby/disease consequences and just focusing on the emotional aspect) to go into it knowing that that is all your sex partner wants, or at least all you want out of them. you could pretty much just get up and go, right?

as far as the "asshole" factor.. what i'm seeing in this post is "asshole" being used interchangeably with "man who isn't interested in anything more than sex"- in which case it doesn't really necessarily mean he's an asshole, unless the women just wanting sex from him are assholes too- or "man who would think less of a woman for having sex with him 'too soon'"- in which case it goes back to the no strings attached thing, right? if they just want sex, it doesn't matter what he thinks, or if they find out that he's a jackass.

did that come across coherently at all?

-k-
q.e.p.d.

una y otra vez

  

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mslabelle
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51. "Can only speak for myself...."
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For women, they are closely intertwined. Perhaps seperating them is just safer.

Sure it's holding back quite a bit, but I suppose it's for self preservation....until you're absolutely sure, and feel absolutely safe.

Love,
Miss La Belle

  

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keybored
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57. "having to deal with men sometimes makes women complicated"
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>For women, they are closely intertwined. Perhaps seperating
>them is just safer.
>
>Sure it's holding back quite a bit, but I suppose it's for
>self preservation....until you're absolutely sure, and feel
>absolutely safe.

they don't hear you though.
farewell, lil kim

  

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73. "Seems that way, doesn't it?"
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*sigh*

Love,
Miss La Belle

  

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77. "so you're saying..."
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there's no EMOTIONAL RISK with a fuckbuddy,
cause its not an emotional exchage. its just sex.

whereas, with a guy you like, there's more
risk, cause you like this person. sex could
make you MORE emotional, and and raise
your risks of getting hurt even more?

This is some real F.R.O.D.O. right here.

F.R.O.D.O. = FOR RIDE OR DIE ONLY
The spirituality of which I speak in principle, I have never attained to. (c) wesley

  

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122. "RE: so you're saying..."
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Right... Off course there's an emotional risk, but you're in a better position to monitor it.

If you're already in love....BLAM....you're there. You're already in it. Sex will definitely make your emotional attachment much more intense.

It's a matter of what's safer.....*sigh*

Love,
Miss La Belle

  

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128. "yes!"
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torez, yes!

for me, and for a lot of women i know, the idea of "just sex" with a "good guy" is a dangerous combination if you ***don't WANT to catch feelings***.


i didn't know we needed to get *that* basic.

-k-
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una y otra vez

  

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132. "son."
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farewell, lil kim

  

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181. "forreal.. u're killn me tonight"
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156. "WE.ARE.MEN......YOU.ARE.WOMEN....."
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>>>i didn't know we needed to get *that* basic. <<

everything between us needs to be broken down
to its MOST BASIC....we need shit SPELLED THE FUCK OUT!!!

incidentally, i GET the whole risk thing. i think
what i was trynna say up top is that this risk
averse tactic could easily lead to a self-fulfilling
prophecy. cause in my experience, folks will catch
feellings SOONER OR LATER, regardless to how
much they screen folks out<--- i mean, i never thought simply having
sex would fall under F.R.O.D.O.*

* = FOR RIDE OR DIE ONLY
The spirituality of which I speak in principle, I have never attained to. (c) wesley

  

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44. "I love you for this post, Lu . . ."
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this is the most retarded concept ever!


8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

The APPLE of my online eye: http://www.punchdouble.com/falafel/candy.mp3

"You never seen, heard, smelled or met a real emcee. Who's incredible or on the same pedestal as me!" - Em

  

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86. "and yet they will justify it"
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http://www.last.fm/user/Olu/
http://ghanageek.wordpress.com/

  

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92. "Its the sickest and most warped reasoning EVER!"
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8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

The APPLE of my online eye: http://www.punchdouble.com/falafel/candy.mp3

"You never seen, heard, smelled or met a real emcee. Who's incredible or on the same pedestal as me!" - Em

  

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50. "ladies, just masturbate"
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save yourself the headache...


no one gets any

  

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55. "Amen"
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Love,
Miss La Belle

  

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88. "weeeeelllll (c) random church person"
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-------


and me boooooooing them,them having the nerve to ask me why
and me telling them..."thats because you SUCK midget dick, biiiaaatch".~MeDINaStaR

  

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149. "RE: weeeeelllll (c) random church person"
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this made me bust out laughing. everyone at work is trying to figure out what i'm laughing at too.




"stay skinny, stay young, stay Hollywood, stay sellable for us. they're dealing flesh. behind the scenes can be devastating."~~~~Paul Mooney
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
http://www.myspace.com/supasoulfro

  

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61. "shit, I'd wanna be that other guy"
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the guy they just fuck right away

  

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79. "LMFAO!! BAD CHIEF!!!"
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i read that ALL KINDSA WRONG

LOL

BAD BAD BAD!!!!!

Lol

  

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114. "lol"
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what did you say pre edit?

  

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69. "do you"
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when it comes down to it people talk and don't do what they say they do or gonna do.

so just do you and don't think things went wrong cause o this or that.
either ask the person or forget it.




and don't listen to me either

All generalizations are false, including this one. (c) Twain
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and me boooooooing them,them having the nerve to ask me why
and me telling them..."thats because you SUCK midget dick, biiiaaatch".~MeDINaStaR

  

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81. "discovery from AIM chat..."
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Olu...factor in penis size.

but there is nothing wrong with being odd. i mean you arent inkast or adwhizz odd. - VABestBBW
Binlahab is a bitch.
I wouldn't trust okp, some of them don't even get any anymore since the Re's stopped - Anonymous OKP

  

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99. "Huh?"
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explain this one to me

http://www.last.fm/user/Olu/
http://ghanageek.wordpress.com/

  

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110. "basically...the dude with a big dick and a cornball will get used like a..."
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i.e. the former situation.

but there is nothing wrong with being odd. i mean you arent inkast or adwhizz odd. - VABestBBW
Binlahab is a bitch.
I wouldn't trust okp, some of them don't even get any anymore since the Re's stopped - Anonymous OKP

  

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125. "So its assumed that the nice guy must have a tiny dick?"
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lol

http://www.last.fm/user/Olu/
http://ghanageek.wordpress.com/

  

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127. "i took it as a chances are the bigger dick is also cornball"
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but there is nothing wrong with being odd. i mean you arent inkast or adwhizz odd. - VABestBBW
Binlahab is a bitch.
I wouldn't trust okp, some of them don't even get any anymore since the Re's stopped - Anonymous OKP

  

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89. "several dudes have told me"
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that they love andre 3000 because he finally let women know that a dude can tell when i chick is a hoe, and when she just knows what she wants out of life! i don't know how true it is, but i've asked quite a few men, and they've all said they can tell.




and of course you would fuck Mike Tyson...shit, I'm a dude and far from a homo, but if Mike Tyson tells me he's gonna fuck me what am I really gonna do?... spread

"hater niggaz marry hater bitchez, and have hater kids"--kanye

  

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101. "According to your sistren"
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those men either don't exist or are a tiny percentage of the population whose opinions do not count.

Personally, that's one of the things I liked about that album

http://www.last.fm/user/Olu/
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121. "RE: According to your sistren"
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>those men either don't exist or are a tiny percentage of the
>population whose opinions do not count.

i don't know how i feel about that either, but i don't care what the dude thinks...if i wanna fuck, i'm gonna fuck, if he don't call back, the most i can do is make sure i get my nut EVERYTIME...

>Personally, that's one of the things I liked about that album


and of course you would fuck Mike Tyson...shit, I'm a dude and far from a homo, but if Mike Tyson tells me he's gonna fuck me what am I really gonna do?... spread

"hater niggaz marry hater bitchez, and have hater kids"--kanye

  

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93. "ok, how bout this"
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what if they're not assholes, they're just boring and stupid (in my opinion), but they're gorgeous and the sexual attraction between us is off the charts...

I don't wanna make him a boyfriend, I just wanna satisfy my urges with him right quick fast.

am I wrong for just wanting to get some and get away fast?






  

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100. "how is that changing the premise of the question?"
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would you still hold out with the dude you *did* want to be serious with?

~G.D.

  

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106. "Basically n/m"
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http://www.last.fm/user/Olu/
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KrispeeKreeme
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113. "eh, not really"
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I guess I was just slutty that way

but I've seen the error of my ways


  

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94. "Why shouldn't people wait to have sex?"
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Like, is it that serious that you have to fuck on the first or second date?
If it is that serious for somebody, maybe they have issues?

I don't think women should delay having sex with a potential s.o. to prevent themselves from looking like whores.
I think women should delay having sex with a potential s.o. because it's a smart thing to do.
Bump that- men should delay having sex with a potential s.o. because it's a smart thing to do, as well.
Sex can clouds things.
Moving too fast can ruins things.
And being quick to jump in bed can burn things (like your genitals lol)

But for the ladies, if you're confident in your choices of partners, don't not have sex with a guy because you're scared of looking like a whore.
Don't give him that power to define you; just do you.

  

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115. "gold.. the problem isn't people waiting to have sex..."
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it's who they are deciding is worth the wait and who isn't. like jumping into bed with someone you dont really like is ok.. but with a person you dont, it's not. one is ok the other makes you a ho? at least that's the argument im hearing... oh wait, the other makes the other person think you are a ho (or something like that)


>Like, is it that serious that you have to fuck on the first
>or second date?
>If it is that serious for somebody, maybe they have issues?
>
>I don't think women should delay having sex with a potential
>s.o. to prevent themselves from looking like whores.
>I think women should delay having sex with a potential s.o.
>because it's a smart thing to do.
>Bump that- men should delay having sex with a potential s.o.
>because it's a smart thing to do, as well.
>Sex can clouds things.
>Moving too fast can ruins things.
>And being quick to jump in bed can burn things (like your
>genitals lol)
>
>But for the ladies, if you're confident in your choices of
>partners, don't not have sex with a guy because you're scared
>of looking like a whore.
>Don't give him that power to define you; just do you.

.
http://perspectivesudans.blogspot.com/
i myself would never want to be god,or even like god.Because god got all these human beings on this planet and i most certainly would not want to be responsible for them, or even have the disgrace that i made them.

  

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95. "Its very simple."
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You want to get to know the guy you really like, a lot better....you want the time you have sex to be special, and for you feel like you at least have a good sense of who he is and what he thinks, you could care less what joe from down the street is about, because you dont want to have a relationship with him, so you can have sex and be done with it.,

psychosematicaddictinsane

swinger3421: tell jesus hi for me

steffanisugar: well i told him...and he said.."speak for yourself"

swinger3421: tried. he wasn't there

  

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98. "I suppose if I had wine of limited appeal"
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I might drink straight away with Tuesdays left over veal
But if this wine was special I might well say
Lets put it aside for a more special day
Some wine does not keep, and is best consumed quickly
But the special stays with you for a year or fifty
This analogy's poor, people are not just flavours
But sometimes we delay their pleasures in order to savour
And while Ill admit this practice does not fit me
In a way I could see how it would come to be

  

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117. "nicely done"
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120. "but the risks that attend it exist nonetheless, hence"
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that shit that you're popping makes no gotdamn sense.

~G.D.

  

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163. "This is true it's still a risk as I too subtly hinted above"
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Much is when you engineer the trappings of love
I just wanted to say that while it isn't for me
There was some logic I could indeed see

  

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112. "I don't understand this kind of logic either...."
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if I don't like someone, think a muthafucka is an asshole I stay the fuck away!!! He gets none, period!!! I'm not even trying to be in the presence of an asshole let alone fuck one. So I've never understood, why the assholes get more play, but I also think chicks don't always tell the truth on the shit either I think some chicks give it up to the asshole 'cuz he's ass is suppose to be more exciting. Who know's I'm guessing I don't really know. The nice guy and the guy I'm interested is more likely to get the panties, period, but even he has to wait until I'm comfortable and that might be a few months.

  

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141. "This idea works and this is why:"
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From my experience, no one that I started out having a physical relationship lasted. It was started on the wrong foundation. You get down with the fine bruhs that you know can't do nothin for you but give it to you because it takes nothin to drop'em once it get's old...and it WILL get old.

Now...If I'm REALLY diggin someone, I want to be able to take the time to get to know them without the emotional cloud that can come along with the pre-mature physical relationship. That way if you all actually have the opportunity to build, it's for real.

Doyougetwutimtryintosay?

I may not be saying anything that hasn't been said before, but I may be saying something that someone's never heard before.

  

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144. "this isn't about nice vs. asshole"
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So say you have two nice guys. One of them is cool but just not cool enough to have something longterm. So you get what you need and keep it moving.

For the nice guy you think you want to spend sometime with. I prefer not to let sex cloud the issue. It's not an issue of making him waith. It's more about building without sex getting in the way.
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155. "yea it's who you want vs. who you don't want to lock down"
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its the assholes who created the monster
not necessarily the ones getting burn

farewell, lil kim

  

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202. "Who u wnt v. Who u lck d. That's dope. I am lving it rhat now."
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After being in a long termer....It like learning to speak another lang....

You lose/ cuz you got the ill street blues.

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146. "ive asked this question a million times"
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and have never gotten a satisfactory answer
my choices of SOs have never been dictated by how quickly we fucked
pretty much everyone i've been with
shit has jumped off in the first 2 weeks or so anyway
so that shit is irrelevant imo
maybe im not like other cats tho

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159. "Apparently none of the men in this post are"
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*passes out 'we are special' buttons*

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164. "lol whoo!"
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Alphabet
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154. "Nice guys finish last post #3680289"
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how long and how many post does it take for ya'll niggas to see that,
nice dudes dont; get the pussy

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157. "no. nice guys get pussy all the time. corny guys finish dead last."
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farewell, lil kim

  

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160. "i didn't want to say it"
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cuz then they would ask me to define corny, ha ha.
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161. "for some woman nice and corny goes hand in hand though.."
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Mon Sep-26-05 11:09 PM by Alphabet

  

          

I know chicks that woulda look at me crazy if I acted a "gentalmen", like "whats wrong wiht THIS nigga"...

I know not all woman, but you can't sit here and lie and say some woman dont' think that...

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165. "lol some women are kleptomaniacs too. so?"
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farewell, lil kim

  

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166. "this is so the thick vs fat argument"
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there are nice guys all over this post, and they'll confirm for you that they're getting plenty of sex and love, or they have and will again.

and the women will likely tell you that the men they've given sex and love to on a long-term, regular basis were not the ones they considered assholes.

people who blame their various character flaws/insecurities on "nice" finish last.

-k-
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una y otra vez

  

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170. "If everything is so grand for the nice guy how come.."
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Mon Sep-26-05 11:20 PM by Alphabet

  

          

all I see is post "I talked to this woman for 6 months still no score" then I see her leaving the club early with this dude....what happened?"

Fuck that, ya'll can front all ya'll wnat to,

Ya'll know, and I know I'm right

Let these nice niggas be the back-up plan if ya'll want to..

after Grimy Greg and Hood nigga D and whoever eles done cracked that back, then you got to these 'gentalman' for leftovers...

or when it's time to 'settle down'.

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158. "fuck it ladies.. i'm letting the truth out the bag"
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forgive me

the truth of the matter is, u really AINT THAT fuckn good lookn to fuck straight up

so we gotta find something about u worth fuckn u for.

shit

get use to it

cause your face aint getting u nowhere quick

  

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162. "oh lord stop just stop"
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i'm no crich we don't do 3's lol.
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168. "hahahahah, you're all over the place, young...."
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The spirituality of which I speak in principle, I have never attained to. (c) wesley

  

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172. "first time I laughed tonite"
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thanks stix

  

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173. "damn....harsh"
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but there is nothing wrong with being odd. i mean you arent inkast or adwhizz odd. - VABestBBW
Binlahab is a bitch.
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174. "*spends life savings on plastic surgery*"
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Thanks 'stix

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177. "yeah handle dat"
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252. "*HOLLERING ahahahahahahahaaaaaaaaa*falls outta chair"
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oh fuck. you are stupid

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184. "hol up...how you got a fivehead and you saying this?"
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but there is nothing wrong with being odd. i mean you arent inkast or adwhizz odd. - VABestBBW
Binlahab is a bitch.
I wouldn't trust okp, some of them don't even get any anymore since the Re's stopped - Anonymous OKP

  

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185. "^^^ feelings hurt"
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188. "you wish...and you still got a fivehead"
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but there is nothing wrong with being odd. i mean you arent inkast or adwhizz odd. - VABestBBW
Binlahab is a bitch.
I wouldn't trust okp, some of them don't even get any anymore since the Re's stopped - Anonymous OKP

  

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187. "LMAOOO"
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>get use to it
>
>cause your face aint getting u nowhere quick
>

Lawd, that line was the clencher.
lol

  

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189. "LOL"
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--
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250. "lol, ooooh shit"
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hahahaha

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176. "if i like him too much, i fuck him the first night"
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then he thinks i'm a hoe and never takes me seriously
so maybe them other chicks are on to something

  

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179. "uuuuuummm.. guys.. please read this shit"
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thx

  

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238. "lets not make shiloh the rule"
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she be one some other shit....

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180. "judgemental men"
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that's so 1969
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183. "its whats i'm dealing with this exact minute actually"
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ive only slept with 4 men
the 4th one, i fucked on the first night. its been a year. he still thinks i'm a hoe. and i dont fuck anyone but him, i cry at night because i "love" him, and he thinks i fuck other people

  

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263. "you're fucked in the head anyway. you don't count."
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266. ":-O"
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186. "high school sex and dating lesson #1"
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don't say shit...let her do the talkin, cuz there is no way that my simple male ass can deal with a lot of the self-doubt that exists in the mind of the western female. Just be a blank slate, a tabula rasa, and let her draw whatever crazy-ass conclusions about your character that she sees fit...cuz ultimately you can't make somebody who has no interest in seeing YOU...see YOU.

This type of woman is playing a chees game with herself about what is and isn't good and appropriate as a woman. It's tragic as hell cuz it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy...men learn EARLY (like 12 or 13) that the conceited asshole get play quicker than the quiet humble dude. So many pretty cool dudes turn into dicks overnight, and their women qoutient skyrocvkets overnight. Meanwhile the women proceed to complain about the lack of nice guys

Now this only applies to a certain type of woman, and is no way indicitive of the women that i have been fortunate enough to be drawn to but it is definately something real, and its a problem

  

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300. "yal miss the point entirely..."
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Men created the double-standard game, we women are just playing to win.


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191. "i'd like to now try and tackle this *clears throat*"
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not saying i advocate the line of thought.
BUT I am attempting an explanation.
*cracks knuckles*

these women are saying at this point in their personal development that the act of sex is just the physical and they then satisfy they bodily desires with men who they care nothing or little for. Why?
because they value their bodies very little and place a higher value on their emotions.
The time involved is incidental it the amount of emotional investment they are willing to place which is key. They are saying they can seperate their emotions from the physical act WITH certain types of men they have mentally villianized and cannot do so with men the feel they can become emotionally involved with or who will in turn will become emotionally involed with them.
Again why? because a popular notion has been reinforce through society and exp. men that sex is just a physical act and women who have participated in the act frequently have little value. as a reaction i think you are witnessing their attempts to seperate their emotions from the physical act.


*ducks tomatoes*
disclaimer: this is simply an explanation. this is not fact this is observed theory and hearsay.

again i say just do you.
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<-- myspace crush in ya avy uh huh uh huh

and me boooooooing them,them having the nerve to ask me why
and me telling them..."thats because you SUCK midget dick, biiiaaatch".~MeDINaStaR

  

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197. "I do"
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and it tends to work out

oh, and thanks

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269. "more to chew on"
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i think this goes under societal 'conventional wisdom'

this is truth associated with convenience..."with what most closely accords with self interest and personal well being or promises best to avoid awkward effort or unwelcmoe dislocation of life. We also find highly acceptable what contributes most to self esteem." ~ John Kenneth Galbraith

what you were hearing and what seems to be reflected on the boards simple, convenient, comforting (not to you but to those who benefit from the behavior)...but not necessarily true...

that might help ya?
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<-- myspace crush in ya avy uh huh uh huh

and me boooooooing them,them having the nerve to ask me why
and me telling them..."thats because you SUCK midget dick, biiiaaatch".~MeDINaStaR

  

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275. "But, why do they risk having their kids, though?"
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8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

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"You never seen, heard, smelled or met a real emcee. Who's incredible or on the same pedestal as me!" - Em

  

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280. "Again... not the point of this post."
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284. "The two can't possibly be separated! That like talking about . . ."
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racism against blacks and leaving out slavery and the middle passage.

They go hand in hand.

You're avoiding the question! LOL


8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

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287. "Uhhh.. no."
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And your analogy? God awful.

Making a judgement about whether she should be having "casual sex" AT ALL, isn't integral to the OP. That's another discussion, IMO.

What is being challenged/questioned/scrutinized/ridiculed is the thinking held by some women that you fuck those you don't care about, but wait to fuck those you do.

The reality is, this is just another "nice guys finish last" post only this one is dressed in fishnets and a garter belt. I mean, really, it's the same bullshit.




  

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290. "The analogy is accurate, IMO and . . ."
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That is the point of the question! Meaning, you make one wait, but risk having a future with the one that you have no feelings for.

THAT IS THE POINT OF THE POST! If there was no risk, then I really wouldn't give a fuck.



8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

The APPLE of my online eye: http://www.punchdouble.com/falafel/candy.mp3

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298. "*sets record on repeat*"
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what you were hearing and what seems to be reflected on the boards simple, convenient, comforting (not to you but to those who benefit from the behavior)...but not necessarily true...


that requires a different set of reasoning. sad to say it;s the rare person thinknig about kids while having intercourse
i'll make a similar bad analogy
do you think about your parents while having intercourse?
i doubt they were thinking about you.

those thoughts come later
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and me telling them..."thats because you SUCK midget dick, biiiaaatch".~MeDINaStaR

  

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307. "They knew what they were doing. They wanted to start a family!"
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8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

The APPLE of my online eye: http://www.punchdouble.com/falafel/candy.mp3

"You never seen, heard, smelled or met a real emcee. Who's incredible or on the same pedestal as me!" - Em

  

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192. "well, you KNOW I do this."
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But my reasons are simple...

I don't want to get hurt.

And the only way I'll get hurt is if I REALLY like the guy I'm sexing.

(but you were right, he told me --today, tomorrow, next week--it doesn't matter)

It matters to me, though. I'd like to be more strongly bonded
to him emotionally before we go all the way.




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194. "inbox n/m"
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205. "Any girl who believes in this fucked up logic can never complain"
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about a man again. You are just rewarding the behavior that you hate. You are reaping what you sew.




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207. "Its not a horrible idea. Girls just dont want the guy they like to think"
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they're easy.

And before you say anything, IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU ACTUALLY THINK. GIRLS WANT TO UPHOLD A REPUTATION......THAT MOST OF US DON'T REALLY HAVE.

If we like you like THAT...You're automatically thrown into the running as a candidate for "Hubby status"...and hubby candidate #3 needs to think that we aint all about gettin the dick....which I sincerely hope we're not......but yea.

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208. "OH, and also..."
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We need to know you're not only about the "goodies" either.

If you fail the test, we don't like you that much anymore, everybody gets their fuck on and then goes along their way.

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209. "Shouldn't they all wait, though?"
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8888 Do not mistake my kindness for weakness 8888

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211. "all who?"
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223. "Make all men wait. Then see who sticks around . . ."
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instead of fucking the ones that they don't care about?


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231. "what is wrong with a woman fucking just to fuck?"
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men do it all the time

  

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267. "Are you serious? Men and women who do this . . ."
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both risk having a child with someone they have no feelings for. If they aren't worth having a relationship with why risk having that person being the mother or father of your child?

Just because some men do it doesn't make it right. Its still not very smart, but the women don't seem to care.


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270. "SOME PEOPLE JUST WANT TO FUCK"
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im not living like that much anymore

but people are human

spare me the sermon

  

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274. "FUCK A SERMON . . ."
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this is common-fucking-sense. When you have sex you risk having a child, why have some jumpoff as the mother of your child?

I'm a realist and agnostic. I don't do sermons. I know I don't want some dumb clucker as the mother of my child. Just like I have no sympathy for men who cry and bitch about being trapped by some hoe. If you didn't want to be connected to her for life you shouldn't have fucked her!


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279. "I completely agree."
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But this is not what this post is about.

It's about the thinking that you fuck the ones you don't care about, and wait to fuck the ones you do.

Whether or not they should be fucking ANYONE casually is a whole nother post.

  

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288. "If they don't care about them they shouldn't fuck them!"
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289. "Duh."
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You're missing the point, dude. Like, really.

  

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291. "No, you are! And what is duh to you isn't as obvious to a lot of girls"
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292. "son."
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lost cause. for real.

farewell, lil kim

  

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293. "You're right, sis."
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215. "^^^^ AND THERE YOU HAVE IT"
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IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU
>ACTUALLY THINK. GIRLS WANT TO UPHOLD A REPUTATION

At least for me that's what it is. It's just a result from socialization. Doesn't mean women like things to be this way, but some of them handle the situation by making the men wait.

Personally that's why I prefer dating or showing interest to men who aren't in my circle like that. So I don't have to care about ppl knowing my business and all that shit. I wouldn't have problems giving the pussy on the first date. 'cause after all if things don't work out we can both go our separate ways - we're not in the same sphere so it ends there. If things work out I'll eventually add him to my circle and we could be an official couple.

But yeah if i know the guy because he's in my environment or he knows my circle I will take my time before doing anything. May not make sense for you guys but women got that pressure to behave like lil angels. A guy can fuck whoever he wants without being seriously reprimanded like a woman. If the guy changes people will be like aaaww he's a good man now - he's changed. If a woman does the same? she'll be perceived as a hoe all her life. so women got their own ways of dealing with this. not the perfect solution but eh what do you do? you can deal with a mature man, but society isn't necessarly as mature.

I think it's like that in many places. it's cultural.

does it make sense?

  

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218. "they're gonna come and tell you that it doesn't make sense"
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because they know what being a woman is all about

farewell, lil kim

  

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225. "It sounds like this . . ."
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http://board.okayplayer.com/okp.php?az=show_topic&forum=4&topic_id=1460753&mode=full#1462000

and as a result . . .

http://board.okayplayer.com/okp.php?az=show_topic&forum=4&topic_id=1460753&mesg_id=1460753&page=#1462041

. . . generally speaking, of course.



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237. "if you really want to understand this, here are 2 words for you:"
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sexism + socialisation

put those 2 together and you will have an idea. Since whatever women says here is totally stupid and irrational.

this could have been a great post
the ladies here answered the questions
they explained.

it's cool to make posts like this
but I think some of you guys don't even prepare yourselves
to open up and see things from our perspective
and most importantly you wouldn't see that we agree with you on this one - that the situation is totally fucked up
we didn't have a convention where we decided to behave like this
there's a reason why soo many women behave like this
we're explaining things from our perspective
you think it's bullshit? I don't know what more I can say
apart from the 2 words above: sexism and socialization.
oh and by the way women AND men are affected by it.

it's like y'all already decided that we were irrational and defensive before reading the replies. you understand what you want to understand

i have nothing more to say. y'all upset me today lol

  

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262. "They don't hear you."
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It's *our* fault society places ridiculously absurd standards on how women are supposed to behave.

You didn't know?

  

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276. "You control you! That's a cop out and a half"
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282. "No one's copping out."
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Hell, I *never* said I agree with this line of thinking. I do, however, understand why it exists.

This is *not* about her HAVING sex with someone she doesn't care about -- which wouldn't be my choice --but what the OP is questioning is why have sex with someone you don't care about, and NOT have sex with someone you do.

  

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297. "do you know what the fuck socialization means???"
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273. "Can I get an honest answer to my question?"
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>sexism + socialisation
>
>put those 2 together and you will have an idea. Since whatever
>women says here is totally stupid and irrational.

Not true, Nika and Akon seem to have a clue. They're women!


>this could have been a great post
>the ladies here answered the questions
>they explained.

Yes, they answered and many answered from their own experience. Then some men responded. They were completely dismissive of the response.

I still never heard a rational explanation for rewarding bad behavior or sleeping with someone you don't see a future with. If he's not good enough for you to see a future with, why take the chance of having his child. No woman in this post seems to be willing to answer that question.


>it's cool to make posts like this
>but I think some of you guys don't even prepare yourselves
>to open up and see things from our perspective
>and most importantly you wouldn't see that we agree with you
>on this one - that the situation is totally fucked up
>we didn't have a convention where we decided to behave like
>this
>there's a reason why soo many women behave like this
>we're explaining things from our perspective
>you think it's bullshit? I don't know what more I can say
>apart from the 2 words above: sexism and socialization.
>oh and by the way women AND men are affected by it.

The fact that the women don't see or understand why its bullshit is an example of their closemindedness, not ours. They avoid the obvious flaws in this fucked up logic and when they are presented with it they don't answer or begin to crack jokes.


>it's like y'all already decided that we were irrational and
>defensive before reading the replies. you understand what you
>want to understand
>
>i have nothing more to say. y'all upset me today lol

Well could you answer THE #1 question that I have, frankly and honestly?

Why risk having/carrying the child of a man that you have no feelings for or see no future with?

If you feel the need to wait, you should probably make all men wait.
What is so crazy about this concept?




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299. "I am not explaining shit to you"
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If there's one thing that I greatly despise is people asking questions without preparing themselves to receive an answer, different from their expectations.

you're all over this post expecting us to tell you that we're really fucked up women, and that all women are evil and on that bullshit but that you, on the other side of the fence is RIGHT.

For once, put yourself in a woman's position and think
the answer to your question is all over this post
I'm starting to get offended
I refuse to write long explanations that you will label as illogical
simply because it's not the answer you're looking for.

be open minded folks

now i'm really done with this post
I'm too angry for this now

  

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286. "and they will ignore this reply too."
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235. "I'm glad I read this reply."
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212. "It's this simple"
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women have sexual needs to be tended to
im sure they get tired of masturbation like we do

should she be looked down upon for taking care of her need? not if it's done in moderation and she's careful about her choices.

now if it's a different dude every week, that's questionable shit.

I have no clue why the term asshole was even used for the guy she chooses to fuck off the bat. are we implying that men who are merely interested in fucking are assholes? this isnt the case if he's honest and she's with the plan. i've jumped off a fair amount of jumpoffs in little time without having to lie, cheat, or deceive.

i meet a girl, im physically attracted (or maybe even not), she's offering up the goods on the first day and im supposed to turn it down lest im an asshole? fuck out of here.

not that im advocating giving it up fast but if a man enjoyed the sex, he is willing to stick around and give your personality a chance to creep through the gate.

in sum: for me as a man, quickly sleeping with someone i've made a connection with 'cheapens' the experience. women likely feel the same exact way. quickly sleeping with a jumpoff is i suppose what you would call a 'cheap thrill'. women make jumpoffs out of men as well.

i dont get the point of this post: are you upset that she made you wait while someone else got it quicker? you and he share the same goal of vaginal frollicking, with him there were less bullshit formalities involved.

women: a real man will appreciate that he got some rather than pass judgement on how quick you gave it up, unless you have a wild reputation and he knew that going in. we like to sell ourselves the dream that maybe only a few others have got it from you as quick as we did and that we're special.

  

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214. "lmao"
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219. "*archive*"
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301. "i second this motion n/m"
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228. "Monday Night Gender Wars Deathmatch!"
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Oh, how I missed these

  

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