It's been a long time...

I shouldn't left you

I'm gonna open this up to men and women today.


Anything you feeling iffy on in ya relationship?

WE IS GON FIX IT

TODAY

Lets get it.

@geahuwine

I'm trying to see how I can respectfully broach this subject.

Actually there are two of them. Both of them run their departments (I work for a County government) so they're both making decent bread.

And they're both ~ 40ish.

I'm 32. And....why not? But its a dangerous road.

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"D is for what I serve, I don't be on no curb, she aint no junky neither, I ain't no dope dealer" - 3000

U and I are about the same age, and I was getting it in with the head nurse in the surgery dept last year, and she is about the same age as your target

It was glorious...90th percentile at least

old fashion flirting.. show a lil interest.. old hoes get the hint

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be about it or be without it

RIP GOATs

@geahuwine

Try to set it up so she's likely to show. Get to the spot, mingle a bit then try to cut her off from the pack. If there are a lot of office ears around, keep the convo casual & fun (avoid talking about work). At some point, you gotta try to get her alone so you can ask for the phone number or ask to hang out again.

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Now I've DONE it, and I got lucky, shit worked out well, but you gotta understand your margin of error is SO thin...

It's REALLY not worth it. Flirt, look, but don't touch.

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@fakewilliamkatt

"You probably wouldn't worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do!" - Olin Miller

totally difference. don't talk about it either, but you can give off an aire of i want them cakes. eye contact can be flirtatious. your body language should let them know more than your mouth does. and then you'll know if they want it or not. and if they do...just wait for the time when ya'll both got some liquor in your system and let em have it.
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it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.

not compassionate....only polite.

I am not like you at all and i cannot pretend.

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"D is for what I serve, I don't be on no curb, she aint no junky neither, I ain't no dope dealer" - 3000

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cuz streets is watching... *turns up trench lapels*

I'm only annoyed because it's indicative of a much larger pattern that I'm sick of.

I'm tired of niggas telling me I'm awesome. I'm the best ever. Sexy as fuck whatever whatever. Only because it's so superficial at the end of the day. Kats feel like they're being nudged to commit or there's a rush on things and I'm not even asking for anything.... *rolls eyes to the ceiling*

I'm just a down ass chick. I'll cook for you. Buy you dranks. Give little gifts when I can. Smoke you out. Just cuz. I come with no expectations or limitations outside of respect *shrug*

But then respect is the only thing I don't get.

These hoes ain't loyal.
























































































***nottalkingaboutyouspecificallysir******

and you remain the homie
cuz well
folks love kickin it wit they homies.
you just don't kick it with them 24/7.

they see me AWL the time

till they don't :-/



"i wanna hug all u idiotic bastards & then set you all on fire" -Bin

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i love you.
this is true.
you know i do.

you have got to require your dudes to do more than fall thru.
men love games.
and i don't mean trickery
i mean doing certain functions resulting in success.
most of it comes down to courtesy
if a woman is being this kind to me, i should seek to show my appreciation *how*?
a man reveals his thoughtfulness early on
if it's in him, he won't be able but to be who he is

men who like you?
WANT to do nice things for you as well.
that superhomegirl shit yields you nothing you can use
you have got a seed
everything needs to be utile.

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For better or for worse, being too nice will put you in a certain category. It's not right, It's not fair, but it is what it is.











































Or you could stop fucking with lames.

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@fakewilliamkatt

"You probably wouldn't worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do!" - Olin Miller

essentially: she doin too much

and i've been known to be really cakey and accommodating
but you can be lovely with a measure
if i am cooking my food
smoking you out with my green
blowing you on my sheets
plus sending you home with the t-shirt
believe
you have done something for me late-ly

not randoms with no history of clout

nope nope

hence the insistence of respect because it wasn't an issue until shenanigans



"i wanna hug all u idiotic bastards & then set you all on fire" -Bin

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DROkayplayer: Giving you good puff since May '05

that a good friend doesn't always make for a good lover.
Strange to hear, esp when society conditions us to believe that the best, most stable relationships are also friendships but it's true.

And a lot of times people (esp guys) will take everything you've done for them and then throw it back in your face with "well you knew how I was before we started dating/fucking..." or "I didn't ask you to do a/b/c"

here for dis.

i fuck my friends
like
why wouldn't i prefer to be intimate with someone i consider a friend as opposed to not?
i dig.

but if the shit ain't feeling cohesive and rewarding
DO NOT rationalize yourself remaining in that space.
yo
your the-shit-ness will find its level and be exalted!!!

challenge on certain things. Challenge peaks men interest. SOmetimes to easy makes us lose interest.

Are these dudes you may sleep with or just kicking it type situations?
If you are having sex with any of them is the sex good. Cause you could be the perfect catch but only be so so in bed. DO you give dome? Or is it icky. DOes it take you forever to orgasm? That's work not sex. Stuff liek that .

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if you do things like that it may be in your nature, and you may not think anything about it...but someone might find it to be special, and that reaction....it might be more honest than you think.

if you do something and make someone feel a certain way, why shouldn't they express that? it flip side is you doing great things without as much as a heartfelt acknowledgement. i mean thank you is always enough, but it may not really encompass how special you might be. for now. enjoy it while it last. we all have moments of specialty that we can hold on to, but that doesn't equal a lifetime.
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it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.

not compassionate....only polite.

I am not like you at all and i cannot pretend.

I have peeped some of the most unwifeable get chose

and I just shake my head

and accept my singleness*


*technically




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DROkayplayer: Giving you good puff since May '05

prolly by not doing all those things you are doing.

you getting treated like one of the boys because you are acting like the boys...

make a dude take a few steps in your direction, you spoiling these dudes.

But my introvert brain is taking too long to process them all

I will say this...YOU can find someone that appreciates your homegirlness/laid back/kindness

Personally I think its something to the theory that men like high maintenance chicks but dont want to admit it.




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real love is real scary
Money only pays the rent
Love is forever
That's all your life
Love is heaven sent
It's glamorous

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>I will say this...YOU can find someone that appreciates your
>homegirlness/laid back/kindness
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YES!
>Personally I think its something to the theory that men like
>high maintenance chicks but dont want to admit it.

There is some other kind of corollary going on here. It's not the high maintenance itself, it's something else. I think they keep so busy, you don't have time to think. It's like a survivor strategy for their otherwise TERRIBLENESS. After a few go-rounds tho, we figure that shit out. By then, they've moved on. I hate to say it, but nice girls finish last, BUT Y'ALL FINISH. Them bad girls just have a bunch of stutter starts that ultimately go no where.

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@fakewilliamkatt

"You probably wouldn't worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do!" - Olin Miller

either you meet their criteria or you don't.
nice girls aren't devoid of criteria either.

see some dudes
usually by virtue of professional success
believe they have earned a certain type of woman
they should be scouting tier one prospects
then they do it
and realize that machine out there is big.
and your should be good enuff ain't necessarily so.

The high maintanence shit is a game they use to camo that and keep you off kilter for as long as they can.

Most women, when they find someone they REALLY like. Are cooperative as lambs.

Same can be said for men.

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@fakewilliamkatt

"You probably wouldn't worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do!" - Olin Miller

maybe not with your offerings
but what I'm saying is the flip side of what you are.
she concedes when she's smitten
there exists a dude who'll concede to her once he is.

there is a man for what she's asking it ain't no sweat to it.
one man's trash and all.

See, now here is a woman that is the same age, but is the opposite and does the complete opposite of what I do (for the better) and still gets the bullshit.

It's these niggas, not you.

Let me tell you *rocks in rocking chair* when I was your age, you young women were on that SERIOUS bullshit too.

Just wait few more years.

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@fakewilliamkatt

"You probably wouldn't worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do!" - Olin Miller

u a homegirl but do u wanna be the main girl??

@geahuwine

i.e. I'm a culinary professional
BUT
best believe that you ain't getting a home cooked meal out of me while we're just dating/courting
for me if I care enough about you to feed you then it's way past just fucking and we're approaching LTR territory. FOH with overextending myself when the other party is just doing the bare minimum or just getting more for less period.

here for dis.

maybe I have to edit my instincts

:-/



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you aren't getting what you want so change it up a little...

I mean it's a privilege and I damn sure don't hand it out willy nilly but that's all I really fucking want

thanks for nada


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DROkayplayer: Giving you good puff since May '05

not being addressed out the gate/as it's occurring?

you can use your inside voice and let em know.

ain't no game to be played.

lines blur vaguely


I'm so much better about voicing my displeasure when such events occur but gosh, when I was younger.....

folks start getting that comfy
time to start yanking some pillows from beneath heads.

think of it this way:
whatever issues you don't address you are essentially giving them your express permission to continue.

you know how to communicate with ppl.

by nature I am the same. exact. way.

but being nice out the gate in these dating skreets will have you fucked in, fucked out and fucked up.
Men in general only respect what is earned, not given
and to be that fucking fly off top?
Even if you think it's nothing, these cats be thinking it's something
and either it's "damn, now I feel obligated to reciprocate"
OR
"she must do this with everybody" (not just the fucking either)

Just let things be
I've learned to curb that urge for action by being still and waiting.
you gotta learn to sift people's intentions through their action and what I've found works for me is watching their consistency.
Someone who is consistently kind and considerate of me outside of needing something from me can get ALLDISLUV
someone who is flaky or sometimey only gets but so much and that's after I've done my what-have-you-done-for-me-lately tally.

here for dis.

I think an early considerate just knocked himself down to strictly friends


fuck.dat.




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I call it doing girlfriend work on a buddy salary

As an anecdote my hubs didnt think I could cook full meals before we got married LOL
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real love is real scary
Money only pays the rent
Love is forever
That's all your life
Love is heaven sent
It's glamorous

What is it about you that you need to look at and review?



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What should I wear to ensure optimum success meeting DECENT guys.

Dress me, head to toe including how I should wear my hair. I'm going to take y'all's advice tonight

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"D is for what I serve, I don't be on no curb, she aint no junky neither, I ain't no dope dealer" - 3000

I've done it before and I don't get wasted. Plus I feel like men are more inclined to approach when I'm alone vs when I'm with a friend/friends.

Men are more likely to approach if ur dolo.

I have done this before.
I went out solo. Decided on how many dranks I was gone have before I got there.
Some guy snatched me up, dancing with me all night, you would have sworn we came together.
At the end of the night, I chucked the dueces.

Fun times all around.

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This ain't THAT and THAT ain't THIS

what are you looking for here?

no cleavage
thighs covered

you've got the bomb shape
just emphasize it
go the conservative route
i know chicks in there gonna be dressed to break necks
but trust me.

and don't forget your smile.

and when you walk in don't search the room like you're looking for someone
head to the bar
order
and place yourself where you're not totally vulnerable
where you can see who's approaching.

and wear your hair up

since you're not showing the blatant goods, show the curve of your neck, the tone in your arms, dainty feet what not what not

not too heavy on the makeup either, it's dim lighting in there already you know?


"i wanna hug all u idiotic bastards & then set you all on fire" -Bin

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@fakewilliamkatt

"You probably wouldn't worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do!" - Olin Miller

Imma give it a try

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Cause every dress I own is tight. They might not show cleavage and are calf length but they tight as hell lol.