Yes I know it's 2014 and we'd like believe that we live in a somewhat post racial society, but we all know that that isn't the truth.

Care to share your experiences here?

1. If you tend to date interracially, why? Upbringing? Negative or positive social experiences and interactions? Are there really any actual obstacles that you have to deal with when dating interracially or is it exaggerated? When dating interracially, what racial groups do you usually have to most success with and what do you attribute that success to?

2. If you've dated interracially before but still tend to date within your race, were the experiences negative, positive, different? What did you learn whilst dating (other)? Was there any opposition? If so, from who? How did your friends and family recieve it?

3. If you've never dated interracially but are open to it, what is stopping you from having that experience? Is there a specific race that you want to have this experience with? If any, what reservations do you have about dating interracially? What races do you feel you would have the most and the least success with?

4. If you've never dated interracially, and will not date interracially, why? Do you feel any way towards those that choose to date interracially? Do you find individuals outside of your own race attractive? Is race preservation ie (wanting to have kids of the same race as yourself) part of your adversion?

Choose whatever description applies to you, and answer the questions.

Lastly, this is for everyone, do you think that there is a growing momentum of black women being thirsty for white men? It's just a reoccurring theme on black Twitter and Id care to hear some of your commentary on it. Lol.

Also, do you feel as though black men are thirsty for non-black women?

Edited because I wanted to include a questions specially for the gays, do you feel as though the taboo of interracial dating is less within the gay community?

smash.... diff story, but date. Nope.

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I have been in love with "sistas" my whole life. Dating or anything more serious with anyone outside my race never really appealed to me.

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This could be good.

I have nothing to add but this should be interesting.
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real love is real scary
Money only pays the rent
Love is forever
That's all your life
Love is heaven sent
It's glamorous

I've dated everything you could imagine.

and

I've noticed some folks say "you can get away with anything when you date a beckie"

nah. thats only with the dumb chicks you pick.

at the end of the day for the most part

on the inside

people are the same.

want a strong willed woman that wont take shit? you can find that quality in any race.

want a super submissive woman that will be at your every call? you can find that quality in any race

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*black or black and...

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"You can't beat white people. You can only knock them out."

Pick a category 1-4 that applies to you and answer the 3 maybe 4 questions that follow.

Fuck.

Just being contrary in typical OKP fashion.

too many assumptions of what my answers might be and the assumptions tend to reveal a bias that made me not want to answer the questions.

fuck you.

fuck you.

I put myself into the mind of each one of these categories and thought what are things that people might want to know if I was in said category. But perhaps I failed.

>Yes I know it's 2014 and we'd like believe that we live in a
>somewhat post racial society, but we all know that that isn't
>the truth.
>
>Care to share your experiences here?
>
>1. If you tend to date interracially, why? Upbringing?
>Negative or positive social experiences and interactions? Are
>there really any actual obstacles that you have to deal with
>when dating interracially or is it exaggerated? When dating
>interracially, what racial groups do you usually have to most
>success with and what do you attribute that success

I don't tend to, but there were like only token white people around growing up so didn't have a ton of opportunity too. But I have clicked with white guys before, they tend to be intimidated by me. they kinda stare from afar but don't really say anything. bout 20% of my dating experience has been with white dudes. 10% Asian. 70% black


>
>2. If you've dated interracially before but still tend to date
>within your race, were the experiences negative, positive,
>different? What did you learn whilst dating (other)? Was there
>any opposition? If so, from who? How did your friends and
>family recieve it?
>

dealt with the same issues all around. the same positives and the same negatives in general. I wouldn't say one was better than the other. on one hand I can relate to black dudes better for obvious reasons, grew up in the A and inundated with blackness 24/7, but dudes of other races also have an exoticness to them that is exciting in interesting. but you tend to objectify them and they you, which can be fun but ultimately just kinda pointless. but I also know very happy and successful interracial couples so, to each his own. I think it all depends on how you're raised and what you're perspective is whether you have a successful relationship or not, its not so much about race.



>3. If you've never dated interracially but are open to it,
>what is stopping you from having that experience? Is there a
>specific race that you want to have this experience with? If
>any, what reservations do you have about dating interracially?
>What races do you feel you would have the most and the least
>success with?

N/A

>
>4. If you've never dated interracially, and will not date
>interracially, why? Do you feel any way towards those that
>choose to date interracially? Do you find individuals outside
>of your own race attractive? Is race preservation ie (wanting
>to have kids of the same race as yourself) part of your
>adversion?
>
>Choose whatever description applies to you, and answer the
>questions.
>
>Lastly, this is for everyone, do you think that there is a
>growing momentum of black women being thirsty for white men?
>It's just a reoccurring theme on black Twitter and Id care to
>hear some of your commentary on it. Lol.
>
>Also, do you feel as though black men are thirsty for
>non-black women?

Um, the way the media portrays black men you would think so. but the black men that ive known in my life don't really seem to spaz out over white women. but let chris rock tell it and its the opposite so...


>Edited because I wanted to include a questions specially for
>the gays, do you feel as though the taboo of interracial
>dating is less within the gay community?

probably in the south because interracial dating is just more taboo in the south in general (well everythings taboo in the south lol) not gay by the way but grew up in the A so I think that qualifies me

but I guess i'd just want to be with someone that I felt at peace and safe and content with, someone I could work and play and build with mentally and physically. if I found someone like this I feel like I could marry them, but the whole marriage ceremony thing is kinda embaressing to me, like a big dog and pony show. ionno.

>Yes I know it's 2014 and we'd like believe that we live in a
>somewhat post racial society, but we all know that that isn't
>the truth.
>
>Care to share your experiences here?
>
>1. If you tend to date interracially, why? Upbringing?
>Negative or positive social experiences and interactions? Are
>there really any actual obstacles that you have to deal with
>when dating interracially or is it exaggerated? When dating
>interracially, what racial groups do you usually have to most
>success with and what do you attribute that success to?

I always just went with the flow. I like women. I've dated White (like post-ethnic super honkey Newark, Ohio WHITE white), Arab, Korean, Dominican, W. Indian, Puerto Rican, Black, W. African (well, mixed), Jewish, Italian, and Irish -- in no particular order. My wife's Black, so I guess that's who I've had the most success with...?

Nothing particular to upbringing. Just going with the flow, really.

*EDIT* As for responses, I never had a problem til college, which was in Cleveland. I got jumped by Black fraternity members, my wife was basically excommunicated from Blackness by the BAPs, we couldn't get seated at restaurants (especially downtown -- I doubt Fat Fish Blue is still in business) and would get generally stared at in public. Maybe that's changed. I don't know. I'm too old to give a shit in 2014.

Anyway. Yeah. My penis did most of my thinking through the early 2000s.

Which of these groups would you be least likely to date again?

of jerk-off to limit your options over some bullshit.

People are either compatible or they're not.

Race, class, culture -- if you're not as asshole about your differences and feel out how they complement each other, you'll be happy with whoever you're with.

grew up in the burbs, dated a white girl my senior year. She was cool, but her grandfather beat the shit out of her one night when he found out we were dating. It's hard not to date a white girl in the burbs when they giving you keys to the BMW and the house is empty because the parents are out of the country.

Once I got to college tho... it was all black everything until I met an Indian. Baddest woman I ever knew.

Almost forgot about the messican I dated who was from Chicago. She was baaaad too. But when she tried to make it into a long distance real relationship I was like... nah son.

Transferred to VCU and shit got real. That school is mixed up with all types of everything. Met an Asian or two. First Asian was cool but she only dated Black dudes. I find issues when someone ONLY dates a certain race outside their own.

Second Asian was probably my "almost" soul mate. We had so much in common. To this day I love this girl and wonder if I made a mistake. I can't front tho, when I went to her house and they started speaking Vietnamese I couldn't rock with it. I forced myself not to be with her because of my issues with race. She also smelled a little funny when wet. No snark, just had that white smell.

My wife is Black and she is my soul mate. I know I made the right decision.

When I was with these other races I was always thinking about race and it had me fucked up. I over analyzed EVERYTHING when I dated outside my race. Dating a Black woman we just "get it" when shit is obvious. No discussions or educating each other.

>grew up in the burbs, dated a white girl my senior year. She
>was cool, but her grandfather beat the shit out of her one
>night when he found out we were dating. It's hard not to date
>a white girl in the burbs when they giving you keys to the BMW
>and the house is empty because the parents are out of the
>country.

Did yall continue to be friends after that?


>Once I got to college tho... it was all black everything until
>I met an Indian. Baddest woman I ever knew.

What kind of Indian?


>Almost forgot about the messican I dated who was from Chicago.
>She was baaaad too. But when she tried to make it into a long
>distance real relationship I was like... nah son.
>
> I find issues when
>someone ONLY dates a certain race outside their own.

Why is that,? Fetishy?



>Second Asian was probably my "almost" soul mate. We had so
>much in common. To this day I love this girl and wonder if I
>made a mistake. I can't front tho, when I went to her house
>and they started speaking Vietnamese I couldn't rock with it.
>I forced myself not to be with her because of my issues with
>race. She also smelled a little funny when wet. No snark, just
>had that white smell.

Lmao, how did her family feel about you?


>My wife is Black and she is my soul mate. I know I made the
>right decision.
>
>When I was with these other races I was always thinking about
>race and it had me fucked up. I over analyzed EVERYTHING when
>I dated outside my race. Dating a Black woman we just "get it"
>when shit is obvious. No discussions or educating each other.

Care to elaborate on what types of things that you were constantly over analyzing?

>Did yall continue to be friends after that?

we fell out for a minute but we are cool. Still friends on FB.


>
>What kind of Indian?

ionno, India but not sure if it was north or south. Didn't care. We went to see Mississippi Masala on our first date.

>
>> I got issue when
>>someone ONLY dates a certain race outside their own.
>Why is that,? Fetishy?
yup... I understand preferences but if you ONLY date o i reside your race and it's ONLY one specific race it throws me off.

dudes used to think it was cool when a white girl said she hates white people. That ain't cool, that is weird to me.



>
>Lmao, how did her family feel about you?

her mom went off the first time she saw me. it's not like I was the first Black guy she seen because her older sister also dated black guys. I bet it was more of a "not you too" type of discussions.

I asked her why her mom was talking about me right in front of me. she thought I knew Vietnamese but we know when people are talking shit, regardless of the language barrier.

>
>Care to elaborate on what types of things that you were
>constantly over analyzing?

just wondering what other people are thinking. making sure she didn't slip up and say something insensitive...which was hard because I was being super sensitive due to being in an interracial relationship.

I wonder if I let a good one slip away because I worried too much about what other people thought about our relationship.

Same shit with women regardless of race. Sometimes there's family drama with cross-cultural relationships, but within the relationship, I didn't notice any real differences in the dynamics.

No black woman ever gave me a dirty look when I was with an Asian or Latina.

If I found myself back on the market post-40, I'd be less likely to date white women moving forward.

let's be honest here

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Or it's misinterpretation. Maybe they're looking at the girl because she's really pretty? Or just pondering her ethnicity, I know for me it's usually one or the other but usually the first. I like pretty, well put together chicks.

Speaking of misinterpretation, reminds of me of one time when I was in the club, actually like 2 weeks ago. Yall know I recently moved back to the A and so when I go out I see lots of classmates that I haven't seen in years, and a lot of them look BAD. Like really bad. So anyway I was the club with my best friend and I saw this dude named willie, we used to call him ham head because he had no neck, well he looked really bad and I wasn't sure if it was him so I nudged her and asked her to look to see if it was him. He was accompanied by some white chick at the bar, so after confirming that it was him, we start laughing and giggling to ourselves cause he was lookin so busted and dusty. In typical white woman that dates black men fashion, I guess she thought we were talking about her or them being together and she starts being all extra. We noted her behavior, laughed at her too and went back to our bottle of patron. But it was was just funny because she automatically assumed that we were making a fuss over her. Please.

>So anyway I was the club with my
>best friend and I saw this dude named willie, we used to call
>him ham head because he had no neck, well he looked really bad
>and I wasn't sure if it was him so I nudged her and asked her
>to look to see if it was him. He was accompanied by some white
>chick at the bar, so after confirming that it was him, we
>start laughing and giggling to ourselves cause he was lookin
>so busted and dusty.

i dunno that Willie dates white chicks. and i dunno that if he does it's b/c he feels slighted by Black women.

but this story sure does play right into that stereotype. and it justifies it - meaning based on this i'd understand Willie if he said he doesn't date Black b/c Black women reject and belittle him.

fuck you.

Which was my first thought, but I could be wrong.

He was a popular athlete in high school, so I don't really think black women slighted him, well then. But that 6 years ago so idk.

fuck you.

So, we'll leave it at that.

j/k

i do but i'm not sure i can communicate it.

fuck you.

Captain obvious

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>If I found myself back on the market post-40, I'd be less
>likely to date white women moving forward.

>No black woman ever gave me a dirty look when I was with an
>Asian or Latina.

I had a Filipina I was seeing for a minute. We went to Fairlane Mall in Dearborn one Saturday for some shopping. We got nothing but dirty ass looks and slick ass comments from the sistas the whole time we were there except for one older sista that was a security guard. She actually stopped us while we were walking and told us "You two make such a beautiful couple".

Any time I was out with her it was the same thing. Didn't help that we met at work 'cause the a lot of the sistas there were one some other shit. Wouldnt' give me any play but took extreme issue with me and her always being together.

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Like there is stupid, and then there is you, and then there is dead. - VAsBestBBW

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If that niga was 5'10" he would be telling your story.

....?

She would notice it while we were in the stores, how some chicks were lookin her up and down and side-eyeing her. We both would overhear lil slick shit being said by chicks behind us. And you know how some chicks can be, loud as fuck up in the mall trying to make a scene.

"No this nigga didn't bring miss ching chong up in here like it's all good!"

That security guard made us feel better on an otherwise fucked up trip to the mall.

We shoulda went to Oakland Mall or Somerset. I doubt we would have had the same experience.

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Like there is stupid, and then there is you, and then there is dead. - VAsBestBBW

R.I.P. Disco D

plus some Black women make sure to let you know how they feel.

My dick is racist (c) John mayer

last time i went out with a white dude he tried to kiss me and it was so weird bc there was nothing for my lips to grab on to. it was like my lips kissing his mustache.

i also hate it when cultural differences/tastes start popping up. like this one dude i went out with tried to tell me juice was a bad movie. he challenged me to make a case for it and im like, nah, its fucking juice. tupac is in it so fuck you.

yes i do think black women/white men is a growing trend. and yes i do think a lot of black men have been thirsty for nonblack women. but i also think its easier for black men to date interracially bc men tend to be the dominant partners...its easier for a white or nonblack woman to become immersed and welcomed into black culture than it is for a black woman to become immersed and welcomed into white culture.

>last time i went out with a white dude he tried to kiss me
>and it was so weird bc there was nothing for my lips to grab
>on to. it was like my lips kissing his mustache.
>

Kidding a white dude with thin lips is like kissing the back of your band lol.


>i also hate it when cultural differences/tastes start popping
>up. like this one dude i went out with tried to tell me juice
>was a bad movie. he challenged me to make a case for it and im
>like, nah, its fucking juice. tupac is in it so fuck you.
>
>yes i do think black women/white men is a growing trend. and
>yes i do think a lot of black men have been thirsty for
>nonblack women. but i also think its easier for black men to
>date interracially bc men tend to be the dominant
>partners...its easier for a white or nonblack woman to become
>immersed and welcomed into black culture than it is for a
>black woman to become immersed and welcomed into white
>culture.
Interesting. Never really heard it put that way. Do you think that black women in general are preferred less by white and other men? Or how have your experiences been with them approaching you?

Have you ever dated other than black or white men?

It was so disturbing...like kissing the sharp edge of a table.
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way better selection of women (who will actually date u)
and less social stigma
if i were in paris or berlin a white woman might be my FIRST choice in all seriousness


to your 1st question
if you live/grew up in a majority white community you get a pass
a whole section of my family are basically half breeds because the majority of my family grew up/lived in lily white communities
i can't look at my cousin side ways when pickings were slim

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>1. If you tend to date interracially, why? Upbringing?
>Negative or positive social experiences and interactions? Are
>there really any actual obstacles that you have to deal with
>when dating interracially or is it exaggerated? When dating
>interracially, what racial groups do you usually have to most
>success with and what do you attribute that success to?

The dating pool was limited and I rocked with the person who showed interest. Pretty simple. The interracial aspect wasn't that big of a deal, b/c my mom is biracial and my parents are different races. So, it's not like I was breaking new ground. As far as dating other races and success, I've found that it varies based on the geography. Down south it was more taboo. Up north, not so much. Racial politics vary from location to location and that's going to influence the dating experience.


>2. If you've dated interracially before but still tend to date
>within your race, were the experiences negative, positive,
>different? What did you learn whilst dating (other)? Was there
>any opposition? If so, from who? How did your friends and
>family recieve it?

For the most part, it was the same. There are cultural differences, but those vary. I mean, a black person dating someone latino is gonna be able to find more common ground that a black person dating someone white.


>Choose whatever description applies to you, and answer the
>questions.

>Lastly, this is for everyone, do you think that there is a
>growing momentum of black women being thirsty for white men?
>It's just a reoccurring theme on black Twitter and Id care to
>hear some of your commentary on it. Lol.

>Also, do you feel as though black men are thirsty for
>non-black women?

>Edited because I wanted to include a questions specially for
>the gays, do you feel as though the taboo of interracial
>dating is less within the gay community?

Again, it depends where you are. It's more taboo in the south, but I've seen it be more common other places. However, the gay community, like the country-at-large, is still fairly segregated. So, in most cases people date within their race, because that's how they interact socially.

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Interestingly enough, I always thought that the gay community would be a lot less segregated then the straight. But as you said, location plays a major factor in it all.

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but he's always adamant about being defined on those terms. So, I try to respect it.

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Cuz ummm

I'd get down but we ain't goin out

Unless they a game changer


Who am I kidding. ..option 4

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>Cuz ummm
>
>I'd get down but we ain't goin out
>
>Unless they a game changer
>
>
>Who am I kidding. ..option 4

Why is that?

And I don't know how to holla @ (regular) yt girls

I've been attracted to some but i dont think its mutual and they don't carry it like sistas...sistas will either holla or give a sign that they feeling me...I ain't non corny nigga nor do I go hard @ em and those who they respond to

So...I just stay in my comfort zone

I wouldn't go out wit em cuz this is Smalltimore and I aint trying to get blacklisted

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The only negative experiences I had involved black men trying to come at me on the sly when it was clear I was with the dude

Most hilarious experience was riding the subway with my at the time boyfriend and having a black dude (who was with his very white girl) give me a side eye when my boyfriend kissed me

For a while after me and that dude broke up the only dudes who were hitting on me were white dudes- I was convinced that there was a memo that went out that said I was swirl friendly

>The only negative experiences I had involved black men trying
>to come at me on the sly when it was clear I was with the
>dude

Do u think that black men just do this anyway? Lol. I could be wrong tho. But in the instances of black women dating other, it's been my experience that black men are usually the ones doing the opposing in public.

>Most hilarious experience was riding the subway with my at the
>time boyfriend and having a black dude (who was with his very
>white girl) give me a side eye when my boyfriend kissed me

I really wonder what he was thinking lol.

>For a while after me and that dude broke up the only dudes who
>were hitting on me were white dudes- I was convinced that
>there was a memo that went out that said I was swirl friendly

Maybe you look white boy friendly? Lol. Certain women have that " I date white men" look.

>Do u think that black men just do this anyway? Lol. I could be
>wrong tho. But in the instances of black women dating other,
>it's been my experience that black men are usually the ones
>doing the opposing in public.

I probably should say sly cause sometimes it was mad blatant and my boyfriend would get upset and have "stare down" contests
>>Most hilarious experience was riding the subway with my at
>the
>>time boyfriend and having a black dude (who was with his
>very
>>white girl) give me a side eye when my boyfriend kissed me
>
>I really wonder what he was thinking lol.

He probably was wondering why did I "give up" on black men I had more than one black dude (who dates white women) make that assumption
>
>>For a while after me and that dude broke up the only dudes
>who
>>were hitting on me were white dudes- I was convinced that
>>there was a memo that went out that said I was swirl
>friendly
>
>Maybe you look white boy friendly? Lol. Certain women have
>that " I date white men" look.
Pretty sure I don't have that look..I'm about 15 years away from looking like someone's "Aunt Yvette"
Plus I think the memo has expired cause white dudes don't check for me as much as they used to

and I prefer black. Mostly for reasons regarding chemistry and the way we'd view society and how we'd go about navigating it together. I don't see myself being able to do that with a non-black woman unless I was a lot less opinionated. I've tried and they don't see what I see and I don't really have time to explain that shit anymore.

Plus, to be honest, the black women I've dated have been a lot more mature.

I'm still open to an interracial relationship. Certain women of course, depending on her mind and the chemistry we have. But I'm not looking to and I would rather not.

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>and I prefer black. Mostly for reasons regarding chemistry
>and the way we'd view society and how we'd go about navigating
>it together. I don't see myself being able to do that with a
>non-black woman unless I was a lot less opinionated. I've
>tried and they don't see what I see and I don't really have
>time to explain that shit anymore.

Care to share some things that you constantly had to explain?

Cooked great, always had that good na na. Loved to kick it. all around good chick

Was really into black culture, like she was focused on having a black husband.

She was a cutie, but it was undergrad, would wife today probably..

>Cooked great, always had that good na na. Loved to kick it.
>all around good chick
>
>Was really into black culture, like she was focused on having
>a black husband.
>
>She was a cutie, but it was undergrad, would wife today
>probably..

What she used to cook? I haven't the slightest clue as to what Hawaiian cuisine is. When I think of Hawaiian food, I think of those whole suckling pigs.

Then we would drink, go to the club and them get intimate for hours. ...EXCELLENT times.