my mother had a good relationship with my grandparents. they always loved her and treated her the same.

and then i got married.

my mother-in-law is manipulative as shit. my husband doesn't want to get in the middle of anything. i want things to be better between her and i, but every couple of months there is some more damn drama.

we are in quite a situation. we were renting and then my husbands father died. his mother wanted to move into a house that was all one level because she's getting old and lacks mobility. their house that my husband grew up in is paid off and she gave it to us. we thought this was a blessing as we combined have close to 100k in student loans to pay off and money was tight when we were renting. she said until she dies the house stays in her name but she doesn't want to have anything to do with it. we just have to pay the property taxes and take care of the house. she said we can do what we want with the house.

i told my husband i did not want to move into the house without a rental agreement. she said she needed some time to put it together but to go ahead and move in. we did. 6 months later still not agreement. every time we asked about she was like why are you in such a rush.

fast forward to this weekend. we have two dogs and since its gotten cold we have been battling with mice in the house. i literally am starting to go insane. my daughter wanted a cat for her birthday. i'm like sounds like a win win to me. we get a cat that's a mouser and she gets a new pet. his family has only come in the house once since july because they claim to be allergic to animals. so we go to the spca to adopt a cat. went two days in a row spent about 6 hours of our weekend in a damn animal shelter and we finally pick a cat. we all fell in love. we get down to the point where they have cleared everything on our application and then they say, oh your house comes up in the system as being listed to your mother in law. we need her approval. they call she says no. she's allergic. now mind you she said she wants nothing to do with the house, doesn't come over, but says no. my kid cried all the way home.

she thinks i'm spoiled. has told my husband that. it all started when he bought me an ipad for christmas a couple years ago. she refused to help at all with our wedding because she thought that i wanted to have a lavish and expensive wedding. we asked her to pay for the food truck that was catering our rehearsal dinner for $350 bucks. she said no before we ever even talked about how much it would cost. and then her bitch ass showed up uninvited to our rehearsal dinner. but then she gives us a 2000 check for our wedding gift. i had broke my leg before the wedding and was out of work (self employed as a dog walker) for 5 months. We quickly went through our savings with all the deposits for wedding vendors and covering my half of the rent. basically, any time i ask for something or need her help with something she says no. there are so many other examples i could go on for days.

i'm so angry right now, i just want to move out and rent something again. my husband obviously wants to stay. the money we save works out to be more that 10k a year. he's dealt with her bullshit for most of his life, so it's normal to him. His stance is if i want to beef with her than so be it, he's just trying to stay out of it. i feel abandoned and angry that we are here. we've been rehabbing the house and have put quite a bit of money in at this point. so to leave would kind of be a waste of all that time, energy, and money. i am at a loss for what to do. i'm contemplating going to stay with my parents--but that's pretty fucking crazy too.

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