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 if yes, please explain |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 1
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 Again, read this wrong. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 64
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| i dunno |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 2
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| It's not about right or wrong. You changed your mind, does that |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 44
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| i didn't say anything about right or wrong... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 59
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| i really don't see how you could complain |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 3
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 ^^^^ |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 5
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| the argument against it, is that he has evolved and now needs this |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 9
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| Yuh. That's what I was thinking. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 14
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| still, he can't do that |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 156
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| idk about the cheating part, i agree w/the rest. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 243
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| people (men) sometimes try to justify their cheating |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 399
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| If I wanted a fam and she didn't and told me BEFORE the hitch, |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 4
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| if he told me Before, then i married him with intentions of staying.. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 6
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| lol @ the green optinon |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 7
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| I'm obv wrong in this situation, but that feeling isn't something |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 8
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| that too. it isnt a black and white thing.... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 12
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| I understand it, cause it's plenty of women who will not |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 13
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| i don't like kids that much. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 10
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| she got a fertile sister? I'm knockin her up. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 11
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| it would suck and you would be in the "wrong" but whats the alternative? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 15
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| So you saying you would leave right? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 17
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 EYE've never not wanted kids so I wouldn't be in the sitch. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 21
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| that too. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 25
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| ^ |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 96
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| is adoption on the table? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 16
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| no because it's not about physically having the child |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 19
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| regretfully not for me |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 26
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| depends on what is it about... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 33
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| If it were my husband, we would have to have a SERIOUS conversation |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 18
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| The way I see it, is that you can never take back having a child |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 23
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| Yea but you don't know for sure because you've never done it |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 39
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| i think being mothering is an innate natural process. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 247
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| your question is posed with no solution |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 20
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| ^^^^ This |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 50
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| I don't want kids AT ALL. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 22
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| ppl think that your love for one another will change your mind |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 141
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| not if i love her. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 24
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| you think that's fair given she made it clear from the start? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 30
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| fairness doesn't matter. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 47
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| I wouldn't cheat. I'd straight up let her know I'm having a child. n/m |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 27
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| this is when Big Brother/Sister becomes a great option... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 28
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| never would have married her in the first place |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 29
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| so being wife material automatically requires being a mom? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 31
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| yes |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 34
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| there are married men who don't ever want children |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 36
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| of course there are...i am not that man |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 40
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| that's them, and they should find a wife that feels the same |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 41
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| see #9 and #45 |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 46
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| divorce amicablly and hope you find who u are looking for |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 51
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| for me, absolutely the DESIRE had to be there |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 37
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| i mean for some men. for you husband material should mean |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 38
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| the the issue lies in him being on the same page prior to marriage |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 45
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| girl i am on your side.. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 54
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| yeah, it's not an issue of not being ready |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 65
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| he's trying to change the rules in the middle of the game |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 67
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| basically, if you don't want kids you better marry a man that already... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 42
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| this would be ideal |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 57
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| But...that makes you a MOM. Step-MOM. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 218
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| Of course not! Being HIS wife means being a mom |
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Oct 23rd 2013 |
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| the conditions changed though |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 83
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| yeah, that sucks. But relationships change. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 90
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| For HIM, yes. But of course not, in general. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 112
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| lol |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 179
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| lol why do yall keep responding like this |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 63
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| i keep saying it... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 73
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| don't project that crock of shit on me |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 84
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| i'm not talking about you J_Sun. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 95
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| ^^^^^^^^^ |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 110
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| . |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 151
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| I can only respond based on my expierience |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 74
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| I guess what im saying is why respond at all if thats the case? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 99
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| me and my wife wanted kids when we got married |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 115
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| i did...my wife would walk |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 77
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| yeah folks are answering a question that wasn't asked. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 129
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| ^ |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 72
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| if i signed up for it then i signed up for it...BUT if we got a host of |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 32
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| we wouldnt have been married in the first place |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 35
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| he changed. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 43
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| If it was me...divorce |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 48
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| he has a right to change his mind... if they aren't on the same page |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 232
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| I never understood childless couples by choice. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 49
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| not everyone needs children to complete them |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 52
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| I can get no children (sort of), I just don't understand monogamous |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 76
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| being monogamous is not tied to having children |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 80
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| Of course not. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 93
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| Oh God, you on some othershit w/this. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 82
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| What exactly were you agreeing with? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 194
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| stfu. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 98
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| you don't have to understand everything. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 55
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| Wait, now it's wrong to share opinions on OKP? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 66
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| it is ignorance though |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 70
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| When I say "I don't understand" I think its clear that I don't know |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 89
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| Your comments were judgemental |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 94
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| i agree |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 174
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| b/c you're the asshole throwing stones |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 104
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| throwing stones and hiding your hands. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 79
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| :) |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 88
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| ^^^there it is |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 107
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| I like this! I'ma remember it. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 109
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| Woot! |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 150
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| *open mouth kisses you* |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 175
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| This is why I heart you.....AMEN to all that Sowhat.... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 176
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| OKP has never been a judgement free zone. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 180
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| *golf clap* the breakdown is so thorough |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 183
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| yeah you read a lot into my question which wasn't there. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 203
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| Perfect. |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 420
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| Lol |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 69
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| wait what? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 87
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| Hey yall the ones who see it as a terrible thing. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 222
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| because being married isn't ONLY just about children |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 154
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| What can I say, maybe you have a better marriage than me. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 210
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| never be honest on okp Buddy |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 229
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| theres nothing wrong with ur life, just recognize there is nothing |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 248
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| don't be dense |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 369
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| i hope OKP is still around in 30 years |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 53
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| as if they're the 1st set of women to decide not to have kids. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 56
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| janey did i thought...but couldnt. i thought. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 61
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| nope. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 68
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| some men believe that's what we are here for, sole purpose |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 75
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| you know? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 81
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| I don't think that's a fair comment. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 86
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| that's why I said "some men" and a lot do think like that |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 91
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| Anecdotally yes |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 100
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| as if we havent been actually raising and nurturing kids all this time! |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 177
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| I helped raise 4 kids that were really close to me |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 184
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| a weird thing...most of the kids in my family wish i was their mom. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 191
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| looking at green |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 92
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| That's 2 votes. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 105
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| 2 too many |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 127
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| why wouldn't they raise them? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 157
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| yeah but some dudes think we are baby machines |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 159
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| *guilty as charged* |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 116
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| I already knew you felt this way |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 119
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| WHOA!!! is this abt your situation?! |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 121
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| smh |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 234
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| oh good grief |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 299
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| what?! yall act like im a genius or something |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 388
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| that's that good fear based thinking... oh you'll be alone... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 152
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| isn't it obvious?.. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 380
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| no shit they exist. i wanna see em @ 50. like i said. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 102
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| ask janey. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 106
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| i aint asking janey shit but anal sex tips. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 117
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| I never really wanted children |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 153
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| what did you tell her? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 228
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| RE: what did you tell her? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 321
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| thanks for sharing those |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 361
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| My boss is 50+ and childless |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 114
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| her life seems AWESOME!was her childlessness the catalyst? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 120
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| It may have been but to say their life will be hard and lonely |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 128
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| that's my problem with it, is that attitude that it's wrong |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 131
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| Yup. My mom told me I've done nothing with my life |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 137
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| no one ever thought i'd be a mom. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 251
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| reading comprehension took a L |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 139
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| having kids is 1000 x more selfish |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 160
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| youre on drugs. nm |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 166
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| nah son, you are |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 168
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| reoccurring theme! |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 178
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| i actually agree |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 227
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| Another coworker is childless |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 123
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| My coworker has been with her husband for 15 yrs, childless. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 126
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| I had a tubal ligation at 36 |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 149
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| my God mom never had kids |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 118
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| people hold children and marriage up as the only way to be happy |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 124
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| the concept of "happy" is some childish shit. having kids |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 132
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| everyone does not feel a need to leave a legacy on this earth |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 136
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| Other ways to leave legacy |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 138
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| Exactly!! There is/wiil be plenty of proof of her existence without kids... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 146
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| actual facts. god bless you |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 140
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| Why is the concept of happy childish... ? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 379
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| Or the only way to be altruistic. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 133
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| RE: Or the only way to be altruistic. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 134
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| i don't hate kids at all. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 249
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| unless it was a medical issue i'd have to get gone. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 58
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| I totally read this wrong. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 60
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| you read wrong again, lol |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 71
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| I didn't mean you, personally. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 78
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| nevermind. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 62
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| Would you leave if you felt that much pressure to |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 85
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| i dont blame dudes for leaving |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 97
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| unfortunately the green option happens though |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 103
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| i'm mad just thinking about it |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 125
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| Yeah it's no ones fault |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 108
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| no fault - i agree. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 113
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| i do. she was clear about who she was |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 145
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| me either |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 158
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| eeeh there is some fault, wife said upfront and hubby agreed |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 161
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| I don't think he intentionally did that |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 162
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| oh i didnt say he did....she can still feel betrayed by the switch up |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 171
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| ppl change. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 164
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| :) yup |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 165
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| i agree |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 169
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| yea definitely, one spouse changing their mind still aint fair to the |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 172
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| even if it his 'fault' - so what? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 189
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| ur right, ppl co-signing no fault no fault just annoyed me |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 192
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| i'm w/you on that. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 196
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| yes me too. it's really awful. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 252
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| I would leave |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 101
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| to be clear, i think the previous agreement is a BIG DEAL |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 111
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| why kids/no kids get yall so riled up? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 122
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| People fighting to be right about their own life choices |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 130
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| RE: People fighting to be right about their own life choices |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 142
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| my thing is it's really obnoxious for people to not believe |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 144
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| A friend of mine from High School... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 135
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| Damn right I would, because I want kids |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 143
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| |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 147
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| marriage really doesn't have anything to do with it |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 167
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| Yup :( |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 170
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| i think the point is that its easier to get out of other relationships |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 173
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| its easier in the sense of you don't have to worry about |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 186
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| i was actually speaking realistically about the long term... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 223
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| ^^^ |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 224
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| that's cute but confuses the issue in this post. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 237
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| that's not accurate... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 253
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| oh okay. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 274
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| the use of TONE by both sides in here is what okp is all about |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 148
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| RE: the use of TONE by both sides in here is what okp is all about |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 241
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| I have a friend who went through this |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 155
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| word |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 181
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| Man, so many men don't want to have kids, until they are here |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 182
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| it's a little different for women though... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 185
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| i think it is |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 209
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| things change quickly for men, that's not necessarily a good indicator |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 187
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| as i said above, im not willing to take that risk |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 213
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| I don't care to change your pref, its the later assertion that's faulty |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 216
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| eh. i think its more faulty to think ppl will change once the children c... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 231
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| have it your way, this post & all its replies stand as proof of the oppo... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 244
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| lol dont be mad! |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 263
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| lol @ mad. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 282
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| who changed their mind? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 355
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| #9 says otherwise to me |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 356
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| me personally....no |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 163
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| this happened to my friend. he left & couldn't get the next pregnant. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 188
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| psssshhhh.... I really wanna say |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 190
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| just shows that we don't have as much control as we think we do |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 193
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| everyone speaks in absolutes as if your kids will even like you. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 211
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| why would you blame the dude?!?! he moved forward with his life..... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 202
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| Whoaaaaaaaaaaa. Nawwww man. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 197
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| dang |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 200
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| yeah thats something else i would think about |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 220
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| wow damn. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 239
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| I forgot breeders versus non-breeders was a bread and butter #warz |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 195
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| Why not? Part ways and try to remain friends. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 198
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| i'd want my husband to leave... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 199
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| IF I agreed to marry her knowing this, then no, it's completely unfair |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 201
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| Thing is, how can you take seriously a 19 year old who says |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 205
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| I mean, that's why I kept talking to her. It wasn't like I was getting m... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 206
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| The real take home lesson is don't make life long commitments at |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 212
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| I don't know about that |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 219
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| I should have said most folks. But the advice is the same. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 235
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| I'm a little surprised that you don't know the correct term for it. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 255
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| oh that would just burn me up! |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 286
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| I am not sure we are disagreeing about anything. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 346
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| Some ppl know at 19. Some don't at 30+ |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 221
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| Do you think it's a good idea for a 19 year to get tubal ligation? |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 401
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| depends on what your birth-18 years might've been like. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 302
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| that sounds pretty awful. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 208
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| The fact that I agreed to marry her would be awful! As said, it's alread... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 214
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| uh huh. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 215
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| his fault... but she ain't much better. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 204
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| yeah, I know that no one is interested in reading my opinion/experience |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 207
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| janey... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 292
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| oh sweetheart |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 323
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| not if I go into knowing she didn't... but I wouldn't marry her tho |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 217
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| I can't believe I missed this topic. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 225
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| wouldnt have married in the first place |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 226
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| if you want a family that bad, you dont have a whole lotta |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 230
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| People grow and evolve over time. I'd leave if my mind changed. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 254
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| For me, marriage and children pretty much go hand in hand... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 256
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| What if a couple agrees to have kids, they have them. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 257
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| I don't think anyone is claiming this guy to be a hero... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 270
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| it's not hard to imagine... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 290
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| how does this relate to marriage vows? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 297
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| how exactly are marital vows in question? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 359
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| is til death do us part still a part of marital vows? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 368
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| how is HE not taking his vows seriously tho? |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 404
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| okay so he has to leave before we say he's violating |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 459
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| For those saying you would leave over this... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 258
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| but whats he supposed to do?-- |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 261
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| so she's supposed to bear another human |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 266
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| its a no win situation-- |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 271
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| do you really need a reason? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 294
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| well....yeah-- |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 304
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| if personal choice/preference isn't enough of a reason... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 373
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| a reason can bring understanding though... |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 406
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| there are somethings in this world you simply won't understand... |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 437
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| Fcuk yeah. It would definitely warrant a different response from an SO |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 403
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| that's easily said from a man |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 424
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| name an INVALID reason for not wanting kids?.. |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 441
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| he's not throwing the other person away. im sure this is an |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 272
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| yep, think of this too. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 273
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| no i think he just thinks he can force her into it... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 275
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| Why are you putting all of that extra on this? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 309
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| see post 65... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 324
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| it would hurt me to my core. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 281
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| Bringing another life into the world is a huge deal. It's a big desire. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 262
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| some ppl REALLY want children. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 265
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| theres gotta be a compromise in there somewhere |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 267
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| I can't live with not knowing, always wondering |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 269
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| yes, if i REALLY want children |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 277
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| I think that this may require couple's counseling. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 278
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| what can couple's counseling really do here?? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 288
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| the only "solution" would seem to be polygamy/polyamory |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 293
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| going through a divorce is difficult. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 296
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| you'd be surprised... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 298
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| ^^^^^ best post in here^^^^ |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 305
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| hell yeah. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 308
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| ^^^these are really good points |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 345
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| Regardless of outcome it can help them to move on w/o resentment. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 354
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| i think counseling is the only answer here to save the 'ship |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 303
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| i guess my question is |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 311
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| yeah abby said what i woulda said if i was smart lol |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 313
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| I don't see any middle ground. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 314
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| surely you can imagine some issues beyond the surface one presented |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 320
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| exactly. This situation is layered and sensitive. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 325
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| One layer |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 329
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| yep. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 338
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| i think Abby raised the possibility that there is something else at play |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 390
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| That is a dealbreaker though. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 327
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| it ain't over yet! |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 335
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| N/c. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 337
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| they both need to work on whatever issues they... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 318
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| i don't think (not) wanting kids is an issue though. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 330
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| how someone who doesn't want kids... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 332
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| That can be figured out in individual sessions. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 336
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| divorce is expensive and painful; i can't imagine not going |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 374
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| Wanting children is probably just as important to me |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 279
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| no one wins here, its just how the Ls are distributed |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 285
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| I mean that goes both ways tho |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 334
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| A spouse can never replace the desire for children. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 340
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| divorce is throwing your mate away. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 363
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| Using this as a reason for that person to cave and have a child |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 366
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| hello! |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 367
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| the compromise may be him not getting a child. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 372
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| yeah cause u can potentially be multiplying the misery |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 375
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| not once did i suggest what their compromise should be. |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 391
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| I have nothing to add as I have never been in this situation |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 264
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| its not a middle ground, the wife doesnt want to be a mother, at all |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 289
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| The Seed 2.0... name it rock n roll |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 268
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| Truth be told, I'm the type of nigga that would suffer in silence. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 283
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| i dont think he was completely honest w you either |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 284
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| agree |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 295
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| This isn't really fair. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 307
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| It's suggesting that maybe he wasn't honest with himself, or didn't know... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 322
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| Right, he may have thought that marriage was enough. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 344
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| Whoa mods are on it in this post. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 287
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| can i ask the reason for not wanting children?-- |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 291
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| reply 294, dont be annoying dude |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 300
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| right?? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 301
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| because why is important-- |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 310
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| It's not. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 317
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| Oh so now the OP and people like her have to justify their views on life |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 319
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| its the life long part i have a problem with-- |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 326
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| Let me ask you this: |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 328
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| legacy-- |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 341
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| well |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 347
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| RE: well |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 357
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| The problem here is |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 358
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| RE: The problem here is |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 360
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| Genetics? |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 362
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| did they delete my reply or am I trippin |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 382
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| i deleted the bs... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 385
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| that dont make no sense lol but ok I guess |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 386
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| it was that or torch the entire thread... |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 387
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| I would leave my husband, yes. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 316
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| Honestly, with the best interests of your relationship in mind |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 351
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| i know of a couple. he wanted to have kids. she didn't. they got married... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 353
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| this sounds about right |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 371
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| i don't know what type of mother she would be... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 378
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| this is all perfect and true. |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 440
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| The "smartest" ppl in here soundin just as dumb as the "dumb" ones |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 364
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| I won't leave him |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 365
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| depends on how the marriage came to be |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 370
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| If I didn't want kids |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 376
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| this a sad fuckin poast |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 377
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| this is like playing chicken with two mack trucks... |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 381
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| I wouldn't leave. I believe in the "til death do us part" vow. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 383
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| I didnt like or want kids till I met his dad. |
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Oct 23rd 2013 | 384
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| no offsprings==> gene pool suicide==> should be ILLEGAL! |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 389
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| Yes but i wouldn't marry her knowing that thinking it could change |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 392
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| just on some real shit, though |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 393
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| ^^^ |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 400
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| this does not have to be the case... |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 409
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| i don't see how it won't be in this case... |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 413
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| but isn't the title Happy Marriage gone when an issue like children |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 407
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| maybe it doesn't have to be, is all i'm saying |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 411
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| yup!!!!!!!!!! |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 414
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| right! @ |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 418
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| wait.......WHAT?! |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 421
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| let me set the record straight about this shit |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 423
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| word. |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 429
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| mrs. baby girl... |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 444
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| yeah, she clearly 'owes' that man a child! |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 425
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| I buy the damn groceries with MY money, lol |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 427
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| oh, i'm sure you do. |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 428
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| I totally agree with flora. |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 422
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| I don't know where you are getting this stay at home wife thing |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 426
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| now let's be honest... |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 449
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| context is crucial... |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 450
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| yall just can't stfu can ya |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 447
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| She ain't going nowhere. Hell the fact that she GOT MARRIED |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 458
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| Good lovin will make a man agree to damn near anything. |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 394
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| im not leaving |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 395
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| My uncle was in this boat... he wanted kids and his wife didn't. |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 396
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| I imagine that really sucks for the kid though... |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 397
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| lol men do that everyday |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 398
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| thank you! |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 431
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| lol... nah, she wasn't standing in the corner with the ice grill |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 402
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| ahh ok GOOD...I was like Daaaamnnn...I was really feeling for shorty |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 410
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| yeah that completely FUCKED UP! wow |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 415
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| that sounds annoying. if my SO told me that id be like "its not a pet!" ... |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 408
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| My dad didn't want to have me or my brother. |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 405
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| you guys got lucky |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 412
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| right? this isnt like trying brussel sprouts |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 417
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| it sickens me to read/hear ppl claim they just don't understand |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 419
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| i never said that-- |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 430
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| good for you. |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 433
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| its fucking annoying |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 432
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| agreed. |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 434
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| nigga dont you have a kid?-- |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 435
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| Yes I have a child |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 439
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| This is like that one Simpsons show that showed Homer losing his hair |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 453
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| Leaving is a possibility |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 416
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| Did we really get this far without a reference to "The Seed 2.0?" |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 436
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| no, we didn't. |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 438
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| i needed the cliffs notes |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 460
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| There is no un-selfish reason to have a kid. |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 442
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| Wow. This is the most hit doggingness post EVER on OKP |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 443
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| i just wanna reitierate that yall literally ARE made to have kids. |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 445
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| so are men, wtf? |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 446
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| God gave us penises to skulll fuck tigers after we kill em |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 448
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| LOL |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 451
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| stfu sometimes. |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 452
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| hope infertility is never an issue you face... |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 454
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| I'm gooone. B/c i want kids and I'm only marrying a woman who does too. |
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Oct 24th 2013 | 455
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