how do you deal w/it?

if all goes according to my current plan i'll graduate from law school at age 33. thirty three. most of my fellow graduates will be in their mid-20s.

i can't shake the shame i feel about doing this so 'late'. it's not all i feel, but it's there. i expect to deal w/this throughout my career as i cross milestones at a more advanced age than my colleagues. so i need to get used to this. i'm working on it.

if you started over in your 30s (or beyond), did you feel any shame about it? if not, why not? if so, how did/do you deal w/it?

fuck you.

My uncle got his DDS (dentist)when he was 35.. Stop trippin.. you doin better than most.

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i'd say u have a good head start
lol
these r pple who just realized how much they hated their career or are trying to retire from a career that they hated
or had a mid-life crisis
or just decided to do what THEY want

watching them get jobs their previous experience (no matter how irrelevant) is helping them get better positions than their younger classmates
that's just from my informal "study"

bottom line though: getting it right (or starting over) at *ANY* age is priceless

also, i know a 60+ yr old who just got a bachelor's, a master's a year later, and is about to enroll in a phd program who is very excited and very happy
kinda inspirational the stories u find around this subject

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fuck you.

as long as what I am doing makes me happy, I don't care what others think; they don't live MY LIFE!

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fuck you.

was not giving a fuck about boring everyone while you ask a million questions from the front row

then the minute a young buck sucks their teeth, old students turn around like "motherfucker, i paid $xxxx per credit for this class.. imma ask all the questions i want!"

i thought they had special old student orientation for shit like that

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it's both a blessing and a curse. b/c profs call on me more than most of my classmates since i volunteer so often. that makes it hard to 'hide' in class when i'm not as prepared as i'd like to be.

fuck you.

and beating down snot nosers interrupting professors cause they ain't ready for grown school yet.


I'm just old and cranky.

when you have opportunity to change. better late than never. living with regrets is awful.

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o and i wanna go back to be a neuroscientist/brain surgeon

but thats like 8yrs of school FOH

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You're accomplishing goals not smoking crack. A lot of my coworkers are in school, two of them over 50 just got the Phd's, and several others in their 30s-40s are in grad school and undergrad.

I don't believe in luck, I believe in Jesus...(c)Farnsworth Bentley

your coworkers who are in school, i mean.

fuck you.

Said with e-love

You are able to start over and are doing something you like.

Fuck comparing yourselves to everyone else. . matter of fact some of your follow graduates are only becoming lawyers because mommy and daddy forced them. They will probably start over at 30 also.


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fuck you.

Really this post is silly...who gives a fuck...There's 40yr olds and 50yr olds that would KILL to go to law school

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listening, the third memory, the fourth practice, the fifth teaching
others.- Solomon Ibn Gabriol

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do you suppose are "doing it" though? half of
them will, in 10 years, be in culinary school
somewhere lamenting on how they wasted the first
umpteen years of there life.

point is, the grass always seems greener.

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anyway...they don't know you like
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Ha! I was gonna say this!

Dude, I was one of those spry 20-somethings about six years ago.

A month ago I quit my job. I hate the law and I'm starting over.

Welcome to the club.

And I hope you don't expect to be happy at a large law firm.


Two other things to note:
1) People in my law school class are dropping like flies. Most of them worked at firms, but regardless, many of us are starting over at 30. I have yet to hear of anyone shamed.

2) LOL @ you're name being "SoWhat" and you worried about this. Dude! Keep doing you! Don't wrry about that other schizz. All you need to do is what makes you happy. (I beg you to stay away from firms...lol...no seriously.)

you have the maturity to really know what you want and probably more resources to go for it.

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Everybody wanna be Jesus but don't nobody wanna BE JESUS.--Invisiblist

why waste time with all that...

"If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans."
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if u take care of yourself health wise thats still HELLA young

we got a 50 yr old lawyer in my shop, dude does piecemeal work, almost as a favor to my big boss...comes in when he needs to to his lil dedicated desk...knocks his business out...gets in the wind

every wknd

"oh...just came back from the mountains...snows great!"
"OH just flew down to the beach for a lil while..check on my petunias!"
"ohhh...i race them in my spare time..."

etc etc

got a look @ 1 of dudes invoices...made me nauseous

u'll be straight


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out of you life.

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i understand that you might feel behind but the fact is there is another 75% of the population behind you.. so dont feel bad just do well and honestly age wont matter much in your field. you arent modeling or in sports or entertainment and even if you were it shouldnt matter. just know your goals and stick to them.

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until right now i never thought about getting a new address. i might do that. lol

fuck you.

>until right now i never thought about getting a new address.
>i might do that. lol

yea you old as fuck!! Naw I'm just playing!! I'm a 28 year old 1L so we are about in the same boat. You'll be fine, homie!!

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(i know i will in like 30-40yrs.
just hateful to everyone and everything
because i cant stand aging.)

its not so much starting over
(shit, i plan to be back in school after traipsing around for at least 5 years)
and i doubt i'll ever be one of those people that spend years in one career
its the whole, clocks start ticking,
you start hitting milestones
(or rather start buying into the idea of them)
and then there's expectations about what you should have/
where you should be.

that's the shit i cant stand.

my mom the other day asked me about settling down (wha???)

nb: i like starting over.
it makes me feel young!
its the immediate after that's hard, lol

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http://perspectivesudans.blogspot.com/
i myself would never want to be god,or even like god.Because god got all these human beings on this planet and i most certainly would not want to be responsible for them, or even have the disgrace that i made them.

she paid for everything we did during her stay, probably b/c she knows i'm broke and living on loans (including 1 from her). it made me feel like a kid again...which wasn't pleasant. i took it in stride, but it affected me.

fuck you.

no shame
id take it and run
i just have too much pride to actually ask
but if there was some clandestine way to funnel funds from her
sheeit!

im about to ask you how you got your mom to pay for shit/ give you a loan, lol

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http://perspectivesudans.blogspot.com/
i myself would never want to be god,or even like god.Because god got all these human beings on this planet and i most certainly would not want to be responsible for them, or even have the disgrace that i made them.

i looked at my finances back in October and realized i didn't have enough to make it until my loan disbursement later this month. so i asked if she could float me some money at some point between then and mid-January. i said i expected to have enough to get by until then but that i didn't know i could make it after.

she appreciated that i didn't wait until the last minute then she loaned me the money.

i didn't like taking the loan b/c it hurt my pride. i wanted to be able to do this w/o needing her financial help. i accepted gifts, of course, but this was different b/c this time i actually needed her money. i'm still bothered.

fuck you.

fuck you.

majority of my friends and former classmates are firmly situated in their middle class lifestyles, kids already in school, tubes tied, vasectomies done, tossing their kids to gran'ma nem while they jet off to greece or hawaii, and i'm trying to figure out what exactly do i need to do.

i've got this clean slate in front of me, and it's scary as shit.

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and it's garish! i wish they'd turn it down a bit.

fuck you.

.

that's what I tell myself.

fuck you.

stable than you were at 23. From there you can trick yourself into thinking that this was the perfect time for you to make this career/life decision.


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fuck you.

her i am on the verge of 30 trying to figure out what i need to do next.

despite being in the same industry since i was 16, i feel just as lost as ever. should i stay in entertainment? production or development. can i write?

or do i want to go get my mba and work a more traditional gig?
can i really even do that?

when i think about starting over, i can't seem to figure out what the destination should be, so i sit here, plodding away. hoping that some miracle of direction and mission will magically come to me and lead me on the right path and keep me there.

"I'm trying to decide which way to go/I think I made a wrong turn back there somewhere"

...over and over.

i hear you.

fuck you.

so i guess thats like a starting over.

now i have decided i dont like accounting and im going back to what i was doing before, so at 35 im re-starting over again. and i feel no shame.

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how do you do it?

i mean, i get up and do it everyday, but i carry this bit of shame w/me the whole time. i'm trying to rid myself of it.

fuck you.

and the getting of my first degree to please my mother.

i went back to school to get my accounting degree because i thought i wanted to be an accountant. now i am one ... and yeah im not feeling this shit. well at least not the accounting im doing.

i started back part time where i was working before i went full time at the accounting gig ... found out today there will be a full time position open in march and i HOLLERED in joy.

im doing me to make ME happy - there is NO shame in happiness.

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IG = @frawgychurl

good for you.

fuck you.

imma have a law degree before i die tho.

so imma be that old fart in class one of these days.

im also seriously thinking about getting my license to teach. i dont have to go to a class or anything because ive already got degrees. found out all i have to do is pass the licensing tests. so next fall, i may be a math teacher in a local middle or high school!

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in ten years there gonna go do something else as well.

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I myself am made entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions.
- Augusten Burroughs

they may be in a similar situation
there should be no shame or embarrassment
if anything you're prepared and ready now. you could have gone to law school back then but would you have really worked at it? would you have liked it? would you have studied the kind of law you do now?

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"if the children are not initiated into the village they will burn it down just to feel its warmth." - african proverb

i dunno that i would've made it this far if i'd done law school in my early or mid-20s.

fuck you.

Please. Make it do what it do.

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if they do, its usually something that they love, or something they are forced into because of living standards.

A few years ago a banker making a quarter of a mil in his late 20's was already getting his shit together to be a teacher, on some 'I don't know who I can ask for recommendations', lol.

Hopefully homie didn't flake and got it done, cause he wouldda had a bad year, lol.

fuck you.

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and i kinda feel the same way even tho i'm not quite "starting over"...it feels like i'm *just starting*, which feels even worse lol.

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and 33 ain't too old to be finishing school. You're doing better than most.

wanna live

lol

but true. and i'm grateful i'm alive and all that. but that doesn't erase this bit of shame i feel about where i am.

fuck you.

paths..some go thru the journey earlier than others, but it doesn't make their journey any less rewarding and neither is yours.

You're being in law school now is nothing to be shameful of. Sometimes, being older and more mature is what it takes to take on major task such as that because you've grown a bit a know that time nor money is nothing to play with.

fuck you.

could do over, or wish i'd done way back when....but then i look and i've done things that others have not and realize, i'm blessed. so see, there's no blueprint to life by age group.

you do the best you can with what you have and try to live as fulfulling a life as you can.

>could do over, or wish i'd done way back when....but then i
>look and i've done things that others have not and realize,
>i'm blessed. so see, there's no blueprint to life by age
>group.
>
>you do the best you can with what you have and try to live as
>fulfulling a life as you can.
>
>

My sentiments exactly.

Just IMO though.

and i'm only 23.

take her replies
rinse and repeat
for me
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When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
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like I just finally let everything go and I'm keepin on with the
keep on; can't get it back, so there's no use pining for it.

I'm in a paralegal program now and won't be in law school for another
year, and I'm good with that. I'm CALM lol.

I also had to revoke certain folks (family) priviledges discussing
MY LIFE; and I had to kill the when are you getting married, having
a baby conversation PERIOD. That shit was on.my.nerves.

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I use to date a chick that would get all upset if shit didn't go the way she mapped it out, in the timetable that society set. Shit was unbearable.

got her doctorate 5 years later...

i.e. fuck your age, and win like Haj said.

you're good, you're golden, you're capable and STILL YOUNG.

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she's 30, just finished an internship at a local tv station and her dream is to be a news anchor. i told her she should feel thankful that she at least had her foot in the door which is usually the hardest part of the process. plus there is a 50, 60 year old somewhere regretting that they never pursued their dreams and feel like it's too late to do so.

i then told her to quit crying and take my advice because it was starting to annoy me. lol

fuck you.

If not before that. The old rules just don't apply anymore. Just focus on being proud of yourself.

I don't care what age you are... THAT'S FAN-FUCKIN-TASTIC.

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