I hope I can mimic all of this with my daughter. I think you nailed it re: making sure you're not *telling* her what happens and how to feel, but instead validating her own feelings, sharing yours, and letting her know that you *think* X or Y is what happens after death. I hope to take a very similar approach.


>she was 101.... my daughter learned about it probably by
>seeing her mother cry.... we just told her what happened and
>we shared our perspective on it... i got more a 5% perspective
>on it and wifey got a more christian vibe but we dont impose
>any particular belief on her.... we thought it was super
>important for her to share how she felt about it and we never
>act like we have all the answers.... her great grandma has
>been bedridden for the last 10 years, senile for the last 3-4
>years... so my daughter actually never saw her walk and was
>aware that she wasnt at her healthiest.... we definitely
>talked about how she was finally at peace... no more pain and
>could finally truly rest.... that's definitely an angle that
>gave her some comfort
>
>im also really big on her knowing that we dont love people's
>flesh but rather it is what is within them
>(soul/spirit/essence)that we love and that loves us back...
>and that part is beyond physical and is forever with us....
>we're a black family so i also lean on traditional African
>beliefs that the Ancestors are always with us
>
>
>it's been a year and at times she'll mention she misses her
>and drop a tear or 2.... she's super sensitive just like her
>mom.... nothing wrong with that... she knows she can cry as
>often and for how long she wants to

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