>My father in law passed (lung cancer) suddenly one year ago.
>While we knew it would happen eventually, it was still a shock
>because he was getting stronger and feeling better. But I do
>remember him saying that is usually how it happens.

sorry for you loss, truly. this shit sucks.

>the roughest part was that night while consoling my wife in
>the garage the kids left their room and couldn’t find us and
>thought we passed away. The look on their faces man..

😥

>I’ll also add, I had to catch myself when I almost said
>“I’ll always be here” and instead said “I’m going to
>be here for a long time, God willing and just know that
>regardless I will always be with you because you are a part of
>me and I’m a part of you”.. Now, that didn’t really give
>total assurance but I try to let them know this is why we have
>to make the most of our time while alive and death is a part
>of life. So don’t spend too much time thinking about death..
>appreciate every day that you get to make up and experience
>another chance to make your life better. I just got back from
>Nashville and my daughter jumped in bed and said “I love
>that you are home” and man.. I responded “I love that
>I’m home with you guys too”

this is where A LOT of my focus has been. i have tried my hardest to practice saying "yes" to my son when he asks to do stuff. like, we all have busy lives and stuff, and sometimes you don't want to play Minecraft you want to just chill after a long day and watch Netflix or whatever it is. but i've been really cognizant of the fact that playing Minecraft, etc. will be the memories my son has of me when i am gone. i'm trying to give him as many good memories as i can.

>My youngest said “daddy, one day your are going to be a
>grandaddy when I get married and have kids” and my oldest
>said “hmmm.. he’s probably not going to be alive that long
>to see all that”

damn, that is sad/cold, but sometimes that levity of honesty does provide a good laugh that takes the edge off.

>Just be honest and sincere.. and patient because they will
>ask, then ask again.. and you wont have all the answers.

thanks.