"How I Walk the Talk." Thu Jul-04-19 09:34 AM by Damali
I run a summer camp and a parent sent me an email complaining about a male staff member (who is gay) and was wearing a tight body suit:
"Good day Veronica,
Just wanted to bring to your attention that today when I went to pick up my child, there was a staff member wearing skin tight short bodysuit. I know that in the heat of Summer we all want to dress to impress. But his attire was so tight he need to adjust in order for his nipples not to show. At your orientation I know that was a point of discussion and I myself didn’t think it was appropriate outfit for camp. I did address the issue with Andrew but also wanted you to be aware of it. By far your center seems like a good fit and I would like to make it long term relationship.
May you have a safe and happy 4th of July!"
This was my response:
"Thank you so much for this feedback. Its important to me that every parent feel free to reach out and let me know anything that's on their mind.
One of my guiding principle here at the {redacted} Center is inclusion. Every child that attends here gets to be his or herself (including what they wear...we don't body-shame any child) as long as it isn't hurting any other member of the community or preventing someone else from being themselves. That same inclusiveness is extended to my staff. My staff are allowed to freely express themselves in their attire, loose or tight, as long as they are covered. I'm happy to hear that Thomas was conscious of remaining covered and took steps to make sure he remained that way.
When I am concerned about appropriateness is usually focused on how the staff, and all the kids behave toward each other. Thomas is one of the best counselors we have and is actually the one that is most favored by most of the children that have attended here through the years. Thomas grew up at the {redacted} Center..he has attended the program before the building even existed, since he was 7 years old, and has been on staff for 7 years. He helps children bring out their greatness and makes them feel like they are important and protected. The least I can do for him is make him feel the same way.
With all that said, I completely respect the right of any parent to self-select the environment they want their child in. If at any time, you decide that the {redacted} Center is not the right place for your daughter, we will support your decision and wish you well.
Regards, Veronica"
This is the hill I am ready and willing to DIE on. I will legit sacrifice my job in order to protect my staff.
Her little "i want a long relationship" threat did not phase me. I feel good as fuck today!