"We moved, everyone’s sad, and I ... don’t get it"
I’m not mad. But I’m more sympathetic than empathetic and if anything trying to relate to sad people is super confusing. Here are the facts
1. We can’t afford to thrive in DC. Even at good salaries we were just making it. And that’s with grandma as house care. Because we couldn’t afford to thrive we couldn’t afford to 2. move forward, which is items like child care, New car, real savings, home ownership, college fund, things of that nature just weren’t realistic. And so 3. A few years ago we started to talk about potential places to move, live, next steps and therefore 4. everyone has had years to mentally prepared for necessary change, and I recognize people get comfortable but there’s a part of me that’s a survivor and that part doesn’t allow for me to get too comfortable anywhere. Besides 5. I’ve been down here for two months, they’ve all had that long to in addition to the years to really accept change. And I know that logically but I also know that 6. That’s not how the cycle of grieving works and right now they’re grieving. But part of grief is 7. Accepting. And that more than anything is my biggest point of, internal irritation. Because I feel that 8. They should’ve been here years ago. Not the last few months, not the last year, but years ago. That’s hey, the life we’re living and want to live isn’t sustainable giving current conditions and whether it’s income, proximity to family, environment, or future needs .... you should be thinking of ways to keep that up.
And now I’m just venting here. Because I can’t take this to them. And if I hold it in too long it’ll come out in other ways. I can’t call it. I’m not even here in the move. I’m just treating this as an opportunity to get those things we talked about.
------- “There is no fate that cannot be surmounted by scorn.” -Albert Camus