The Coli and Lipstick Alley.

I exclude Reddit because its whole purpose is just to be a "old style" message board for the entire internet.

But The Coli and Lipstick Alley are gender-heavy in either direction.
I don't think it's possible nowadays to have what this site was pre-2004 again. It's no one's fault, either. OKP has become an older, more 'playery version of The Coli, and that's fine. It's nothing to mourn.

Mourning the change is like getting upset that you and your friends can't go back to your high school lunch room and hang out every day at 12, anymore.