My SO kinda emphasizes colorism in her personal views. She's very dark-skinned and just in passing conversation...you can tell she thinks that shade is more relevant than the amount it's typically discussed. We're close to 40 so she was raised during the time that it was more common for black people to discriminate against dark-skinned people more openly and/or commonly. But even currently...she thinks that dark-skinned people experience more everyday racism from everyone, whites included. I definitely don't want to characterize her as being resentful of light-skinned people...but she will occasionally point out (between me and her) that light-skinned people have privilege (relatively speaking of course) they are sometimes reluctant to acknowledge.

In anycase...one of our daughters is 20 and also dark-skinned. She's got her shit together and her worldview is healthy. Most of that groundwork was done before I was in her life.

The boys are also dark-skinned and the subject has been broached with the 10 year old. We did talk to him about the paper-bag test once. He's so innocent...whenever we talk about race he just seems so surprised that people would be 'so silly'. I remember the first couple times it was like he almost didn't believe us. He hasn't had a direct experience related to colorism...but as we've talked about race to him more and more it comes up as a side-point once in awhile. More preparation and awareness-raising than anything else. I can't recall anytime we've talked about racism with the 6 year old. It's probably gonna start creeping into conversations soon but my SO believes strongly in waiting until the issue arises organically. She does NOT agree with the 'woke 5 year old' thing.