17 and auditioning for NY Art Colleges? I think there might be a smidget of truth that the Mom kinda sorta new what she was doing.

If she were younger I think an intervention would make sense. At this age the biggest thing I would be concerned with is breaking free from her move when she goes to college and going BUCK WILD.

My valedictorian only lasted a semester because of her sheltered upbringing.

All that to say is that confrontation with the mom might not be worth it. She will poin to the girls success to argue that she knew what she was doing.

I think what could be productive is forming an independent path of communication between you and the daughter. Build her up directly. Make sure she knows she has you to turn to when she doesn't want to or is afraid to go to her mom.

When she goes to school check on her regularly.

That one relationship between you and her can make the difference.


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