at 4/ 5 me - personally, had a very clear sense of self and identity.this will go off topic, but i think those children should be made aware of what's going on around them.the 'innocence of youth' seems like a way to put-off things until you all can find the words, or it can no longer be ignored....but back on topic.so it seems like you've chosen to blacken your lenses.perhaps that commendable. perhaps it's inauthentic.how does your moms feel?