because you feel like you've been wronged by the business, personally?

i realized recently how weak my boycotts are. i never really stay away. and will go back in the name of convenience.

i have friends who will refuse to patronize a corner/liquor/convenience store directly across the street from their home, because of incidents that happened years ago. i respect their ability to stay strong in their convictions. but the shit sometimes seems so impractical.

usually the incidents are something like this:

at a convenience store, approaching the counter with a (white) customer ahead of you. the white customer gets his groceries bagged up by the clerk. no mention of a bag fee or anything.

you approach the counter, and the clerk doesn't offer you a bag at all. and when you inquire about 'can i get a bag' he huffs about the 5 cent charge.

you explain that you just witnessed another customer get a bag for free. the clerk responds with a stern 'five cent!'.

you tell the clerk 'fuck you, im never coming in this hell-hole again', and then leave.

do you stay away? if so for how long?

OR

a new trendy restaurant just opened up across the street (yes, this is gentrification). the second day it's opened, you walk in with a white tee, jeans and new balance. you head to the bar and sit down.

a few moments later you get tapped on the shoulder and are asked to leave - the reason 'dress code'. you look around and see other (white) patrons wearing tee shirts and jeans and then exclaim 'but that guy ...'. the owner isn't hearing it, and asks you to leave.

do you go back dressed 'appropriately' or do you stay away from the new nice restaurant that opened up right across the street from you?