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19. "it means you've captured their attention. "
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in some heteros, you may be capturing their attention
because you are stirring up some inchoate, vaguely homoerotic desire for male closeness in them.

but a lot of times it's not even that deep.

they just noticed something about you that they want to look at more.
it's a totally unconscious thing, and you are likely more aware of it than he is,
because a huge portion of how gay men feel each other out has to do with eye contact
and analyzing the gaze of other men.

truth is, it's impossible to really know where his head is at
without subtly pushing the boundaries in terms of how you react to him
and see how he reacts (standing in closer proximity and seeing if he's uncomfortable,
looking him up and down and seeing how he reacts, etc.)

but you can't make an accurate read now because you need more information.

but the fact that you are even asking this question
gives me the impression that you may have some interest
in this hetero...

and unless you are prepared to deal with the obvious and not so obvious emotional complications of subtly seducing a straight dude, i'd drop the matter completely
and leave his thoughts in his head and not try to figure them out.


this is definitely a do as i say, not as i do type situation.
because while i carry a torch for no one,
there's usually always a straight/ mostly straight/ possibly
closeted gay person that i have on the back burner of my emotional life...

a stew that i am constantly bringing to a simmer, perfecting the seasoning,
always aware that at some point, both of us may be ready to eat a little bit of stew and get it in.

i dunno how "healthy" that is,
but i still do it just because i'm always curious about how that could turn out.

if my past is any indication,
the best case scenerio is a passionate, explosive consummation
with a dude that is still just as uncomfortable with the idea of
gayness as you were when you were 12 years old.

since i am now 32 years old, i can't say i am about that life the way i was
when i was a younger, less confident gay.

but i still flirt with dudes i like in this subtle way
as if i may hit jackpot.

but i don't invest myself in those types of relationships emotionally
for the same reason i don't quit my day job planning on
beating the house in a Las Vegas Casino.


continue to pursue gays in your real life,
making every attempt to give them your full attention,
but if you do decide to play this game with a straight dude,
don't prioritize it because there's a 98 precent chance that nothing will ever come of it.












^ that's me projecting 100 percent of my shit on you.
i dunno what's going on in your life. but hopefully that helps.

  

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heteros: someone of the same sex keeps looking at u: [View all] , blkprinceMD05, Wed Dec-31-14 06:57 AM
 
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do they have gay eyes?
Dec 31st 2014
1
thats one of the variables to consider
Dec 31st 2014
3
      You tryin to capture some young lad?
Dec 31st 2014
5
Where is the "they gay but I'm sexy" option?
Dec 31st 2014
2
Oh I'm sorry you said hetero, but I'm better tho
Dec 31st 2014
4
bleu
Dec 31st 2014
6
in LA that's problems. In New York it could be a lot of things
Dec 31st 2014
7
yeah it definitely depends on locale as to what it could be
Dec 31st 2014
12
they like my style
Dec 31st 2014
8
yellow
Dec 31st 2014
9
U the only female that replied! Thanks. I was hoping for responses
Dec 31st 2014
31
*just* happened to me at the gym...
Dec 31st 2014
10
LOL!
Dec 31st 2014
11
so I'm at the gym right
Dec 31st 2014
13
wtf nah man. bros just want to get brospective on where to get
Dec 31st 2014
30
      This made me laugh.
Jan 01st 2015
44
Blue.....if it keeps happening yellow
Dec 31st 2014
14
lol
Dec 31st 2014
17
^^^
Dec 31st 2014
21
pretty much...
Dec 31st 2014
24
Yes to this.
Dec 31st 2014
26
Agreed
Dec 31st 2014
39
i was that guy last night. at applebees
Dec 31st 2014
15
lmao
Dec 31st 2014
16
Lol!
Dec 31st 2014
22
CRINE
Dec 31st 2014
33
^^was posted up like AI, with an 'OCK' jersey on
Dec 31st 2014
34
LoL
Dec 31st 2014
35
LMAO
Dec 31st 2014
40
were you alone or accompanied by african bols ready for whatever?
Jan 01st 2015
43
That's almost always yellow
Dec 31st 2014
18
no i think u misread the question, im asking what do heteros
Dec 31st 2014
23
      ahhh.
Dec 31st 2014
28
Yellow when I was under 21 or so, blue & red after that
Dec 31st 2014
20
I just chalk it up to them being a weirdo and keep it moving
Dec 31st 2014
25
^^^^
Jan 01st 2015
46
I'm going to walk up to them and start preaching Mormonism to em.
Dec 31st 2014
27
Lol
Dec 31st 2014
29
where's "they're probably an OKP"
Dec 31st 2014
32
red
Dec 31st 2014
36
"Aye... You know me dude?" is my typical response to this
Dec 31st 2014
37
(c)Riley Freeman
Dec 31st 2014
38
Lol u damn right. And u finally made a worth while reply
Dec 31st 2014
41
if you dont like me, you must be dykey.
Dec 31st 2014
42
happen to me a few years ago
Jan 01st 2015
45
niggas finna ask me where i'm from.
Jan 01st 2015
47
i always get this. i say 'earth'. no bullshit.
Jan 01st 2015
48
      ^^^Lil Halfdead, smartmouthin whole gangs n shit.
Jan 01st 2015
49
RE: heteros: someone of the same sex keeps looking at u:
Jan 01st 2015
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