I'm really about to cuss her Mother and her FIL out. We have asked about Xmas plans for weeks. This weekend we got a call from a young cousin who NEVER calls us asking if we are coming to the coast for Xmas. 2 days later her mom text that she is going to be out of town for Xmas. Now my wife is on some Will Smith "why don't they want me?" and I'm ready for war. My wife is the black sheep of her fam. I've seen her mother and older sister try to back her into a corner on some bullshit and I had to step in and let them know that shit won't be tolerated anymore. I think it's crazy for a parent to turn their back on you because you aren't living your life the way they want you to live it.