I was talking to a friend who by all appearances life is together and then it came out that he doesn't talk to his grown (mid 20s) son. I was like why? They had a turbulent relationship because the parents are not together but his final straw was when the kid didn't call him when his pops (the kids grandpops) died and he didn't call the dad.

I get that would piss me off but I also have this general notion that the parent has to be the parent which means always being the bigger person. If things go bad it's always important for the parent to make the effort to repair the relationship.

I was reminded of my friend when I saw 50 cent beefing with his son.

https://www.tmz.com/2022/10/10/50-cent-father-son-repair-relationship-money-pay/

That's more extreme because it's public but I am trying to challenge myself to consider where healthy, well adjusted people and kids (i.e., not dealing with a child with mental issues or drug problems), where the parent would be fully in the right for cutting off their child?

I guess part of my thinking is that if the child isn't acting right, that's a reflection on you because that's your child right?

Anyway, I am trying to be non-judgemental of my friend, so I am trying to hear some stories to give me a different perspective.



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