46. "I blame patriarchy, sexism, and anti-blackness...this whole system" In response to In response to 29
There is so much community pressure and systemic oppression that Black women have to battle. It's kinda messed up to not acknowledge that and talk only about what we need to do. Why do some of our men feel so comfortable with exploiting our pain? Why doesn't the community hold them accountable?
I agree that luck has a lot to do with it. I was lucky. I'm happy in my marriage, but it's not a bed of roses. Maybe if we were more honest about the realities of long term partnership and parenting, more Black women would be open to other ways of living rather than looking at themselves as failures.