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Pete
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Fri Sep-27-19 10:13 AM

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"Cheated, feeling guilty"


          

Y'all, I done fucked up and now I'm feeling type stupid with the wrenched gut. What can I do short of confessing (cause I don't think that's gonna do any good)?

Long story short, I found out after about 1.5 yrs with my girl that shortly after we started seeing each other, she fucked a friend of a friend, after I thought we were already connecting pretty well and I wasn't trying to be out there fucking around.

She told me cause she felt guilty, but it was too much for my pride and I wound up going and and fucking somebody too. It was a stupid and horrible experience, not even enjoyable.

Fast forward a year, and I got this guilt creeping up on me all the time, I think it's even affecting my physically. I would tell her, but why ruin a great relationship because of one stupid mistake? What happened meant nothing, was momentary, and will never happen again.

Fuck!

Any thoughts?

  

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Cheated, feeling guilty [View all] , Pete, Fri Sep-27-19 10:13 AM
 
Subject Author Message Date ID
Take it to the grave fam.
Sep 27th 2019
1
RE: Take it to the grave fam.
Sep 27th 2019
7
^this
Sep 28th 2019
39
Bruh, this relationship is done... y'all both cheating on each other
Sep 27th 2019
2
RE: Bruh, this relationship is done... y'all both cheating on each other
Sep 27th 2019
10
^^type of dude that throw away a whole belt 'cause the buckle hit the ur...
Sep 27th 2019
17
      I actually laughed out loud...loudly
Sep 27th 2019
18
      Said here quite a few times that cheating is a hard line for me
Sep 30th 2019
49
Hang in there nigga!!!!!
Sep 27th 2019
3
"I think it's even affecting my physically"
Sep 27th 2019
4
RE: "I think it's even affecting my physically"
Sep 27th 2019
8
I feel you and it's easy for me to say it but
Sep 27th 2019
11
      RE: I feel you and it's easy for me to say it but
Sep 27th 2019
13
putting pain on her to soothe his own conscience aint nec the move
Sep 28th 2019
33
Nigga go please tell her and report back
Sep 27th 2019
5
I don't think he waited a year...
Sep 27th 2019
6
      RE: I don't think he waited a year...
Sep 27th 2019
9
           Awwwe nigga.. real talk. You really want to tell her
Sep 27th 2019
21
           got it now...
Sep 27th 2019
29
                RE: got it now...
Sep 28th 2019
35
                     what’s the chances of her finding out?
Sep 29th 2019
47
                          he didn’t appreciate you staying or did he want out?
Sep 30th 2019
53
                               appreciate me...
Oct 04th 2019
103
it's clearly not a great relationship if y'all can't even be honest
Sep 27th 2019
12
RE: it's clearly not a great relationship if y'all can't even be honest
Sep 27th 2019
14
Best Grown Folk Response!
Oct 04th 2019
104
fam just confess to it but blame it on her.
Sep 27th 2019
15
you're a piece of shit and this is why men are trash.
Sep 27th 2019
25
i blame you.
Sep 27th 2019
28
      I'll take "What an Incel Would Say" for $500, Alex
Sep 28th 2019
40
           its your fault.
Sep 28th 2019
41
                Keep telling yourself that.
Sep 28th 2019
42
damn breh, that kind of shit works on some brainless jumpoff, but not .....
Oct 01st 2019
73
That's only acceptable if a woman is saying it to a man. A man
Oct 05th 2019
108
breh forget that shit if you trying to be w/ her for real.
Sep 27th 2019
16
guilt is a powerful thing
Sep 28th 2019
34
Odds are that's just the one you know about
Sep 27th 2019
19
Right? Carl Thomas that shit
Sep 27th 2019
22
      *mario winans.
Sep 27th 2019
24
           Him too
Sep 27th 2019
27
that feeling aint gonna go away....
Sep 27th 2019
20
alternate non-popular opinion
Sep 27th 2019
23
how long ago was the cheating?
Sep 27th 2019
26
Is this guilt or resentment?
Sep 27th 2019
30
1. you sound stupid. 2. dont be stupid
Sep 27th 2019
31
Please tell him again
Sep 28th 2019
46
^^^^^^^^
Oct 01st 2019
63
yall aint even married, this was a yr ago? man, drop it.
Sep 28th 2019
32
"shortly after we started seeing each other" sounds like you were single
Sep 28th 2019
36
Confess
Sep 28th 2019
37
RE: Cheated, feeling guilty
Sep 28th 2019
38
This post illustrates why most people suck at true intimacy
Sep 28th 2019
43
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ATJhCIeaqo
Sep 28th 2019
44
are you expecting me to click that link? lol
Sep 30th 2019
50
illustrates how some people know how to stay together
Sep 28th 2019
45
again "staying together" is some external facing fake shit
Sep 30th 2019
48
      When keeping it real goes wrong^^^
Sep 30th 2019
51
           i said what i said, coward.
Oct 01st 2019
55
                This coward is a loving Husband and Father
Oct 01st 2019
58
                     ^^^^^^^^
Oct 01st 2019
77
                     and? this post has nothing to do with whether folks are "loving"
Oct 01st 2019
81
                          I think it does have something to do with loving your SO
Oct 02nd 2019
91
                               or love them enough to be honest and vulnerable
Oct 03rd 2019
92
everybody walks their own path
Oct 01st 2019
88
      true and some people's path is "fake and dishonest" *shrug*
Oct 03rd 2019
93
           some people never even get the opportunity
Oct 03rd 2019
98
                that's true.
Oct 04th 2019
100
is telling her going to free you from the guilt you're feeling?
Sep 30th 2019
52
Affecting you physically huh? Did she burn you?
Sep 30th 2019
54
I've been with my wife for almost 20 years.
Oct 01st 2019
56
alladis
Oct 01st 2019
59
nice
Oct 01st 2019
60
She cheated. He cheated.
Oct 01st 2019
61
Ninja you don't think some of them 30+ year relationships I mentioned...
Oct 01st 2019
62
      I guess we all have a different idea of what works in
Oct 01st 2019
64
           you married or single
Oct 01st 2019
67
                I like that
Oct 01st 2019
69
                     You say that now. Throw in a house, few cars and some kids
Oct 01st 2019
70
                          RE: You say that now. Throw in a house, few cars and some kids
Oct 01st 2019
71
u really out here equating a white lie about weight with cheating/betray...
Oct 01st 2019
82
.
Oct 01st 2019
84
      LoL
Oct 03rd 2019
95
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Oct 03rd 2019
94
people (cis hetero men mostly) need to learn how to self-soothe more
Oct 04th 2019
102
posts like this make me realize somethn wrong with me
Oct 01st 2019
57
It is
Oct 01st 2019
65
      Yup. Wonder if dude is married or single.
Oct 01st 2019
68
      or you're just on that "sober thoughts" shit
Oct 01st 2019
72
      I used to be a dog
Oct 01st 2019
74
      RE: or you're just on that "sober thoughts" shit
Oct 01st 2019
75
           something like that, a little less leaning and squinting
Oct 04th 2019
101
      Add on top of that Kota line how your KIDS feel.
Oct 01st 2019
76
      Bruh. Kids changed everything for me
Oct 01st 2019
78
           can't relate... no kids life
Oct 05th 2019
109
                This makes sense
Oct 07th 2019
113
      these were relationships in my early 20s
Oct 05th 2019
105
           Hope so
Oct 05th 2019
107
      thanks, doc
Oct 05th 2019
106
           Welcome, patient
Oct 05th 2019
110
make peace with it and move forward
Oct 01st 2019
66
I agree w BG re: go to therapy about it
Oct 01st 2019
79
lol @ everybody having a dog in this
Oct 01st 2019
80
he shared it on a public forum and asked for opinions.
Oct 01st 2019
83
always sauntering in mad late too..
Oct 01st 2019
85
i been busy
Oct 01st 2019
87
lol.. thanks for feeding me.
Oct 01st 2019
86
      Why be that guy tho?
Oct 02nd 2019
89
           lol... seems like maybe you know
Oct 02nd 2019
90
LoL shutup
Oct 03rd 2019
96
      "Are you talking to me?!" ~ Donald Bickle
Oct 03rd 2019
99
also: you might want to get tested, whether condoms were used or not
Oct 03rd 2019
97
Wait you felt away because she had sex while you
Oct 06th 2019
111
Might wanna go to the doctor, could be something waaaay
Oct 06th 2019
112
Dr. Ruth weighs in.
Oct 22nd 2019
114

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