>the point is, the comment can be misinterpreted.

But you're *choosing* an interpretation rather than being open to what he *actually* meant.

>You and any
>other married man can say whatever you want: however, you
>can't control how it may show up for others.

The problem is your complete refusal to accept the possibility that he didn't mean it the way you clearly wanted him to mean. This is further compounded by the complete lack of any information or context to support your interpretation.

How it "shows up" for you doesn't really jive with what happened the way you describe and rather than accept the possibility that it was innocuous and well-intentioned, you double down with "my reality".

The biggest reach here was made with your own arms.