6. ""having something" vs "doing it right" or how that interacts" In response to In response to 3
some would say this is the "thrill of the chase" phenomenon where this woman is so "sure" that this man is "satisfied" with her that she consequently doesn't feel like "chasing" him at all. Some would say if she truly had feelings for him, the whole "chase" thing dynamics wouldn't matter at all - in fact - she would be happy that she didn't have to chase him if she really liked him.
So this is just a reminder that there is always the dichotomy of actually "having something" and the "effectiveness" of doing things the "right way." If the man "had something", then supposedly it wouldn't matter if he was "doing it right" or not. Then many would say it is a gray area with lot's of degrees about the issue of "having something" and how that interacts with "doing it right."