that your SO feels like a liability and hindrance to you guys finding a place that would tear me up inside. The thought that she could have been the breadwinner with the nice job and still get turned downed would make me even madder.
That anger with no immediate recourse is what black ppl been feeling forever.
Props to her for recognizing that the endgame is more important to the family than trying to make a statement right now, even though shes probably pissed about it.