we defintely did talk about kids in general and the raising of them for sure
but not at THAT level of granularity
neither one of us think the way we were raised is "right", per se, so the conversations have been about where the middle ground is that will define the rules for OUR house
our kids *do* have chores, with more responsibility for things as they get older with greater benefits/freedoms as a result of their success and consistency
likewise, there is a WHOLE lot more grace/mercy for failures (in my house as a kid compliance was mandatory and not meeting expectations was MAJOR)