6. "Yep." In response to In response to 4 Thu Aug-20-15 10:53 PM by denny
And here's my thoughts on that.
When the 8 year old turns 14 and starts becoming more aware of race. He might be resentful of us having him call me dad. Especially if he goes through a black nationalist type of phase. I mean, we could say 'Well it was at your insistance'....and he can respond 'I was 8 years old. You should have told me no.'
But the fact is....he can stop calling me dad whenever he wants. My SO says we should be guided by the rule 'The kids decide what they call people'. Normally i wouldn't be on board with that. But again, I'm worried that these circumstances result in a very hurt 8 year old if we say no.
I should note that the biodad's SO is also white. The kids often say something like 'Are we gonna see our white mom today?' which kinda makes me cringe...but yah. The youngest one called me 'peach denny' for the first couple months cause I have the same first name is the bio-dad.