I think you have real problems determining what behaviors, and capacities are age appropriate for a young child. This is evidenced by the fact that you thought that it was okay to bring a toddler to an adult movie screening. Others thought you were being inconsiderate, but I think you truly believe that the child should, and did have the capacity to sit there quietly and calmly. It's very common within the black community to want small children to behave like small adults, and we will punish and spank them into compliance. It seems to me that you're looking for the chemical version of that solution.