69. "i'm no lady but i've been on both sides of this one." In response to In response to 0 Tue Jun-02-15 08:41 AM by SoWhat
i've had a partner do something w/o asking first and i've done w/o asking. but in all cases the thing done was w/in the parameters which had been established before the thing was done.
like, i went in w/my fist w/o asking first. but that's b/c i knew he wanted me to fist him and we had spent the previous several minutes warming up for it and leading up to it. he wasn't ready at that moment so i removed my fist. we took a break and tried it again shortly after.
i wouldn't have tried to fist someone where i had no reason to believe they'd be into it. the same for everything else.
i rimmed a guy once who freaked about it. it was my bad - i consider that a pretty vanilla activity and we were clearly getting the deed done and had engaged in other similar activity (oral sex)...that act flowed naturally from the prior so i didn't ask him and we hadn't talked. oops. i stopped immediately and we went on and i didn't go back there again. not a big deal.
i was w/a guy who was really into spitting and he'd asked me about it and i told him i wasn't down w/it. but then he did it twice during the business (there was also another issue i won't recount here). so i ended the session. i didn't feel violated, i don't think, i was more annoyed and grossed out than anything else. i never saw him again.