43. "Me and my wife are both kinda fcked up in many ways thanks to our" In response to In response to 28
upbringing.... I mean....yeah....we turned out ok for the most part...but both of us have some pretty major issues when we sit down an analyze it. We're aware of them, and pretty aware of the source of a LOT of them now after being on the parenting side.
>from infancy, right? By making it a permission thing it >sends a message that you don't think they were good parents. >(or at least that's what my mom said lol)
I'll just say....there are many things they could have done better..... MANY things. We got a LOT of unnecessary baggage....
>because the realness is that they aren't going to follow your >rules. they aren't going to do what you write down on that >56-point checklist. they will do what works for them, what >had worked for them. They are going to spoil your kid rotten >and give ZERO fucks about it and DARE you to say something to >them about it.
Real talk...as long as she don't come home hurt, i'm good with alladat! lol....
>I never felt as small as I did when my mom LAID me OUT because >I said something to her about her grandmothering!
See....I kinda foresee this happening for us too...at least on my side. But see....my pops already be saying shit in a joking kinda way that I'm really not cool with. Like...he KNOWS our stance on spanking and shit....but he likes the joke about it and i'm so not cool with even suggesting that that's an option around her...I don't even want her knowing the concept of it until she's old enough to know that it's something we aren't practicing under our roof.
I feel you on everything you wrote though....I get it...
"Seasons may come and your luck just may run out, and all that you'll have is some memories..."