>we need to give our men more credit than this. In my
>experience, most black men are not out to impregnate the
>entire female population. Infact, most of them are good,
>decent, kindhearted brothas working on being financially
>secure and havethemselves together spiritually and
>emotionally...they are grounded. They want to love and be
>loved just like we do. So a lot of these negative views about
>black men come from propaganda and misrepresentation. The
>answer is simple...treat every black man as he is a potential
>husband...then all that other bullshit..'will he be
>faithful?'...'can he handle being with a career woman like
>myself?'...etc etc etc...all that bullshit disintegrates.

i agree...generally, if they're not up to being treated that way, they will run for the hills, trust.


>Too often, sistas wanna take the easy
>option...buying into this Western quickfix culture...they want
>a brotha who already has it made- already owns his own home,
>already has money to pay their bills, already has his own
>business, already has a nice car...I think its unfair and
>unrealistic. We need to be willing to grow with our men- lets
>support eachother! i don't mind working hard...starting from
>scratch...with very little...while we attain our mutual goals
>that will ultimately give us an abundance of all that good
>stuff.

again, agreed.

you don't have to have it ALL together. but if you have that vision and you're working towards a goal, i have no problem being right there with you.


>treat every black man as tho he is a potential husband.
>Befriend ALL types of black men...muslim brothas, young
>brothas, gay brothas, older cats. That is the best way for us
>women to get a good and fair understanding of black men...and
>before we judge them and buy into b/s propaganda, I think we
>should at least be able to say we have been open to them all.

*nods*

having been fortunate enough to have a good father in my life and knowing many sistas who don't, i think this is especially important.

you can never replace "daddy", but opening oneself to those friendships is essential if you are to grow into a good relationship in the future.

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