>1. Do we REALLY need a man, if we are financially stable, >have our own homes, already have children(or don't want any), >and I guess know how to go to Rite Aid for batteries when need >be? LOL!
I need a man, but not any man. Patience and maturity makes the difference. Though batteries may get you over that hump, it will never beat the real thing.
>2. Polygamy: should we stop "fakin' the funk", w/ all these >babydaddies, and sleepin' around w/ other people's husbands, >etc., and just say 'F*** it, we just need to go on and become >a polygamous society w/in a monagamous society-at-large'? & if >we let Brothahs do this, do you think they could handle >it(financially, emotionally & Spiritually w/o letting that Ego >run amuck)?
People don't practice polygamy (having more than one spouse), they cheat and lie, which leads to problems. It's nothing wrong with polygamy from a cultural standpoint. If it was me, my stock options, house, retirment fund, college account, and car can't be less than the other wives. Let me find out!
>3. MRS vs MS degree: is it a "worthy sacrifice" to focus on >obtaining education, career, getting your business started(or >whatever the case may be), BEFORE pursuing marriage(or >otherwise committed relationship), or possibly, at the expense >of?
I would give up my degrees, it's a way to maintain financially. But nothing is more precious than the people in our lives.
>4. OTHERS: IF it's really true that there is a shortage of >marriagable Brothahs statistically(due to the down-low<the >estimates are as high as 80% of African-American men engage in >this behavior, btw>, outright homosexuality, eternal >bachelorhood, into white women, in jail, on drugs, >blah-zay,blah-zay, blah-zay, you know the drill...), then >should we look to other types/races/ethnicities of men? If >not, then what is the solution?
That's an exageration. Women need to open to meeting all people in from various environments--we'd fair better. I'm single, and working 60 hours a week does not help.
>5. I worked in Kenya in '02, where it is believed that a >female does not become a woman until she gives birth. Agreed, >or disagreed?
Americans share that view as well. If they didn't, I wouldn't keep getting asked when I plan to have children or get that sad look from people when I tell them that I don't have children. You're a woman when you know that you're a woman.
>I'm sure there are other ponderings(Blackwomyn's issues) that >we should/could discuss/consider that I have not thought of, >w/ respect to our unique needs, in our community, that pertain >to, and effect, for the most part, us. Go ahead and add 'em >in, and see what we can come up w/.
Women should stop putting down the men in their lives and support them. I don't mean let them get away with anything either. That brother that's not doing right, let him know. If you're not taking care of your children then he doesn't deserve to move to another relationship and his boys should cut him off. Don't support any illegal activities just because you can get a pretty bauble... Be a family and a friend to one another.