>it takes alot more strength,>imo, to submit than it does to antagonize in a relationshipall i can say to that is my strength/independence should never be seen as "antagonizing".furthermore, i cannot see predicating my "protection" and "guidance" on any man outside of my father. and even that was in my childhood. as an adult, imo, my mate should serve as a complement to my full womanhood, not to "raise" me all over again.but...i ain't gonna fuss. this is VERY opposite of where i am in my thinking/relationship...and my s.o. is involved w/ the nation as well. either way, i'm glad you're happy/secure where you are. different strokes. ~~~~~*~http://omidele.blogspot.com/ ~*~