>it goes back to a little more than just what they've become. >
However, It aint where you from.... Like I said, I got 3 daughters, and I'm looking to THE FUTURE.
>and white girls have issues, too. trust.
hUH? Who doesn't?? I think you got me twisted, I think Sistas understand US more... What white woman is gonna grease his scalp, or sing along with him to songs from 'The Wiz'??
>it could be like ya setshego said...he might have just wanted >an excuse to persue white women, so he keeps going after the >same type of blk woman.
Not so. I have known him for about 10 years now... All of the woman are not the same, by far.
>or...there are some addtl considerations... > >do they want a thug 'cause they were *raised* by one (an issue >rarely discussed) or because that's what's "cool"?
>what's the general culture of the area where he lives?
We live in the South Suburbs of Chicago...So Whatever that tells ya. But now you're telling me that Black folx are geographically biased to have healthy relationships?? Come on.
> >how old is he? how old are these women? has he considered an >older woman?
27, granted most of the woman are this age or younger.... so may it be a maturity issue??
>where is he meeting them? might be better to stay out of the >club
NOPE> not a clubber, like me.....
(even "grown folks'" spots) and/or steer away from random >meetings and join w/ a group that shares his >interests...something like that.
Can't meet a quality Sista without an entourage, hmm......?
>it's been my experience that if you continually encounter the >same patterns--especially in relationships--there's something >you need to learn. or something you're not getting/haven't >healed within.
See, these Sistas are scared off either before, or after like, the first date. He arrives with a rose, or some token... they call him weird, and stop answering his calls.... some of the women I've talked to say, "Oh, he trying to hard. Chivalry is dead... I ain't trying to get all serious like that.... One chick ran after he got her flowers and a card on her birthday... She was young, however, you get my point. Seems like some Sistas can't realize when they are being respected, revered, or recognized.