69. "this is very true" In response to In response to 57 Mon Oct-24-05 11:51 AM by LexM
>But >it only makes sense to be safe. That is going to require a >total overhaul of everything our mothers told us(well, not >mine, but she's a different type of 'cookie') regarding >relationships. We can't TOTALLY "exhale" anymore. It's just >not safe.
i was always encouraged to look out for me anyway, so i guess i'm on your level with that.
>Besides, if no one has anything to hide anyway, why >not get tested together, and if you aren't trying to get >pregnant, why not continue to use condoms(even AFTER things >get serious)? I know, that's not how we are USED to doing >things. But, people are still dying out here(don't get it >twisted). We can't hold onto the old ways of doing things, AND >remain healthy. Something's gotta give.
again, very true.
sounds like we agree on the problem, but differ on tactics.
knowing that--ethnographically speaking--blk women are the most likely to stay within their race in matters of marriage and relationships, spreading (possible) bullshit that compounds the mistrust already inherent in a lot of blk relationships is NOT doing anything to solve the problem, imo. it's just making us more hateful/isolated from one another.
aside from the DL issue, there are the far more salient problems of self-esteem, mental/spiritual health, sexual/reproductive education, etc that could be focused on with the same or similar results.
e.g. love yourself = take care of yourself = less likely to deal in b.s. relationships