But in the real world we All have a great distance to go before we reach the state of what you signify as being "true." In my estimation "Whites" have a long way to go in terms of realizing their true selves (as opposed to the vicious lie that would deem them White- I go into this elsewhere) and coupling with that willfull abandonment of culture is especially dangerous for Blacks but any sister or brother also has that distance to go as well and as such its hard to quantify how far any of us have left on the path to true social enlightenement.

Its reasonable enough to say that thus far none of us have gotten there yet so quantifying how far we've come or even how much farther we've come than others doesnt really matter much.

Speaking personally there is a bond that I have with my Black girlfriend that I have never experienced before in my life- but Ive dated both black and "white" women and can say honestly that women on either side of (bullshit) race classifications are misguided and far from "true".
Even the two of us still have a great deal of ideas that are in much need of correction but to hold each other responsible for repairing those ideas is co-dependence and thats not necessarily healthy.

I think any of us will find that the idea of the "true sista" might just be too much for any person to bear- be they Black or White and I wonder if there is a difference between underestimating Black women and dating white ones or overestimating Black women and engaging in relationships that still dont work.

If Im not actively engaged in completing myself as an independent man or realizing that I am already whole- then adopting a Black woman as if she can complete me will provide a detriment to each of us reaching our full potential as people.

if a black man and a black woman only represent themselves as halves from the start then they are already diminishing their potential. Why settle for two halves making a whole when you can bring together two wholes...


The truth is we all have much much more to learn about ourselves and to stall that development to consider how far others have come will not be fortuitous in your personal development even if its for teh sake of loving a sista who you might think will fulfill your life. The twisted psychological baggage of teh people around you is just as bottomless as your own- it may soothe you to peer down into their idiosynchracies but you might just be better off repairing your own.

If you are somehow not complete today you will continue to be incomplete when you take on a partner even if culturally you presume that they share in your identity. By taking on someone else's half you only sacrifice your potential of being independently and individually whole.


K