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>I personally don't believe in it. Simply put, I think it's >a bunch of bullshit designed to make women feel inadequate, >dependent on men, and spend shitloads of money on things >that have no intrinsic value, other than to feed into a >fucked up notion of romance. > >About the whole "love see no color" thang: I don't buy it. >Racial dynamics informs EVERY SINGLE component of modern >western society. Somehow, when it comes to dating and sex, >people suddenly are able to "transcend race". Bullshit. >Mu'fuckas ain't racially transcendent when they on juries, >or giving bank loans, or hiring new employees, or building >prisons. But race suddenly don't matter when it comes to >gettin ass? Yeah, right.
You know, I agree with all of this in a certain context. However, I think it is possible to find similar interests in people of other races depending on the social dynamic in which you meet them in. I am a persian male and I have never dated any persian women because I havn't shared any similar interests with any persian women that I have met. In Vancouver, most persian women that I have met come from an elite, pro-monarchy background and are against my conceptions of a classless world. On the other hand, while I was involved in a third world alliance organization I dated a black woman who shared a lot of political interests with me and although we found many points of disagreement, we essentially saw things eye to eye. I've dated a white woman who I had the same experience with while fighting in a social justice group. I've dated a Chilean woman who enriched my life in so many ways while we both worked together in a Palestinian liberation group. Right now, I am dating a Puerto Rican Marxist woman that I met in a political conference in Mexico (long-distance relationship) -she is intellectual on the same wave as I am. While I can understand the barriers to interracial dating in the context that you are speaking, I don't think you can broadly indict the whole practice altogether. Maybe it is an American thing, I guess the problem of segregation is a lot worse in the US and we are therefore coming from different points of view. I seems to me that in this anomolous land of the US, the idea of segregation is so deeply ingrained in the social consciousness of that society that people seem to get stuck in such narrow definitions of themselves. Especially for those who havn't gone far from home, there seems to this narrow and confined definition of the self as defined by the narrow and confined social borders that they are forced to live within.
For me, interracial dating has never been an issue because from day 1 I have never been accepted by any racial group or ethnicity. I have been marginalized by all these groups, including "my own" and have therefore been forced to create bonds based on very different premises. If I were to follow the race formula, I would have ended up a wretched and lonely hermit. Perhaps then, my own thoughts on humanity stem from the fact that my own identity has been a product of international forces rather than any cultural, racial or ethnic ties. I am happy about this though because I feel as though I am more liberated as a social being than most other people.
******************************************** "If you think you're too small to make a difference, try sleeping in a closed room with a mosquito."
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