your last point was important because its true. There are a lot of us that don't feel like dealing with caucasians in our leisure time. The general feeling is that they change the vibe of every event they attend in mass, in part because we often feel like we can't be ourselves when they are around. It touches on all these "what will they think" posts. nobody wants to be an example all the time & that is a constant pressure when you're a black person in a mixed/predominantly white setting.