24. "Need for Love is Undisputed but" In response to In response to 20
Dove, what is it about this topic that you "hate" so....it's not unlike any other "controversial" topic... what's so different about this one?
I think the ideas being tossed around here are just as they are anywhere else on the boards.
No one is disputing that children need love. I beleive that we all agree that its a catch 22. But love is the greatest factor. But let me ask you this: Did Phillip Drummond try and immerse Willis and Arnold in their culture? And although I know this was a fictional show, my point is that he illustrated a loving care-giver. Yet, I don't remember seeing him trying to keep them connected with their people.
So, I use that example as another facet of our discussion.....would Willis & Arnold have got "immersion" had then been adopted by a Black family? I think so.
So, then should we leave our Black babies un-cared for because of the color of their skin. I say no. But whomever the caregivers are they ARE MANDATED out of love to let that baby know who he or she is - immenently...culturally. And I think those exercises require a conscious kind of love.
And lastly, and Dove be honest (as I feel you will) do you think you would have more success adopting a Black baby than I would a caucasion one?
And Dove, it's allllll love, Gurl. Nothing personal at all....Let's just have some honest dialouge. OK?