I read the quote attributed to Jill Scott regarding "if you are dating someone who doesn't look like your Mama you are doing something wrong." on the boards this morning. Now being an official cardholding member of the "you gotta get her album," club of Jill Scott's it disapointed me a bit, but her personal views are just that, personal.
Now if her views on race are reflected in her music, I suppose I would have to stop and think. I always thought race-mixing was a sin, I would have stood, along with my Malcolm X portrait tattooed on my arm, and testified when Jilly from Philly made that comment a year or so ago. To paraphrase Malcolm, "you have a cup of hot black coffee, and it is powerful, but when you add sugar and cream to that black coffee, it weakens and sooner or later, it isn't coffee anymore.
I began dating the sweetest cup of black coffee about 4 months ago, she was a friend for over a year prior to that. I was reluctant to make a move to pursue the relationship. Because when I looked at this girl, I didn't see my Mama.
However, the more I hung around this girl the more I saw my Mama in her. I saw a compassionate woman, who loved me, for who I was, unconditionally. Now we all know regardless of race that is some shit that just doesn't grow on trees. We have had or struggles due to race. Even in the culturally diverse metropolis of New york City. We get the stares, comments and shit that only love can overcome. As my girlfriend says, "We don't match, but we fit."
Now being a journalist myself I know never to believe what I read. I heard Common was a racist before I met him, he was nothing but courteous and offered encouraging words of wisdom when i approached him with a problem we both had shared. I've met Black Thought a few times and he is known to "dis" fans, who proudly detail it on this site. Well I got nothing but love each time. Shit, I even interviewed the recently deseased Khalid Muhammad, now while I can't say he showed the love that the two previously mentioned brothers did, he certainly wasn't the blood-sucking man the media painted him to be.
I seemed to have digressed. All I'm saying is that love is love, regardless of who shares it. My girlfriend looks like my Mama on the inside, and that is what counts to me. Shit, I don't want to kiss a girl with all my Mom's wrinkles anyway. peace

FXS