>My child support was adjusted a
>few weeks ago. I
>have one son and love
>him like any REAL father
>would. My child support
>went up from 230 a
>month to 617 a month.

this happen to 2 guys i know my boyfriend and bestfriend.
one pays 600 the other 650!



> Soon after we
>separated she met someone else,
>married him and moved to
>another state.
at this point you should have contacted a lawyer!

She did
>not give me an address.
> Needless to say I
>could not offer any type
>of support to my son
>after this.

if you gonna do the right thing you gotta be ahead of the game.
get a lawyer and get custody at this time!

She then
>wrote a letter to Domestic
>Relations detailing my lack of
>support.

she you thught she wouldnt do it but you should have done it first.

I was labled
>a dead-beat father and issued
>a court date.

All men are labeled dead beat no matter if they pay or not. It is not fair!

On
>this day they determined my
>obligation to Jacob. I
>had no problem with it
>as I wanted more than
>anything to be able to
>support my son even if
>only monetarily. I agreed
>to the amount but noticed
>when the judge asked Nicole
>her address that she stated
>she still lived in Maryland.
> I did not bring
>this up however as I
>was already labled the bad
>guy.

thats where you went wrong.

Since then I
>have had my obligation adjusted
>(increased) from 115 bi-weekly to
>617 a month.

thats alot

I am
>only making one dollar more
>per hour than when it
>was originally determined.

get a lawyer!!! NOW!

They
>added in the cost of
>daycare which I am now
>paying for 100%. I
>make 57% of our combined
>income. I was Also
>told that I would need
>to provide health insurance if
>my job offers it.

what about her???


>Unless it was "unreasonable".
>The lady went on to
>explain that "unreasonable" had no
>clear cut definition but the
>way she had always determined
>it was that if the
>health insurance cost interfered with
>my child support obligation it
>would be "unreasonable". Meaning
>if I made say $550
>dollars a month and my
>obligation was $500, with health
>insurance being $49, well that
>is reasonable according to the
>State, even though it would
>leave me with only $1
>a month. I recently
>lost my job and after
>about 2 weeks recieved a
>letter telling me that my
>license was going to be
>suspended for failure to pay
>my child support.

LAWYER!!!

I
>assumed that if I was
>making no money my 57%
>of our income would now
>be 0%. Of course
>I was wrong. However
>it is interesting to note
>that if Nicole loses her
>job my obligation would go
>up, she would also not
>have her license suspended.
Where do you live?


>I find it odd that
>my child support comes out
>of my check before I
>ever see it, yet Nicole's
>43% is not in any
>way regulated by any government
>agency.

cuz she has Full Custody!! Get your rights daddy!

If she loses
>her job it is ok
>but if I lose mine
>I am a dead beat
>dad. I also think
>it is odd that the
>government requires no reciepts or
>proof that my support is
>going to Jacob. I
>was told that even if
>Nicole used the money to
>pay for her rent since
>Jacob lives with her it
>would be considered legal.
What about her husband? whats the hell is he doing? living off your money too!? this really makes me mad. my sons dad dont do shit and here you are paying for ya baby mama and her husband to live!


>Well does that apply to
>her car payment and HER
>clothes and HER food also,
>because none of that was
>considered when determining my obligation.
> I have to pay
>rent, I have a car
>and I need to eat.
LAWYER!! NOW!


> Without these things I
>would die, and thus be
>unable to pay my child
>support or ever hope of
>spending time with Jacob.
>I love my son and
>want what is best for
>him like any father would,
>but not at the expense
>of my own life.
Child support should never leave you with nothing. they are supposed to take into consideration your expenses! What stste are you in? You need to get a Lawyer!


>I just want to be
>treated fairly. So far
>I have not been.
>Nicole's job offers Health insurance
>why is she not obligated
>to pay for it....or at
>least pay her 47% of
>it. What about daycare
>why am I paying the
>full cost? Also if
>while watching Jacob one day
>I met a woman and
>decided to get married to
>her and move to alaska....I
>would then be guilty of
>kidnapping

depends who has custody?

well what about the
>fact that she did exactly
>that and suffered no legal
>action what-so-ever.

thats your fault cuz you keep ya mouth shut!
im tellin you as a man you cannot keep ya mouth shut. Speak the hell up. I have seen this happen to a good handful of brothers who are doing the right thing!

I feel
>this system needs to be
>re-evaluated on the grounds that
>it is biased against fathers,
I agree!


>and only works to bring
>the MOTHER into a meaningful,
>carefree and LUCRATIVE relationship with
>the child. WIC? What
>happened to Men and Infant
>Children? Why am I
>a dead-beat father.....for not sending
>money to my sons GRANDMOTHER
>who was the only address
>I had when Nicole moved?!!?!?

it still would not have mattered if the courts dont have record it dont count so if the judge asked you that she fuckin playin head games!

> How do they figure
>I'll find a new job
>with no license.

see you gotta geta lawyer. You NEED a car for work it is necessity!

Just
>some things to ponder.
>
>I would like to add that
>Nicole told my son the
>guy she married was his
>father and that I am
>just a friend of hers.

WHAT THE FUCK????? and you havent said nothing??? do you have visitation? get a LAWYER i know you aint got money but there are ones who will not charge until the case is settled!
Stand up dammit!

> When I have to
>discipline him it makes me
>feel like an asshole, cause
>he's like "who the hell
>does this guy think he
>is....wait till I tell my
>dad"...you know. How can
>I tell a 5 year
>old that I am his
>dad and that his mom
>lied to him....I can't.....man,

Tell him look im ya dad! simple. trust me he'll start asking. why would he be alone with you with out her? why you do things for him? he gonna start asking her and he gonna figure it out children are not dumb!

Im sorry how could you sit by and let her do this? yes you let her where is ya fuckin back bone man? and she gonna tell the child you aint his dad? did you tell the judge that? they will ask the child outside the court if that is true.
How can you let them take food out ya mouth and you not say nothing? if you feel you aint got a voice get a voice for you!!!
Nicole did this cuz she knew she could....she knew you wasnt gonna put up a fight. And to go as far as deny the child the truth as to who is father is shows she knew she could get away with it, she knew you would never say nothing.
You better play her game and get ya money right and ya life right and the right to tell that child you his dad.

stop fuckin playin and get a fuckin lawyer hell start by sending out a copy of this post you put up. They will help you get money from her ass!!!

Im really pissed cuz many of guys i know are doing the right thing by there kids. My son will be 7 and his dad dont do shit!
then there are the women who can only get $70 dollars a month based off of the mans mcdonalds job. at least thats how it is in the commonwealth state of Pennsylvania.

GET A FUCKIN LAWYER!!!