What I wrote was based on observing my father and his relationships with women. Not every women who is with a financially secure man or feels that they are incomplete without a man are in abusive relationships. But combine these things with a few others and I feel it's a formula for abuse.

Note: My father often rejected me or refused to support me when I wanted to do something he did not agree with, especially when I decided to leave my hometown. However, he was there (a negative and positive presence) when I was a child. As a adult, he contacts me every few years and sometimes we meet up some place.

"Know thyself"

"Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, "I will never leave you or forsake you". So we may boldly say, "The Lord is my helper, I will not fear. What can man do to me?"
-- Hebrews 13:5,6

"There is a difference between knowing the path and walking the path"
--Morpheus in "The Matrix"

"It's our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities"- Dumbledore to Harry Potter "Chamber of Secrets"

<--- Blame this lady for Nutty.