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33. "the paradox of stitting in ignorance..."
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moving forward, and changing one's thought process

I think everyone here has made some very valid points. And to put some more substantial backing to my words, I'm gonna give a small bit of a personal experience. My mother for years used to criticize me for wanting to wear what in my opinion were comfy clothes (e.g. jeans, t-shirts, sweats). It was until I got to my undergrad institution that I was able to develop appreciation for me and not live underneath that oppressive rock of someone else's (who is very dear to me mind you) standards. Even now as a grad student, I must make myself remember who am I for me and not someone else. It's hard not to be influenced by external stimuli as Alek has pointed out. But also, as guerilla love pointed out, it's possible to change your outlook on self. You just have to have patience with yourself and your process/progress. I won't lie and act like there aren't times that I'm not self-conscious about myself but I do think I do a good job of putting that *ish* back on the shelf by saying "I love me completely now". yeah, I know..sounds kinda Iyanla Vanzant-like but it works, ya heard? Sorry if I piggy-backed too much.

peace and blessings!

Lidawg


"I know that loving you don't make no sense. I guess that's why I like it."--Res

"Afraid is a country with no exit visa."--Audre Lorde

  

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standards and inadequacy [View all] , guerilla_love, Mon Jul-23-01 04:25 AM
 
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having said that,
Jul 23rd 2001
1
you know what I'm going to say...
Jul 23rd 2001
20
      try this:
Jul 23rd 2001
22
           know what puts me in a good mood?
Jul 23rd 2001
25
                i'm glad u're taken
Jul 24th 2001
26
True
Jul 23rd 2001
2
rgv said it best
Jul 23rd 2001
3
ANother Perspective
Jul 23rd 2001
4
      vanity?
Jul 23rd 2001
5
get over self-consciousness?
Jul 23rd 2001
6
i'm not talkin abt a group mind
Jul 23rd 2001
7
RE: standards and inadequacy
liviti
Jul 23rd 2001
8
RE: standards and inadequacy
Jul 23rd 2001
9
      RE: standards and inadequacy
liviti
Jul 23rd 2001
10
           RE: standards and inadequacy
Jul 23rd 2001
11
                RE: standards and inadequacy
liviti
Jul 23rd 2001
12
                     RE: standards and inadequacy
Jul 23rd 2001
13
                          RE: standards and inadequacy
liviti
Jul 23rd 2001
14
                               i don't have children yet
Jul 23rd 2001
15
                                    RE: i don't have children yet
liviti
Jul 23rd 2001
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                                         the point
Jul 23rd 2001
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                                              RE: the point
liviti
Jul 23rd 2001
18
                                                   where's yr whip, baby?
Jul 23rd 2001
19
you're very very right.
Jul 23rd 2001
21
strategy
Jul 23rd 2001
23
      I'm no moron...
Jul 23rd 2001
24
           did u see the beauty post?
Jul 24th 2001
27
                also...
Jul 26th 2001
28
                     it's just sad
Jul 26th 2001
29
                          well, yeah....
Jul 27th 2001
30
                              
RE: standards and inadequacy
Jul 27th 2001
31
where have u been all my life?
Jul 27th 2001
32

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